So, things have really kicked in for me in a lot of ways. I often make choices that I think will benefit me, but I am not asking God if it is for the best so I end up making a choice that backfires on me. Life is about learning, but life is also about listening to those around you, and when we, okay, when I, go against what people say because I feel they won't understand, God is really testing me to determine if I can listen to him and sadly, I do not obey as much as I should and that is not good. So growing up is hard but it has to happen no matter what, and change is a part of life, we have to accept it despite how we think or feel. Situations do not make a person, if you decide to be something, or do something, make sure you know why you are doing it, and to make sure it is for the best, not because you think it will make you happy. I love my family, and all the support they give, but growing up we all had a different life even though we are from the same family, Age does make a difference when making choices and it is hard to hang with those who are either older or younger, what we need to make sure is that we keep each other in check but in a positive way. I am grateful that I am assured by family how incredible I am because sometimes it is tough and you get angry and upset and you end up doing things that you regret, but to know who I am and the faith my family has in my makes me feel and know how loved I am and to never go against their advice. Listen to those closest to you!!!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, December 19, 2011
Finish What You Start
I was just going over some blog posts and I had not realized that I do not finish what I start. For example, I will start a poem, and will leave it for weeks, or I will start a blog, and leave it forgetting it is there...So my goal is to finish what I start. Or at least to remember to go back to it. I have so many short stories that never got finished...Not good. So, this blog is short, and also to remind those that if you start something, don't forget about it.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, December 5, 2011
FBW
I'm sure you can figure out what the title stands for.
This was a FB status I made just before I made the blog.
"Women need to stop accepting the "Friends With Benefits Package", you don't deserve a standard or mediocre friendship/relationship where you give him what he wants, what about you. Always remind yourself you are worth much more than what he's willing to give, and remind him you aren't settling for less, benefits come after he has worked to keep you, just like a job, keep him on probation till he puts a ring on it. Yup, I said it."
Time and time again men have convinced women with their bodies instead of their hearts to be with them. Women who come from good homes, run into guys who use their charm, and a nice little hobby, like singing or poetry, or even books to give a woman the impression he's the commitment type, but we all know that that is how he gets women. He'll sweet talk her, have a good convo, than find a way to make her laugh smile, knowing in his body, "This one's easy." Sadly, women fall for it, but I have learned that being strong makes a huge difference, and I am glad to know I will not be another stereotype and let myself fall for someone that won't even be there 100% for me. Days after this post, since sometimes I start my blogs but do not finish, I find myself with a new sight towards my idea. There were some comments that made me really see that some women do just want something physical, while some want the real deal. And if you choose a short term, I have no right to judge, because you know exactly what you are doing, and why. You know where you are and you have decided to accept the present. If I ever offended anyone regarding my post, my apologies, I am just sharing how I feel about things, and I feel that women should not settle for less.
Hey, that's just my thought, everyone thinks differently.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
This was a FB status I made just before I made the blog.
"Women need to stop accepting the "Friends With Benefits Package", you don't deserve a standard or mediocre friendship/relationship where you give him what he wants, what about you. Always remind yourself you are worth much more than what he's willing to give, and remind him you aren't settling for less, benefits come after he has worked to keep you, just like a job, keep him on probation till he puts a ring on it. Yup, I said it."
Time and time again men have convinced women with their bodies instead of their hearts to be with them. Women who come from good homes, run into guys who use their charm, and a nice little hobby, like singing or poetry, or even books to give a woman the impression he's the commitment type, but we all know that that is how he gets women. He'll sweet talk her, have a good convo, than find a way to make her laugh smile, knowing in his body, "This one's easy." Sadly, women fall for it, but I have learned that being strong makes a huge difference, and I am glad to know I will not be another stereotype and let myself fall for someone that won't even be there 100% for me. Days after this post, since sometimes I start my blogs but do not finish, I find myself with a new sight towards my idea. There were some comments that made me really see that some women do just want something physical, while some want the real deal. And if you choose a short term, I have no right to judge, because you know exactly what you are doing, and why. You know where you are and you have decided to accept the present. If I ever offended anyone regarding my post, my apologies, I am just sharing how I feel about things, and I feel that women should not settle for less.
Hey, that's just my thought, everyone thinks differently.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
FourTraits
http://www.christianhusbands.org/writings/responsibility.html
The bible talks about there being a particular type of woman that men should want to marry, and it made me think, there must be one about men, so I looked it up on google and that is where I found the link posted above. Men talk so much about the type of woman they want, how she should be, dress, traits they want her to have, etc but I have always wondered about men, and what to look for, and this changes everything.
There are four areas that men need to have in order to make a good Christian man, and if looking for more, a good Christian husband. I thought it was really neat and informative, and of course I went to the bible to find out more information, and I think it is great how when you want to know something, the bible is there for you to find it. Sometimes its in a hidden message but you have to dig to find it. Proverbs 31:10 talks about the type of woman, a woman of virtue, which sadly these days its hard to find, but we are out there. So, the main point of this blog is to emphasize to men, to please, do not think you cannot hold these traits that God declares all men should have, if you are expecting your woman, the one you want to be with to have the traits you want, loving, caring, strong, ambitious, and can hold things down when you cannot, you need to be able to do the same for her. It is not about one person when it comes to relationships, just know that both parties need attention, and the right kind goes a long way. You cannot demand a man to be like this, but you can encourage him to be a better person if you notice he is straying. Okay, I wont make it a long blog, I am working on my blogs being shorter than normal. Work in Progress.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
The bible talks about there being a particular type of woman that men should want to marry, and it made me think, there must be one about men, so I looked it up on google and that is where I found the link posted above. Men talk so much about the type of woman they want, how she should be, dress, traits they want her to have, etc but I have always wondered about men, and what to look for, and this changes everything.
There are four areas that men need to have in order to make a good Christian man, and if looking for more, a good Christian husband. I thought it was really neat and informative, and of course I went to the bible to find out more information, and I think it is great how when you want to know something, the bible is there for you to find it. Sometimes its in a hidden message but you have to dig to find it. Proverbs 31:10 talks about the type of woman, a woman of virtue, which sadly these days its hard to find, but we are out there. So, the main point of this blog is to emphasize to men, to please, do not think you cannot hold these traits that God declares all men should have, if you are expecting your woman, the one you want to be with to have the traits you want, loving, caring, strong, ambitious, and can hold things down when you cannot, you need to be able to do the same for her. It is not about one person when it comes to relationships, just know that both parties need attention, and the right kind goes a long way. You cannot demand a man to be like this, but you can encourage him to be a better person if you notice he is straying. Okay, I wont make it a long blog, I am working on my blogs being shorter than normal. Work in Progress.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
ABG turns ABW
Check out this link: http://www.bullyingcanada.ca/index.php, and this on: http://www.redcross.ca/article.asp?id=24700&tid=108, and last one: http://www.stopabully.ca/
So this is part two of my response. But it is no longer bout being an Awkward Black Girl, the title has changed to an Angry Black Woman but for a reason. This time, it's not about men.
A week ago I came across a gossip site which brought the attention of two suicides. Two young girls has both hung themselves because they were both bullied in school. This drew my attention because I was bullied when I was in high school., not as badly when I was younger, but in High School it was all about who was more popular, who could afford this and that, and who was prettier. Most times I never made either list and i was happy, because I did not care. But I look back now and I kept it together. My sisters helped me change a lot about myself at the same time encouraging me to love who I was. Being different made you an easy target for bullying and my hope and prayer is that more people will take a stand and stand with their kids. If your kids refuses to get out of bed, there is a problem. Do not ignore it, do something about it. Your child is your responsibility, not the schools. Last year while I was working I had to spend two weeks with my cousins because their parents and mine and gone out of the country for a family event. My sister joined me a couple of days later. While at work I got phone call telling me about an incident involving my younger cousin at school. I froze, and kept myself from losing my mind. Not knowing how to help her or what to do I took time to breathe. If this is what a parent goes through when it comes to handling these types of problems, I hope I did the right thing. I ask what happened, asked how my lil girl was doing, and told my sister thanks for letting me know, and she explained that other family had stepped in as well. I could have left but there was someone closer to her than me, and I knew I probably would not have been much help. Kids are cruel. What happened to my cousin could have beat her up emotionally but she is a strong person and has a big heart. She made it through fine, but I know it wasn't easy. Kids showed up at her home threatening her and I got concerned. Her older sister had to pick her up from school to make sure she was not picked on or hurt anymore. That is why I love my family. They will stand beside each other know matter what.
So now the world is accepting people who are different, and it's about time we stopped hurting others. I know that when one bullies another, it is because the one doing the bullying is not getting enough love at home, and needs an outlet, so they find the easiest, softest target and shoot away. I don't want to sound violent but bullying has gone too far, and there should be a law against it otherwise we will lose more youth, and parents will never recover from burying their child.
It all starts at home. Look at the Columbine Shootings, those kids were messed up, the Dawson College shooting in Montreal, it breaks my heart to think about the issues going on in families...I wish I could wish it all away but we know that won't happen, but we should do something.
We need to do more, what more can be done?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
So this is part two of my response. But it is no longer bout being an Awkward Black Girl, the title has changed to an Angry Black Woman but for a reason. This time, it's not about men.
A week ago I came across a gossip site which brought the attention of two suicides. Two young girls has both hung themselves because they were both bullied in school. This drew my attention because I was bullied when I was in high school., not as badly when I was younger, but in High School it was all about who was more popular, who could afford this and that, and who was prettier. Most times I never made either list and i was happy, because I did not care. But I look back now and I kept it together. My sisters helped me change a lot about myself at the same time encouraging me to love who I was. Being different made you an easy target for bullying and my hope and prayer is that more people will take a stand and stand with their kids. If your kids refuses to get out of bed, there is a problem. Do not ignore it, do something about it. Your child is your responsibility, not the schools. Last year while I was working I had to spend two weeks with my cousins because their parents and mine and gone out of the country for a family event. My sister joined me a couple of days later. While at work I got phone call telling me about an incident involving my younger cousin at school. I froze, and kept myself from losing my mind. Not knowing how to help her or what to do I took time to breathe. If this is what a parent goes through when it comes to handling these types of problems, I hope I did the right thing. I ask what happened, asked how my lil girl was doing, and told my sister thanks for letting me know, and she explained that other family had stepped in as well. I could have left but there was someone closer to her than me, and I knew I probably would not have been much help. Kids are cruel. What happened to my cousin could have beat her up emotionally but she is a strong person and has a big heart. She made it through fine, but I know it wasn't easy. Kids showed up at her home threatening her and I got concerned. Her older sister had to pick her up from school to make sure she was not picked on or hurt anymore. That is why I love my family. They will stand beside each other know matter what.
So now the world is accepting people who are different, and it's about time we stopped hurting others. I know that when one bullies another, it is because the one doing the bullying is not getting enough love at home, and needs an outlet, so they find the easiest, softest target and shoot away. I don't want to sound violent but bullying has gone too far, and there should be a law against it otherwise we will lose more youth, and parents will never recover from burying their child.
It all starts at home. Look at the Columbine Shootings, those kids were messed up, the Dawson College shooting in Montreal, it breaks my heart to think about the issues going on in families...I wish I could wish it all away but we know that won't happen, but we should do something.
We need to do more, what more can be done?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Saturday, November 26, 2011
ABGResponse
Part One
I have struggled with this blog for a while now, and I have decided to do it in parts because this hits close to home.
I was born in Zambia, left when I was a year and a half, I spent the first ten years of my life in the valley, Annapolis. I went to school there, church, I had a while life there. I lived amongst my friends, my neighbors and I all went to the same school, we all got alone, and my race was never an issue. Than when I was in my last year of grade five, my dad accepted a position to be a pastor at a church in the city so the whole family moved to the city. I did not like the city. I loved the valley, that was my home, but change is a part of life, so off we went. We landed in the city, lived in a couple of homes before the final move to Cole Harbor the year I was in grade eight. Since than we never moved again. I explain this because it is relevant to my post. While in school, I stuck out because I was different. In elementary school my sisters and I were the only black students besides a few mixed race kids. At this time, none of that mattered. But once we hit the city, race became an issue. I had been surrounded by Caucasians my whole life, and now being thrown into a a new setting with Black Nova Scotians, and other diverse cultures, it made me see that there was more to life than the life I had previously. I did not fit in at all, it took me a while to settle in, but I was able to make friends. I had different friends circles. Some days I would sit with one group, other times, I sat with some nerds, but often I just kinda went with the crowd. I cannot remember everything to detail, but I know I had trouble keeping friends. I don't remember much about junior high school, but high school was where I finally came into my own skin, and started to really discover who I was. I was a part of groups that allowed me to express who I was, even if I did not know what to do most of the time. I love to dance but am not a dancer...I had been writing though, short stories, poems, random thoughts. High school was when the awkwardness came out. First year, I had my own way of doing things, and that made me a target for bullying. It never got out of hand, but it made me feel more aware of myself. The names I was called were never bitter names but the fact that complete strangers though that they could say stuff, I am not sure if they were tempting or provoking a fight to see what I would do, but I never fought back. I was told if I had nothing nice to say, not to say anything at all. So I kept quiet. Over time , I grew more of a back bone and was able to really stand up for my self more. Being awkward is not fun, or at least back than it wasn't, but now, I am learning to embrace who I am, and accepting my self for who I am because loving my self is more important than please people who do not know me or appreciate other personalities. The road does not get any easier, but it will be better for yourself, like me, to just accept who you are instead of trying to be someone else for someone else.
Check back for Part Two:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have struggled with this blog for a while now, and I have decided to do it in parts because this hits close to home.
I was born in Zambia, left when I was a year and a half, I spent the first ten years of my life in the valley, Annapolis. I went to school there, church, I had a while life there. I lived amongst my friends, my neighbors and I all went to the same school, we all got alone, and my race was never an issue. Than when I was in my last year of grade five, my dad accepted a position to be a pastor at a church in the city so the whole family moved to the city. I did not like the city. I loved the valley, that was my home, but change is a part of life, so off we went. We landed in the city, lived in a couple of homes before the final move to Cole Harbor the year I was in grade eight. Since than we never moved again. I explain this because it is relevant to my post. While in school, I stuck out because I was different. In elementary school my sisters and I were the only black students besides a few mixed race kids. At this time, none of that mattered. But once we hit the city, race became an issue. I had been surrounded by Caucasians my whole life, and now being thrown into a a new setting with Black Nova Scotians, and other diverse cultures, it made me see that there was more to life than the life I had previously. I did not fit in at all, it took me a while to settle in, but I was able to make friends. I had different friends circles. Some days I would sit with one group, other times, I sat with some nerds, but often I just kinda went with the crowd. I cannot remember everything to detail, but I know I had trouble keeping friends. I don't remember much about junior high school, but high school was where I finally came into my own skin, and started to really discover who I was. I was a part of groups that allowed me to express who I was, even if I did not know what to do most of the time. I love to dance but am not a dancer...I had been writing though, short stories, poems, random thoughts. High school was when the awkwardness came out. First year, I had my own way of doing things, and that made me a target for bullying. It never got out of hand, but it made me feel more aware of myself. The names I was called were never bitter names but the fact that complete strangers though that they could say stuff, I am not sure if they were tempting or provoking a fight to see what I would do, but I never fought back. I was told if I had nothing nice to say, not to say anything at all. So I kept quiet. Over time , I grew more of a back bone and was able to really stand up for my self more. Being awkward is not fun, or at least back than it wasn't, but now, I am learning to embrace who I am, and accepting my self for who I am because loving my self is more important than please people who do not know me or appreciate other personalities. The road does not get any easier, but it will be better for yourself, like me, to just accept who you are instead of trying to be someone else for someone else.
Check back for Part Two:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Friday, November 18, 2011
IndependentOrDependent/Communicate
http://www.essence.com/2011/11/17/real-talk-tyrese-says-you-need-a-man/
So....Black ...women are in this conversation more than any other race that I know of...That I have read of. You see, Black women do love their Black men, but we have a very big communication problem. Black women would prefer that their man come already trained to help out in the kitchen, help around the house, pick up the kids, contribute, and eventually, marry the woman they have shared a few years with. Instead, we have Black couples divorcing after such a short period of time. Divorcing after a year or two, and all we can ask is, "Why go through with it knowing it's for life, and your not sure?" Eva Longoria married Tony Parker and they divorced, but he did cheat. However, vows do say through thick and thin. I'm not saying forgive him right away, but he has to know he did wrong, pay for it, and find a way to gain your trust back. For celebrities its worse. Now a days the B-ball players just want to have fun, they don't care if they are married or not. The wives know what they are getting into. It's all about the money in the end. Whether they fight the press about it for years, we know money is the reason most B-ball players find those wives who just want access into clubs, booze, and to be flown all over the world wearing hideous looking clothes they think are gorgeous. But the real deal is within our own people. A good Black woman will show her man she appreciates him. But the Black man needs to stop being pampered 24/7 and pamper her back. Your wife does NOT replace your mother. You need to get that out if your head. Be the man, you have a job to, and its more than to just bring home the bacon. Dating outside the race has always been a problem, but now the topic is just out of hand. Movies such as "Something New" Which showed that no matter how for you are for your own man, he could be successful, gorgeous, have it all, but he could be boring as anything and just want to be at home and work. That is boring. So she went for the White guy because he made her laugh, smile, and was outgoing. People stared, and whispered, but who cares???????? Why do us girls, Black girls care so much about what people think about us? Do they pay your bills? They are just jealous because you found a good man who will honor you for life. Nobody else matters except for the people you pick. Family will always support you even if they do not like the choice you make. It's their job to stand behind you because in the end, all family want is for you to be happy.
Now I kinda went a bit off track, so to come back to my title...Women have leaned on men for decades until we were given rights to vote, work, and do other things. Now, we want to be independent, bu the man wants us to lean on him. It can get messy but if you just sit and talk things out with your spouse, it's not as hard as you make it out to be. Honesty is a good policy. If you do not learn to trust in you relationship, you will struggle with everything else and life is too short. Let him spoil you, let him treat you, no harm in that. But talk about things in a calm and respectful manner without yelling and trying to hurt each other.
Loving is so important yet this world would rather us kill each other. Let's not do that. Treasure life, communicate in a decent manner, and learn to be open, kind, and respectful.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
So....Black ...women are in this conversation more than any other race that I know of...That I have read of. You see, Black women do love their Black men, but we have a very big communication problem. Black women would prefer that their man come already trained to help out in the kitchen, help around the house, pick up the kids, contribute, and eventually, marry the woman they have shared a few years with. Instead, we have Black couples divorcing after such a short period of time. Divorcing after a year or two, and all we can ask is, "Why go through with it knowing it's for life, and your not sure?" Eva Longoria married Tony Parker and they divorced, but he did cheat. However, vows do say through thick and thin. I'm not saying forgive him right away, but he has to know he did wrong, pay for it, and find a way to gain your trust back. For celebrities its worse. Now a days the B-ball players just want to have fun, they don't care if they are married or not. The wives know what they are getting into. It's all about the money in the end. Whether they fight the press about it for years, we know money is the reason most B-ball players find those wives who just want access into clubs, booze, and to be flown all over the world wearing hideous looking clothes they think are gorgeous. But the real deal is within our own people. A good Black woman will show her man she appreciates him. But the Black man needs to stop being pampered 24/7 and pamper her back. Your wife does NOT replace your mother. You need to get that out if your head. Be the man, you have a job to, and its more than to just bring home the bacon. Dating outside the race has always been a problem, but now the topic is just out of hand. Movies such as "Something New" Which showed that no matter how for you are for your own man, he could be successful, gorgeous, have it all, but he could be boring as anything and just want to be at home and work. That is boring. So she went for the White guy because he made her laugh, smile, and was outgoing. People stared, and whispered, but who cares???????? Why do us girls, Black girls care so much about what people think about us? Do they pay your bills? They are just jealous because you found a good man who will honor you for life. Nobody else matters except for the people you pick. Family will always support you even if they do not like the choice you make. It's their job to stand behind you because in the end, all family want is for you to be happy.
Now I kinda went a bit off track, so to come back to my title...Women have leaned on men for decades until we were given rights to vote, work, and do other things. Now, we want to be independent, bu the man wants us to lean on him. It can get messy but if you just sit and talk things out with your spouse, it's not as hard as you make it out to be. Honesty is a good policy. If you do not learn to trust in you relationship, you will struggle with everything else and life is too short. Let him spoil you, let him treat you, no harm in that. But talk about things in a calm and respectful manner without yelling and trying to hurt each other.
Loving is so important yet this world would rather us kill each other. Let's not do that. Treasure life, communicate in a decent manner, and learn to be open, kind, and respectful.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
BlessedBeyondBelief/YetBodyBreakingDown
As grateful as I am for the fact that four companies want to hire me, the process literally had me almost asleep at the wheel the past few days. I had four job interviews in two days. Three women's stores want to hire me by the end of the week...I have been job hunting for the past nine months so I am grateful for the positive outcomes happening now, but it's been a toll on the body. What do I do?? (in shock, face in hands). The past few days had me thinking to myself, we spend so much time trying to impress people, give the right answers, find the right job, spending hours doing so many things that by the time we are done, our body shuts down and that is not good. It is required that we get 8 hours of sleep so out body can rest, relax, cleanse from the day, and re-energize in order to be fresh and enthusiastic for the next day. Why not sleep, and work all night? If it doesn't get done, tell your boss to go somewhere (seriously, you are only human) If he thinks you can perform miracles in an eight hour work day he must think he hired superman. We only have on superman...You have 24 hours in a day. Nobody should get up at 6am, to be at work for 8, to get off at either 5 or 6 to get home soo late you either just see your kids going down for bed, or you arrive in time for supper, barely letting yourself relax before you work on other things. Life has just made us soooo busy. And the worst part is the holidays. Every holiday we over due ourselves. Thanksgiving, you hae to buy all the ingredients. Christmas, that is the most expensive time of year. One night, oh so funny, my parents had gone to Sobeys and had bought a whole bunch of groceries, only to find out that we had no space in our trunk because it was filled with, lol kinda gross but funny, garbage. haha so he had to ask a stafff member to help him unload his garbage to fit in his groceries, My dad just wanted to make sure the food got home. He' a funny guy, and only means well. He just wants a nice home for his kids to live in but he forgot to get rid of the stuff he through out.
ANYWAY...
So yeah, no matter how busy you are, NEVER let work, other activities, even your kids or your friends convince you that you need to be so busy. Take a day off, go to the spa, go see a funny movie, go have a drink, even if you have never had alcohol, go check out an art gallery and enjoy some beautiful artwork. Do something other than what you normally do...Give yourself a break.
This might sound like, but I have had one of those days where I just felt like my body was glued to my bed...Not for sleep, but because moving and walking became so hard that I could barely make a phone call...Be kind to your body, eat right, sleep, exercise, drink fluids, life is too short, so be nice to your body.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
ANYWAY...
So yeah, no matter how busy you are, NEVER let work, other activities, even your kids or your friends convince you that you need to be so busy. Take a day off, go to the spa, go see a funny movie, go have a drink, even if you have never had alcohol, go check out an art gallery and enjoy some beautiful artwork. Do something other than what you normally do...Give yourself a break.
This might sound like, but I have had one of those days where I just felt like my body was glued to my bed...Not for sleep, but because moving and walking became so hard that I could barely make a phone call...Be kind to your body, eat right, sleep, exercise, drink fluids, life is too short, so be nice to your body.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
SixWeeks
So just under a week ago, I decided to go through a trial and error phase for 6 weeks to change things up a bit and see if I can turn some results around. Not saying I did not before, I like trying new things and being different and being bold, but I have decided to give 100% in order to receive 100%. This includes more time with God, time with family and friends, sharing things that matter, changing my wardrobe, I will be 25 in just under three months and I felt a change was due. Why wait until next year? So for the rest of the year, my goal is to dress fab wherever I go, try new styles, new shades of make-up, earrings, go harder on the job hunting, which by the way, has made for some good progress. I booked three interviews, well four, but I already had one. Three for Wed, and I am feeling pretty good about each of them. It's for the holidays. So I have been doing my homework, doing my research about each job. I am working on my life plan. So much has happened over the past couple of years, and more recently this past year, I have made a lot of discoveries about my self, and never did I think I would become a poet, blogger, and an entrepreneur, yes soon I will be selling hair, I don't have any one me, but I am in the middle of great business plan. I have always wanted to own my own business, but never knew what steps to take, how to make them happen, but I have a huge network that it's impossible to think it cannot work. It can and it will.
I will do my best to show you the new places I check out, outfits, things I discover, and share my journey with you. I'm a few days behind, but I am working on confidence with every outfit and learning to be sexy and love my body. No more cute and adorable, it's time to become the grown and sexy woman I know I am, and remind everyone that I am not a little girl anymore...I am growing up and I hope that you can all take this journey with me. :)
I'm excited, a little nervous, I am also hoping to be able to meet new people, and try new event that I have never considered before...Being different and stepping outside of my box. You should try it.
I also want to point out an event at Saint Mary's University on the 24th of November...From 8-11pm, I am one of the poets, and will be showcasing my lovely work, a poem I wrote and a duet poem a friend and I will perform together at the Gorsebrook. It's on campus, its by donation, funds will go to the Watoto Children's Choir so I urge all to go and check it out...And support local and incredible poetic talent. For more info, (although that is pretty much it, check out the link below.
https://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=217220615012758
Bring friends and family, and an open mind to hear some great people speak.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I will do my best to show you the new places I check out, outfits, things I discover, and share my journey with you. I'm a few days behind, but I am working on confidence with every outfit and learning to be sexy and love my body. No more cute and adorable, it's time to become the grown and sexy woman I know I am, and remind everyone that I am not a little girl anymore...I am growing up and I hope that you can all take this journey with me. :)
I'm excited, a little nervous, I am also hoping to be able to meet new people, and try new event that I have never considered before...Being different and stepping outside of my box. You should try it.
I also want to point out an event at Saint Mary's University on the 24th of November...From 8-11pm, I am one of the poets, and will be showcasing my lovely work, a poem I wrote and a duet poem a friend and I will perform together at the Gorsebrook. It's on campus, its by donation, funds will go to the Watoto Children's Choir so I urge all to go and check it out...And support local and incredible poetic talent. For more info, (although that is pretty much it, check out the link below.
https://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=217220615012758
Bring friends and family, and an open mind to hear some great people speak.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, November 10, 2011
InterestingLinks
So...I was going to blog about how little sleep I got last night, but I decided to blog about some links I came across today which I found very helpful, and will use in my own personal use...And later, will share if I have any success with either or all of them...What on earth am I talking about?????
I have always been an avid Essence reader. I would buy every magazine until I decided to save some $$$ and just go online. If it wasn't online, than I'd buy the magazine.
Here are some links I came across today:
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/25/modern-day-matchmaker-how-to-tell-if-youre-dating-a-man-or-a-boy/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/18/modern-day-matchmaker-9-things-you-didnt-know-about-black-love/
http://www.essence.com/2011/11/01/modern-day-matchmaker-the-secret-to-finding-your-idris-or-denzel/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/12/girls-best-friend-you-need-a-love-to-do-list/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/11/modern-day-matchmaker-10-pick-up-lines-hell-go-for/
Enjoy and share your thoughts.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have always been an avid Essence reader. I would buy every magazine until I decided to save some $$$ and just go online. If it wasn't online, than I'd buy the magazine.
Here are some links I came across today:
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/25/modern-day-matchmaker-how-to-tell-if-youre-dating-a-man-or-a-boy/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/18/modern-day-matchmaker-9-things-you-didnt-know-about-black-love/
http://www.essence.com/2011/11/01/modern-day-matchmaker-the-secret-to-finding-your-idris-or-denzel/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/12/girls-best-friend-you-need-a-love-to-do-list/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/11/modern-day-matchmaker-10-pick-up-lines-hell-go-for/
Enjoy and share your thoughts.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Saturday, November 5, 2011
Everything
Everything changed. If you had been there, you would know what I mean. Poets4Change brought out a me I have been fighting to bring out, but was not sure how, or when it would happen. I delivered a poem for the first time in I don't know how many years. I have been going to Poetry nights and poetry events, and speaking, but yet, none of them compared to Wednesday night. Everything has changed. I spoke with passion, and with pride, and my goal is to learn to take what I do seriously. I am going to start allowing people to get to know me in three minutes. I want them to know who I am as a poet, and why this works for me.
Do not get the wrong idea, I come from a great family. Amazing parents, great siblings, we talk, share, laugh, and we help each other out, but there are times when we also hold back. I don't share as much because sometimes it is hard, but I know family is all we have in the end. Being a poet has made me emotional, more aware, and willing to just give it all I've got because I have a purpose and a reason for being a poet, and it is not just to be on stage to look pretty and search for gorgeous men, it's a bonus if I find one, but my point is that I am willing to let it go, regardless who what you or other's say. Loving what I do is all that matters and if how I do it bothers you, than you can go somewhere else...(Ranty like from this side but it happens). So I am urging and encouraging all to never give up on your dreams, to stick to your gut, your first love, and take yourself as high as you can go.
Be who you are and people will respect you. I am learning that now.
God bless
Signed:
Gyfted Artyst
Do not get the wrong idea, I come from a great family. Amazing parents, great siblings, we talk, share, laugh, and we help each other out, but there are times when we also hold back. I don't share as much because sometimes it is hard, but I know family is all we have in the end. Being a poet has made me emotional, more aware, and willing to just give it all I've got because I have a purpose and a reason for being a poet, and it is not just to be on stage to look pretty and search for gorgeous men, it's a bonus if I find one, but my point is that I am willing to let it go, regardless who what you or other's say. Loving what I do is all that matters and if how I do it bothers you, than you can go somewhere else...(Ranty like from this side but it happens). So I am urging and encouraging all to never give up on your dreams, to stick to your gut, your first love, and take yourself as high as you can go.
Be who you are and people will respect you. I am learning that now.
God bless
Signed:
Gyfted Artyst
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Small Victories Do Count
I know how hard it is to find a job because I have been jobless since February of this past year. But over time, as you look for a job, your attitude changes, your perception changes, you change as a person, and you go from thinking good about things, to having a bad attitude and wondering why God has forgotten about you. Some days it feels like you are being ignored, stepped on, under estimated, and treated like you do not matter. Think about all the good you have done, even if it happened years ago, you have come far. I am still job hunting, applying, and hearing nothing back, so I keep going. Found more jobs, and say to my self, I qualify for this job, because this is my passion, or I love to do this, so I will work hard to make the job happen for me. Dwelling on the pain only makes it harder to keep moving forward. I have been standing beside my best friend for almost six years, and there are some days when I just want to yell at her, but I do not because I know that she needs me, but there are times when I need her, but she makes the friendship seem more about her than us. I have tried to tell her, but she is so wrapped up in her own world sometimes she forgets that she is not on her own. I know she has gone through a lot, but she also has to grow up at some point and get over her past. I told her, but I am not sure if she will speak to me again. I know her, and we might not speak for a few weeks or a few days or five months, but I do know that I love her with my heart, and am only trying to help her. I hope one day she can see that.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
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GyftedArtyst
Dealing With Grief
We all deal with grief in different ways. A few days ago, I recently learned of the passing of one of my youth that was in my youth group years ago when I was a leader. His death came as a shock, however, I was unable to cry, or show any signs of sadness. I know it's a sad time, but it just does not seem like it happened at all. I did not know the kid at all, but years ago, he was such a happy smiley kid who just wanted to be a part of everything. Everyone loved him, and we are all mourning him. Life is so precious, that the thought of anything happening to my younger cousins make me wish I was involved in their life more. And that is what I will do. It my job to be a part of my family's life and to show them that I love them and care for them even when they are not in the mood. My family has shown some of the strongest values and morals I know that to think anything less would be insane. Im beyond grateful, I am speechless at the impression, the imprint that my family has one a lot of people. I love them with everything in me, and I hope that they know that. Through thick and thin, family is always there, treasure life, value and remember each moment, because one day that moment will be the only memory. Even when family makes you sad, or want to yell and scream, they will be there for you no matter what.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Friday, October 28, 2011
Networking
I had the privilege of attending the launch of the new network called Progressive Roots which I found fantastic, made some great friends, and learned a lot about networking, and hopefully, will land a job within a few weeks God willing.
What I really appreciate about the PRN Group is the target, how they want to help us, and the passion they have to succeed. It has been a long time coming, but for once, we African Canadians and Black Nova Scotians can get jobs that we deserve, and not end up in a below-our-paycheck-type of job. Why should we settle for less, when we deserve more? I enjoyed hearing what some of the people I met were doing. Some are in accounting, some own a business, other's are still in school, finishing degrees, some moved back from here and there, etc. It was a great atmosphere, the location is gorgeous, and I definitely see myself going back there. I am proud of what our city has accomplished, and hope that the other events are just as good. For those that follow my poetry blog as well as this blog, I have some news, I will be a slam poet in an event next Wed and all are invited to come. Even if you have never heard of anything poet, come to enjoy the show, meet new people, and who knows, be inspired. I know I am inspired all the time, so I encourage you. Wed Nov 2, the Company House on Gottingen Street, I am a slam poet and will go up against two other poets, doing a poem from a charitable org of my choice and hoping that the audience marks fairly.
Enjoy what's left of Thursday, and God Bless
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
What I really appreciate about the PRN Group is the target, how they want to help us, and the passion they have to succeed. It has been a long time coming, but for once, we African Canadians and Black Nova Scotians can get jobs that we deserve, and not end up in a below-our-paycheck-type of job. Why should we settle for less, when we deserve more? I enjoyed hearing what some of the people I met were doing. Some are in accounting, some own a business, other's are still in school, finishing degrees, some moved back from here and there, etc. It was a great atmosphere, the location is gorgeous, and I definitely see myself going back there. I am proud of what our city has accomplished, and hope that the other events are just as good. For those that follow my poetry blog as well as this blog, I have some news, I will be a slam poet in an event next Wed and all are invited to come. Even if you have never heard of anything poet, come to enjoy the show, meet new people, and who knows, be inspired. I know I am inspired all the time, so I encourage you. Wed Nov 2, the Company House on Gottingen Street, I am a slam poet and will go up against two other poets, doing a poem from a charitable org of my choice and hoping that the audience marks fairly.
Enjoy what's left of Thursday, and God Bless
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Gone But Not Forgotten
He may have left us on this earth
But he joins our heavenly father up above
The world mourns the loss of a young boy who was just on the verge of discovering life
We pray for the family, friends, and relatives that will have to bury him
No mother should have to endure this pain
I ask that we lift up the family in our prayers, and remind them that God is still with them even in this difficult time.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
But he joins our heavenly father up above
The world mourns the loss of a young boy who was just on the verge of discovering life
We pray for the family, friends, and relatives that will have to bury him
No mother should have to endure this pain
I ask that we lift up the family in our prayers, and remind them that God is still with them even in this difficult time.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
New Discoveries
So, Shihan is one of my fav poets. I used to you tube def peotry jam episodes years ago, and spend nights, days, whenever I had the chance, I would watch old clips. I have so many fav's, but Shihan caught my attention. This Type of Love is a favorite, He also has Flashy words, and a couple of others. I stumbled upon his FB page through another friends page, and discovered that he had his own company so I checked it out and discovered other new artists, and other new artists and it made me wish I worked harder at being a poet. I have slacked and that is not good. These poets are accomplished, internationally known, and have even performed at the White House. THAT is awesome. So one of my goals is to travel to different poetry sites next year. T.O will be the first spot. I want to spend time going to different events, checking out new artists, making new connections, finding old ones, networking and even do some open mic at the events. Of course this will take time to plan, but I am DETERMINED to make it happen. I would love to check out the poetry scene out West as well, and of course, the States, I plan to do my hwk but I hope that the Def Jam stage is still around. I know that Edmonton won this year and that's awesome...I was rooting for Halifax but the best won. I want to be a better poet because this world needs to hear what we have to say, they have to hear what I have to say and that will only happen if I do something about it. I will be posting some videos of poets that I love, feel free to check them out.
I love new discoveries, I enjoy trying new things, there is always a risk, but the risk is worth it sometimes.
Never stop living your passion!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I love new discoveries, I enjoy trying new things, there is always a risk, but the risk is worth it sometimes.
Never stop living your passion!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Are You A Christian
I have been wondering for the past few years, what defines a Christian. How do you know if you are right with God? And do you think it is the business of others to question where you are with your Faith? Do you ever feel uneasy? unsure? Do you know if you and God are on the same page?
I ask these questions because I have been to so many different churches over the past ten years due to my fathers position as regional minister, and there are many ways you see things. You see the elders complain about how ungrateful the youth are, you see the youth complain about how they are being treated like babies, you see the pastor trying to prevent another shooting in his community, you see a small church with so much power, try to keep youth out of trouble, you see a growing church with lots of people that want to succeed, and grow to love God, you see youth do different events, youth leaders trying to keep youth on track, and you wonder, why do youth decide to leave the church? What is it about church that has our youth saying, "See ya later?" Have churches lost sight of what the real issue may be?
I know the church I go to is a very old fashioned church and the member are mostly between the ages of 4-16, and than 40+. it's a huge concern because the older folk are dying off, while the young people have no respect yet they act like they are bored. It's great to see them in church, but how do we get them to be excited? It's not easy at all, requires a lot of work, patience, prayer, and hope because without either, nothing really gets done on its own. I just want to know if churches are setting youth up to fail, without really giving them a chance, if churches these days are just faking it to make it? Or if churches really do want a stronger generation? I have a lot of reading to do, research, and praying, but I am interested in feedback from anyone religious, non religious, regardless of your back ground, faith, I want to know.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I ask these questions because I have been to so many different churches over the past ten years due to my fathers position as regional minister, and there are many ways you see things. You see the elders complain about how ungrateful the youth are, you see the youth complain about how they are being treated like babies, you see the pastor trying to prevent another shooting in his community, you see a small church with so much power, try to keep youth out of trouble, you see a growing church with lots of people that want to succeed, and grow to love God, you see youth do different events, youth leaders trying to keep youth on track, and you wonder, why do youth decide to leave the church? What is it about church that has our youth saying, "See ya later?" Have churches lost sight of what the real issue may be?
I know the church I go to is a very old fashioned church and the member are mostly between the ages of 4-16, and than 40+. it's a huge concern because the older folk are dying off, while the young people have no respect yet they act like they are bored. It's great to see them in church, but how do we get them to be excited? It's not easy at all, requires a lot of work, patience, prayer, and hope because without either, nothing really gets done on its own. I just want to know if churches are setting youth up to fail, without really giving them a chance, if churches these days are just faking it to make it? Or if churches really do want a stronger generation? I have a lot of reading to do, research, and praying, but I am interested in feedback from anyone religious, non religious, regardless of your back ground, faith, I want to know.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Five Things
Tonight in Psychology class, my professor asked us to write down five things each that both men and women want in each other, generally. Than after, he wanted us to label g or b for girl or boy, and our A #, and we gave them in to him. He read all of the papers, and basically stated that research says different about what we want...We are programmed, mentally to want a tall dark and handsome guy, great job, goal oriented, does not live at home, already done school has a car, you know where I am going with this. However, society has deemed, those with only some qualities...Let me not forget that if he is too short, he is deemed weak and unworthy, have we really lost sense of what we were taught? Do we no longer think practical just material? He also has to be rich...
Some women thought that the guy should want an independent woman, but guys want a woman that they can spoil rotten, but still has some sort of life of her own. I lost track a bit...Let me back up...Society has us thinking that short guys cannot make us happy..We all watched Girlfriends, the popular comedy/drama that was canceled a while back, (still hoping and praying that it comes back. It was like the black Sex & The City) Tony Childs, was almost robbed, and a guy, short guy named Todd came to her rescue. She fell in love with him, even though he was short, they made it work.
I myself am still going through changes and understanding that when picking a partner, you need someone that will be able to help you in life, instead of hurt you. If the person is strong, passionate, patient, loves kids, goes to church,very active, etc. Than what is holding you back? Maybe he has no car, but is saving up to buy one that will last...So we pass? Don't be silly ladies.. Men who have too much money, have a great job that they love more than you, spend more time in the mirror than you...Yeah, he is def a keeper. He won't stay with you, maybe for the sex, if it's good...Anyway..
I challenge my followers to ask themselves what they look for in a partner?
Men, be honest with yourselves, women, same to you. You do not have to respond, but think of this as a tiny assignment if you read this. What top five things do you think men want in women, and vice versa? Life partner, loving, sense of humor? Smart/educated, intellect, experienced, well traveled, family oriented, ambitious?
What do you think are the top five things?
Just for fun but we spent almost 45 minutes doing this in class. And of course I paid attention, it was interesting how we think one way, but do another, trained one way, but grow up with minds of our own and begin to discover what matters.
I'm a practical girl, and have grown up understanding that less is more, and I appreciate hard work because it proves results. Of course nothing comes easy, but we will make it. Just have faith, know yourself through God, and everything else falls into place. Do not get me wrong, if a man told me he wanted to take care of me, (It's his job anyway to take care of you, etc, etc...) But remind him that you want to be able to do your own thing too, without feeling controlled, or underestimated.
Lots of love
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Some women thought that the guy should want an independent woman, but guys want a woman that they can spoil rotten, but still has some sort of life of her own. I lost track a bit...Let me back up...Society has us thinking that short guys cannot make us happy..We all watched Girlfriends, the popular comedy/drama that was canceled a while back, (still hoping and praying that it comes back. It was like the black Sex & The City) Tony Childs, was almost robbed, and a guy, short guy named Todd came to her rescue. She fell in love with him, even though he was short, they made it work.
I myself am still going through changes and understanding that when picking a partner, you need someone that will be able to help you in life, instead of hurt you. If the person is strong, passionate, patient, loves kids, goes to church,very active, etc. Than what is holding you back? Maybe he has no car, but is saving up to buy one that will last...So we pass? Don't be silly ladies.. Men who have too much money, have a great job that they love more than you, spend more time in the mirror than you...Yeah, he is def a keeper. He won't stay with you, maybe for the sex, if it's good...Anyway..
I challenge my followers to ask themselves what they look for in a partner?
Men, be honest with yourselves, women, same to you. You do not have to respond, but think of this as a tiny assignment if you read this. What top five things do you think men want in women, and vice versa? Life partner, loving, sense of humor? Smart/educated, intellect, experienced, well traveled, family oriented, ambitious?
What do you think are the top five things?
Just for fun but we spent almost 45 minutes doing this in class. And of course I paid attention, it was interesting how we think one way, but do another, trained one way, but grow up with minds of our own and begin to discover what matters.
I'm a practical girl, and have grown up understanding that less is more, and I appreciate hard work because it proves results. Of course nothing comes easy, but we will make it. Just have faith, know yourself through God, and everything else falls into place. Do not get me wrong, if a man told me he wanted to take care of me, (It's his job anyway to take care of you, etc, etc...) But remind him that you want to be able to do your own thing too, without feeling controlled, or underestimated.
Lots of love
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Slow & Steady
So I have been job hunting since February, figuring out what I love, and telling myself to be open, honest, and try smiling more. I do not smile enough, even if it is at a total stranger. I have lots to be thankful for, yet I walk around with a gloomy face...And my results are not changing because I am not changing. So when you know something is wrong, what do you do? Sit and keep doing wrong, or you get up and make a difference? Get up off the couch, instead of thinking the job will come to you, go to the job and tell them how great you are. Give the company a reason to hire you, show them your skills. We undervalue ourselves because we feel as if we are not doing enough, yet we are some of the most promising young adults out there. We have surgeons in the making, nurses from all backgrounds, IT specialists from all over, Engineers from all over in different fields, artists who are trying to keep the creative world alive, how can we say that we are lazy? We just need to be taught the right things in order to succeed. Tell us what is necessary, not what you are paid to tell us. I have been jobless for months, applying, have only had maybe 6 interviews in 8 months, there are days when I say, "God, why are you making me suffer?" But what he is trying to do is teach me a lesson...Ive still yet to figure out what the lesson is, but I know that I will find out very soon. Aggressiveness is important with jobs because if we do not go for what we want, someone else will. Stop watching and ACTION!!!!! We want the truth, not lies, stop feeding us garbage and than getting mad when we don't use it. Garbage is useless so give us something worth selling. We have an incredibly strong generation of leaders who are making change all over the world, so look at it from this point of few, it will happen one day, but just because it is not today or tomorrow, does not mean you should give up on us everday. Push us to succeed, encourage us, help us, don't let us fail, make sure we strive!!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
HowDoYouDecide
When I was younger, I used to use my heart a lot to make choices. However, as I got older, using my heart made it difficult to keep friends because I was always "really nice" and stopped being rational about the types of friend I should have. I have always been the "nice type"but sometimes being too nice all the time does not get us very far, only hurt. So when I left high school I decided to use my head instead of my heart. I can only put my heart through so much...Not to be all sad and sappy, but its true, why put our hearts through so much if we know that they can really only handle so much? Now, I am realizing that using both your head and your heart is important because you need to ensure that whom you are friends with will both benefit and encourage and educate you, while using your head reminds you to be practical and honest to make sure the friendship stays what it should be. Right, strong, and faith based. If you pick a friend who will steer you the wrong way, enjoy getting back on track, it is not easy, but it is possible, but be prepared for some tears.
How do you decide who to be friends with? Do you use your heart, your head, or both?
What has worked better for you?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
How do you decide who to be friends with? Do you use your heart, your head, or both?
What has worked better for you?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Evolutionary Pschology
I am taking two classes at Saint Mary's University, one class is Religious Studies, the other one is Evolutionary Psychology.
It's funny how what we learn in life is later questioned and as we get older, we must learn to trust those closer to us to ensure that we stay on track.
Learning is important, but make sure to learn what you know you need to learn not just knowing it for the sake of it! There is a big difference. I am enjoying a lot right now but sometimes I wish I had kept reading. You learn so much from the different books you pick up, and I stress how important it is to educate yourself whether in a classroom or not. Just know your stuff and never be afraid to succeed!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
It's funny how what we learn in life is later questioned and as we get older, we must learn to trust those closer to us to ensure that we stay on track.
Learning is important, but make sure to learn what you know you need to learn not just knowing it for the sake of it! There is a big difference. I am enjoying a lot right now but sometimes I wish I had kept reading. You learn so much from the different books you pick up, and I stress how important it is to educate yourself whether in a classroom or not. Just know your stuff and never be afraid to succeed!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Hyporcite
Sometimes we let wrong in our life too many times, and often wrong leads us astray. I blogged earlier about choices and regret, and am slowly learning that not everything you encounter is good for you, and as Christian, things are harder because they look more appealing and attractive. You end up wanting more, when you deserve more but are getting less. I wont make this long, but I just want to point out that temptation is all around us, but what we must do is decide if it is worth it now, and after, because the one thing we need to remember, is that what may be good now, can cost us later, and if we have more to lose, is it worth it?
Think about it!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Think about it!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Sunday, October 9, 2011
HowDoYouDecide
When I was younger, I used to use my heart a lot to make choices. However, as I got older, using my heart made it difficult to keep friends because I was always "really nice" and stopped being rational about the types of friend I should have. I have always been the "nice type"but sometimes being too nice all the time does not get us very far, only hurt. So when I left high school I decided to use my head instead of my heart. I can only put my heart through so much...Not to be all sad and sappy, but its true, why put our hearts through so much if we know that they can really only handle so much? Now, I am realizing that using both your head and your heart is important because you need to ensure that whom you are friends with will both benefit and encourage and educate you, while using your head reminds you to be practical and honest to make sure the friendship stays what it should be. Right, strong, and faith based. If you pick a friend who will steer you the wrong way, enjoy getting back on track, it is not easy, but it is possible, but be prepared for some tears.
How do you decide who to be friends with? Do you use your heart, your head, or both?
What has worked better for you?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
How do you decide who to be friends with? Do you use your heart, your head, or both?
What has worked better for you?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, October 3, 2011
Discoveries Part 1:
So last yesterday I came across a few discoveries, most happened during church and after church. There was no sermon because of how long church went, and the pastor was kind enough to let us out early, but she left us with some words saying, are we for God, or are we against God? And she explained that if we are against God it means we are doing things our own way, instead of letting God help us. I have been trying to do things my own way for years, while still hanging on to God asking for help, but not fully letting go and saying to him, "Take the wheel" Reason I say this is because it is true. We cannot do anything on our own. Hard work takes the help of many, family, friends, community, professors etc. I know people who do not like being told how to breathe, speak to God, how to love, because they had their parents to do that for them. Nobody likes to be told what to do, but in life we have to learn to ask for help so we can be successful.
Just before I wrote this blog, My dashboard shows I am ten posts away from being at 100 posts. That is pretty awesome, and it shows how far I have come.
I have made other discoveries last night as well which might help you, and it might now, it's all how you see things in life. This is how I see things right now.
You want to have fun, but you know you have to represent wherever you go. You are a child of God, so you must act like a child of God. If you want to have fun, it means you have to think about who you hang with, where you go, and what you say to people. Having fun comes with limits and boundaries despite what the other person might say. Temptation is real, and it feels good at the time, but it will cost you in the future.
If you are not ready to settle down, than do not settle down, but do not mess around either. Be honest and true to who you are and let the people in your life know and understand where you come from.
Denial is not good, and it does not help you move forward it only holds you back.
So do you know where you come from? who you are?
Do you know your boundaries? Do you friends respect your limits?
If they don't, it means they do not care about you at all.
Be careful who you let in your life, they can either hurt you, or make it better
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Just before I wrote this blog, My dashboard shows I am ten posts away from being at 100 posts. That is pretty awesome, and it shows how far I have come.
I have made other discoveries last night as well which might help you, and it might now, it's all how you see things in life. This is how I see things right now.
You want to have fun, but you know you have to represent wherever you go. You are a child of God, so you must act like a child of God. If you want to have fun, it means you have to think about who you hang with, where you go, and what you say to people. Having fun comes with limits and boundaries despite what the other person might say. Temptation is real, and it feels good at the time, but it will cost you in the future.
If you are not ready to settle down, than do not settle down, but do not mess around either. Be honest and true to who you are and let the people in your life know and understand where you come from.
Denial is not good, and it does not help you move forward it only holds you back.
So do you know where you come from? who you are?
Do you know your boundaries? Do you friends respect your limits?
If they don't, it means they do not care about you at all.
Be careful who you let in your life, they can either hurt you, or make it better
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Great Ideas
So I may have just found my next big project. Opening up a lounge club for adults. I am tired of the clubs, the bars, and not knowing where to go when I just want to chill and hang out. Last night I wanted to go out, but there was no where to go. I don't do Starbucks because it costs too much money, and it's far, and the food is not always what you want it to be, let's just say, Halifax is lacking variety in entertainment. Not everyone wants the club experience, or the let's get smashed night, some just want to enjoy an evening of great music, great poetry, a good conversation, the company of good people, without it always having to be an event. Why wait till a birthday party? Or a wedding to see some old friends? It's hard hanging out with people to watch a movie or eat dinner because it's either always loud, or you have to be quiet.
I want to change that! Send me your ideas, thoughts, and let's make this happen!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I want to change that! Send me your ideas, thoughts, and let's make this happen!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Friday, September 30, 2011
Why We Do What We Do
Why do we do what we do?
Why do we ask a question, if we already know the answer? Why do we get involved with people we already know in the end, may hurt us, what is it that attracts us to these types of people? Why do we feel the need to put ourselves in a position that could hurt us?
Ive been there, and its not the best feeling, at the time it feels right, but that's what temptation feels like. Right, and wrong. We know it shouldn't happen, but we do it because it feels good...Ya know you've been there.
Short and sweet
Hope your also checking out my other blog TheSilentPoet!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Why do we ask a question, if we already know the answer? Why do we get involved with people we already know in the end, may hurt us, what is it that attracts us to these types of people? Why do we feel the need to put ourselves in a position that could hurt us?
Ive been there, and its not the best feeling, at the time it feels right, but that's what temptation feels like. Right, and wrong. We know it shouldn't happen, but we do it because it feels good...Ya know you've been there.
Short and sweet
Hope your also checking out my other blog TheSilentPoet!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Yup, We're Going There
http://www.essence.com/2011/09/27/real-talk-are-you-willing-to-date-a-non-black-man/
I love how it is okay for a Black man to date a woman outside of his race, but when it comes to a Black woman dating outside of her race, the world turns upside down, and we act as if we are losing our heads. Why does it matter if I date a white man, Asian man, Latin, Hispanic, British, what does it matter? I am not waiting for a Black man, any to come to his senses. If someone finds me attractive, that is because God put us together. Brothers do not have a right to be upset if they see their sistah's dating a white guy. Honestly, I could care less what his color is, it's his heart, mind and soul that I am interested in. If we get along great, have a lot in common, and he treats me like I am the only woman that matters, why should I let him go? Because he isn't Black? That is absolute foolishness, and you need to get over yourselves. Do not act insulted when you see a sistah hanging with a white guy. If he loves her, he loves her, you love someone, let her find her happiness. There are brothers out there, but the problem is that they either do not know what they want, they claim that us Black women want too much, (a good man isn't asking for much, but we want to be taken care of like our fathers cared for us, why settle for less?) My dad, no matter what the cost, circumstance or situation, he would always provide because that's what his job was. Even as we get older, he will still care for us regardless if we live with him or not.
The link that I posted above is about Black women dating outside their race. I normally would pass this up, but I would like to know why it matters if we date outside or not when men have been doing it for years? Not just Black men either, White men dating non white girls, Asian's dating non Asian's, somehow, Black women are still a target in this world, for reasons that should not even matter.
Why can't we just live our lives?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I love how it is okay for a Black man to date a woman outside of his race, but when it comes to a Black woman dating outside of her race, the world turns upside down, and we act as if we are losing our heads. Why does it matter if I date a white man, Asian man, Latin, Hispanic, British, what does it matter? I am not waiting for a Black man, any to come to his senses. If someone finds me attractive, that is because God put us together. Brothers do not have a right to be upset if they see their sistah's dating a white guy. Honestly, I could care less what his color is, it's his heart, mind and soul that I am interested in. If we get along great, have a lot in common, and he treats me like I am the only woman that matters, why should I let him go? Because he isn't Black? That is absolute foolishness, and you need to get over yourselves. Do not act insulted when you see a sistah hanging with a white guy. If he loves her, he loves her, you love someone, let her find her happiness. There are brothers out there, but the problem is that they either do not know what they want, they claim that us Black women want too much, (a good man isn't asking for much, but we want to be taken care of like our fathers cared for us, why settle for less?) My dad, no matter what the cost, circumstance or situation, he would always provide because that's what his job was. Even as we get older, he will still care for us regardless if we live with him or not.
The link that I posted above is about Black women dating outside their race. I normally would pass this up, but I would like to know why it matters if we date outside or not when men have been doing it for years? Not just Black men either, White men dating non white girls, Asian's dating non Asian's, somehow, Black women are still a target in this world, for reasons that should not even matter.
Why can't we just live our lives?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Women & Men: Vague I know!
Women and men both make a lot of mistakes, however, we do not always see them as mistakes, but more so choices made to determine the best solution of a problem. We only want what is best, yet the world seems to decide otherwise. Will society ever just let us be? Not really, but we will continue to prove to the world that we marry for both love and money, why can't we have both? Some marry for one, some marry for none, they marry someone because they know that this person can help them survive. After all, this world is survival of the fittest, and sadly, we know that our third world countries are not doing so great, but that is because of the bad leadership, and greed.
If men understood how a woman thought, would they cheat? Would he let his eyes wonder? If a woman knew her man would she even bother being with him? Why doesn't she just let him go?
I just find it funny and odd how men and women operate. We upset each other all the time, and still yet, we cannot make it without one another. Literally, even if two women fell in love, they still need a man to get em pregnant. Can't escape that one, and the same goes for men...Anyway, off topic...
I really think and believe that if we took the time to understand each other, than we would want to hurt each other less. Instead of cheating, be honest and tell the girl you have a woman. Just because you are not seen together does not mean you take advantage. Ladies, check in with your man, let him know what's up. I watched The Game, and even though Melanie and Derwin had some major issues between them, they remained honest even though it could have broken them. They have overcome many trials, infidelity, a child from two unwed parents, we have witnessed them get through, and still yet, they love each other. She knew what she was doing, they watched each other fail, but they also pushed each other to succeed because that is what's important. Why watch your lover fail if you know you can help them? Don't do them wrong just because the opportunity is there. I do not care if it is a man or a woman, neither should act like idiots. If you got something good, you better work hard to make it stick other wise you can kiss what is called love goodbye. It can only happen so many times.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
If men understood how a woman thought, would they cheat? Would he let his eyes wonder? If a woman knew her man would she even bother being with him? Why doesn't she just let him go?
I just find it funny and odd how men and women operate. We upset each other all the time, and still yet, we cannot make it without one another. Literally, even if two women fell in love, they still need a man to get em pregnant. Can't escape that one, and the same goes for men...Anyway, off topic...
I really think and believe that if we took the time to understand each other, than we would want to hurt each other less. Instead of cheating, be honest and tell the girl you have a woman. Just because you are not seen together does not mean you take advantage. Ladies, check in with your man, let him know what's up. I watched The Game, and even though Melanie and Derwin had some major issues between them, they remained honest even though it could have broken them. They have overcome many trials, infidelity, a child from two unwed parents, we have witnessed them get through, and still yet, they love each other. She knew what she was doing, they watched each other fail, but they also pushed each other to succeed because that is what's important. Why watch your lover fail if you know you can help them? Don't do them wrong just because the opportunity is there. I do not care if it is a man or a woman, neither should act like idiots. If you got something good, you better work hard to make it stick other wise you can kiss what is called love goodbye. It can only happen so many times.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Procrastinator
Yup, I procrastinate!!!!!
I have spent the past week talking about how I would read, yet for most of the days, I either spend them at the mall, by accident, or hanging with friends so I never really hit the study area. This does not make me lazy, I just have to get used to being in school. And I am not yet.
So anyway, I started a new blog, not sure I mentioned it but I will be poetry blogging about everything and anything no matter what the topic, so feel free to check it out!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have spent the past week talking about how I would read, yet for most of the days, I either spend them at the mall, by accident, or hanging with friends so I never really hit the study area. This does not make me lazy, I just have to get used to being in school. And I am not yet.
So anyway, I started a new blog, not sure I mentioned it but I will be poetry blogging about everything and anything no matter what the topic, so feel free to check it out!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Sunday, September 25, 2011
In My Opinion (And I have no problem being corrected)
First and foremost, I am not an expert, and if I do not know anything about a topic, I do not talk about it, and obviously, I have a lot of homework to do because this past weekend I although I missed most of the events, I was able to attend the gala for the African Diaspora Heritage Trail Conference and it was amazing. Though I missed the workshops and seminars about change and how to move forward, etc, I still wonder, will anything really happen or will it all just be talk?
Almost a month ago a friend sent an email in regards to a blog that I had posted, and I was overwhelmed by the response but I also realized how little I know about a lot of stuff. Before I answer his questions, I just wanted to express how important education is, and that no matter how scared you might be, hard things may get, or "tough" you have to act to make it, just know that you will make it with the support of the community.
So, onto the blog responses: I really hope I do them justice and if not please let me know, and I will do my homework.
First question:
"Firstly in your article you mention that we hurt ourselves and treat each other like we do not love each other. Are you saying that Black people don't love each other? And if so how did I come to that conclusion?"
My answer: I do believe that we do love each other, but sometimes we do things, not so nice things like stab each other in the back. I could sit here and list but I'd be here all night. We have such a large black community, yet somehow, families turn on each other, siblings kill each other, and it is not even just black people that do these to each other, it is everyone, Hispanics, Latino's, Whites, Africans, Asian's, wherever you are, something in the community turns families, friends and businesses against each other and it causes a major rift. When we see a young child out on the street, instead of telling her to go home, we talk behind her back and spread rumors about another parent's kid, but when it is our own kid, we deny it and say, "not my child" but yet we have no issues telling another parent that they caught their child on the corner. Why do we do these types of things to each other? Honestly, I cannot tell you, but it is not right, and it should not happen...I hope it changes, or that it is changing.
His question: "You later say we have come a long way. This is a statement I definitely agree with, progress has been made. Since when to which time frame are you referring?"
My answer: I do not know the specific timeline, however, if we have not progressed in any way, we would not have a Black President, we would not have had a woman run for president, women were a minority, and in some countries/religions they still are, but we have fought to make sure that equality went all the way around. We have Black supermodels, we have African Canadians and Americans that own and successfully run their own businesses, we have financial assistance available for anyone that wants to go to school, the list goes on, but we really have made our mark in a big way, and of course, we are not done, but we have spent centuries fighting, we have lost great people, but they are the ones that paved the way for us. They made it possible for us to be who we are, and do what we do. There will always be issues, but it is about working around them.
His question: "Also you mention that attending different poetry events that people express a lot of anger of their treatment in Halifax. Now would you say those people that complain represent a majority of Black people in Halifax?"
My answer: I have no issue with people telling it like it is because that is what I aim to do as well, I just think we need to also accept what has changed, we know this world has issues, we know where we live there are problems, but the way we handle, the way we discuss, instead of yelling and trashing people online, (vbloggers) and bloggers that hash out the ugly truth, I feel we would be better not always thinking and focusing about hate. Isn't there something we can be happy about? Why do we always have to be in a fight? The people that complain do not represent all of us, but they are the ones that know how to speak, and know how to get the attention of people that matter and need to hear the problems at hand.
His question: "Later you say these people complain but they don't do anything? What are things these persons should or could do?"
My answer: There is always a better approach to something, you just have to find it. I may not know what it is right now, or I may never find out, or have access, but for those that do, I wish that they were able to. And maybe I am wrong about all of this but when I get up to perform at an event or poetry night, and I mention the type of poem, people get happy when it' an angry poem. I would prefer to not be encouraged to be angry, but to be encouraged to move on from the past.
His question: "When you say it's becoming a mental thing, do you mean to say it's not the reality of racism that holds people back but their minds?"
My answer: No, I do not know what goes on in the minds of most, but what I really feel is that we need to let go of the past and move on. It's sad how in some parts of the world people still feel and live a certain way, but its about education. We need to educate our kids, young people, adults about how to treat people, how things work, I wonder how people live like we are still in the slave days and in the 40's. People just need to grow up and let go. We think we are in a war, but if we were at war, we would not have a Black president and First lady, we would not have Black people owning businesses, being successful, and having the lifestyle that they have. We should be proud of who we are and where we come from, and not make it negative.
Every group faces oppression, but what we need to ask ourselves is why do we still feel this way? And what are we going to do about changing the future?
I hope that helped, I hoped I answered them right, I know it's long but there were a lot of questions.
Thanks for the response, and I hope the rest of you share how you feel. God Bless
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Almost a month ago a friend sent an email in regards to a blog that I had posted, and I was overwhelmed by the response but I also realized how little I know about a lot of stuff. Before I answer his questions, I just wanted to express how important education is, and that no matter how scared you might be, hard things may get, or "tough" you have to act to make it, just know that you will make it with the support of the community.
So, onto the blog responses: I really hope I do them justice and if not please let me know, and I will do my homework.
First question:
"Firstly in your article you mention that we hurt ourselves and treat each other like we do not love each other. Are you saying that Black people don't love each other? And if so how did I come to that conclusion?"
My answer: I do believe that we do love each other, but sometimes we do things, not so nice things like stab each other in the back. I could sit here and list but I'd be here all night. We have such a large black community, yet somehow, families turn on each other, siblings kill each other, and it is not even just black people that do these to each other, it is everyone, Hispanics, Latino's, Whites, Africans, Asian's, wherever you are, something in the community turns families, friends and businesses against each other and it causes a major rift. When we see a young child out on the street, instead of telling her to go home, we talk behind her back and spread rumors about another parent's kid, but when it is our own kid, we deny it and say, "not my child" but yet we have no issues telling another parent that they caught their child on the corner. Why do we do these types of things to each other? Honestly, I cannot tell you, but it is not right, and it should not happen...I hope it changes, or that it is changing.
His question: "You later say we have come a long way. This is a statement I definitely agree with, progress has been made. Since when to which time frame are you referring?"
My answer: I do not know the specific timeline, however, if we have not progressed in any way, we would not have a Black President, we would not have had a woman run for president, women were a minority, and in some countries/religions they still are, but we have fought to make sure that equality went all the way around. We have Black supermodels, we have African Canadians and Americans that own and successfully run their own businesses, we have financial assistance available for anyone that wants to go to school, the list goes on, but we really have made our mark in a big way, and of course, we are not done, but we have spent centuries fighting, we have lost great people, but they are the ones that paved the way for us. They made it possible for us to be who we are, and do what we do. There will always be issues, but it is about working around them.
His question: "Also you mention that attending different poetry events that people express a lot of anger of their treatment in Halifax. Now would you say those people that complain represent a majority of Black people in Halifax?"
My answer: I have no issue with people telling it like it is because that is what I aim to do as well, I just think we need to also accept what has changed, we know this world has issues, we know where we live there are problems, but the way we handle, the way we discuss, instead of yelling and trashing people online, (vbloggers) and bloggers that hash out the ugly truth, I feel we would be better not always thinking and focusing about hate. Isn't there something we can be happy about? Why do we always have to be in a fight? The people that complain do not represent all of us, but they are the ones that know how to speak, and know how to get the attention of people that matter and need to hear the problems at hand.
His question: "Later you say these people complain but they don't do anything? What are things these persons should or could do?"
My answer: There is always a better approach to something, you just have to find it. I may not know what it is right now, or I may never find out, or have access, but for those that do, I wish that they were able to. And maybe I am wrong about all of this but when I get up to perform at an event or poetry night, and I mention the type of poem, people get happy when it' an angry poem. I would prefer to not be encouraged to be angry, but to be encouraged to move on from the past.
His question: "When you say it's becoming a mental thing, do you mean to say it's not the reality of racism that holds people back but their minds?"
My answer: No, I do not know what goes on in the minds of most, but what I really feel is that we need to let go of the past and move on. It's sad how in some parts of the world people still feel and live a certain way, but its about education. We need to educate our kids, young people, adults about how to treat people, how things work, I wonder how people live like we are still in the slave days and in the 40's. People just need to grow up and let go. We think we are in a war, but if we were at war, we would not have a Black president and First lady, we would not have Black people owning businesses, being successful, and having the lifestyle that they have. We should be proud of who we are and where we come from, and not make it negative.
Every group faces oppression, but what we need to ask ourselves is why do we still feel this way? And what are we going to do about changing the future?
I hope that helped, I hoped I answered them right, I know it's long but there were a lot of questions.
Thanks for the response, and I hope the rest of you share how you feel. God Bless
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Memories
We like good memories, the kind that will make us laugh, smile, and wish for more good memories. But we know, in life, there will be good memories, and not so good memories. So how do we deal with it? I pray, write, and share how I feel with people because that is what gets me through the times I need a crutch, and the times I thank God for an awesome day. And also because it is not good to keep anything all tucked away inside of you. Trust me, I have been doing that for years and it messed up the flow of things.
The past year has been filled with some really amazing memories. And memories that I wish in ome way, had gone differently.
I lost my job in Feb of this past year, so I have been jobless, and I have been job hunting since than. It is not very fun to hear back, "we have decided to go with another applicant." It hurts to read the email, and it hurts more when you just do not hear anything back. But what hurts more is when you know you are qualified for the job, but its like they are screaming at you 'why bother applying you know you can't do it anyway" But see, we have two voices in our heads, a good one and a bad one, lately I have had both telling me stuff at the same time, and I am forgetting that the good memories are the ones you want. Dwelling on the negative only makes it tough to move on because you are in a rut and can only see the bad, not the good.
So I urge those of you that have memories, to treasure the good, and forgive the bad. Do not let it the bad hit you worse than it should. As my day says, deal with it, but move on and keep smiling.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
The past year has been filled with some really amazing memories. And memories that I wish in ome way, had gone differently.
I lost my job in Feb of this past year, so I have been jobless, and I have been job hunting since than. It is not very fun to hear back, "we have decided to go with another applicant." It hurts to read the email, and it hurts more when you just do not hear anything back. But what hurts more is when you know you are qualified for the job, but its like they are screaming at you 'why bother applying you know you can't do it anyway" But see, we have two voices in our heads, a good one and a bad one, lately I have had both telling me stuff at the same time, and I am forgetting that the good memories are the ones you want. Dwelling on the negative only makes it tough to move on because you are in a rut and can only see the bad, not the good.
So I urge those of you that have memories, to treasure the good, and forgive the bad. Do not let it the bad hit you worse than it should. As my day says, deal with it, but move on and keep smiling.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Confusion
Have you ever loved or wanted someone outside of your religion?
I have a lot of reading to do, but I do know where I stand with dating and marriage...If he does not know God, than I will not marry him. Been there done that. I am not willing to risk anything. Friends yes, but to marry, no.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have a lot of reading to do, but I do know where I stand with dating and marriage...If he does not know God, than I will not marry him. Been there done that. I am not willing to risk anything. Friends yes, but to marry, no.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, September 12, 2011
Warning: Topic Is Sensitive!!!!
I use caution with this topic, but I must admit, I am a bit tired of hearing certain groups talk about how oppressed and isolated they feel, but I wonder what they are doing to "end" discrimination.
This is going to be a rant. So be prepared...
I have been attending different poetry events, and I notice with most of the nights, that certain diverse groups feel the need to "angrily" and "aggressively" share how they are still mad at how Black people are treated in schools, and gays cannot get over just how "unjust" this so called "cultural" place called Halifax is. I am wondering if this is becoming a mental thing and when we will stop hurting ourselves and just live life? We only live it once yet we seem to be choosing a not so nice way to live.
Why be angry all the time? It's mentioned in Stomp The Yard, (One of my favorite and best dance movies out there) that "losing is a state of mind". How much longer can we be in this state until something happens? We act like we are still being treated like slaves, when I know for a fact that that time is over. So why can't we move on? We have movies that still talk about issues between Blacks and Whites, Hispanics, and Whites, Latino's and Blacks, we forget that all minorities were oppressed and that it was not just the Blacks, Hispanic, Latino, and women.
Each group has had to fight for centuries to be heard. And while there are still some issues we must admit that we have come a long way. But what I do not get is how we manage to still treat each other like we do not have love for each other?
For a group that was isolated and ignored for years you would think that they know what it feels like and just accept people for who they are. What you are does not matter, God knows who and what we are but we as people, as easy as it is to judge, I am learning not to anymore. We have no right to make another person feel like they are not human because of the choice that we made. Why do I need your permission to be something? Only God knows, and only God can judge.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Jews had to fight, Christians had to fight, and still do, and in many countries they are killed for believing in God yet they will not step down. Nobody likes being told that their God does not exist, or that they cannot dress like a
This is going to be a rant. So be prepared...
I have been attending different poetry events, and I notice with most of the nights, that certain diverse groups feel the need to "angrily" and "aggressively" share how they are still mad at how Black people are treated in schools, and gays cannot get over just how "unjust" this so called "cultural" place called Halifax is. I am wondering if this is becoming a mental thing and when we will stop hurting ourselves and just live life? We only live it once yet we seem to be choosing a not so nice way to live.
Why be angry all the time? It's mentioned in Stomp The Yard, (One of my favorite and best dance movies out there) that "losing is a state of mind". How much longer can we be in this state until something happens? We act like we are still being treated like slaves, when I know for a fact that that time is over. So why can't we move on? We have movies that still talk about issues between Blacks and Whites, Hispanics, and Whites, Latino's and Blacks, we forget that all minorities were oppressed and that it was not just the Blacks, Hispanic, Latino, and women.
Each group has had to fight for centuries to be heard. And while there are still some issues we must admit that we have come a long way. But what I do not get is how we manage to still treat each other like we do not have love for each other?
For a group that was isolated and ignored for years you would think that they know what it feels like and just accept people for who they are. What you are does not matter, God knows who and what we are but we as people, as easy as it is to judge, I am learning not to anymore. We have no right to make another person feel like they are not human because of the choice that we made. Why do I need your permission to be something? Only God knows, and only God can judge.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Jews had to fight, Christians had to fight, and still do, and in many countries they are killed for believing in God yet they will not step down. Nobody likes being told that their God does not exist, or that they cannot dress like a
Poem called Love
August 27th, 2011
Completed Sept 12th, 2011
Noun: A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
Verb: To have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
You fell for her eyes, her smile, her hips, lips, and how she kissed
You fell for her skin, her hair, how she walked, and her flare
You fell for her voice, her tone, her caring side, and her strong bones
You fell for her motivation, her determination, her love for creation, and her strength to help a whole nation
She fell for your eyes, your smile, your lips, and how you kissed
She fell for your skin, your touch, how you walked, and your love so much
She fell for your voice, your tone, your strong strides, and your strong bones
She fell for your perseverance, adherence, appearance, and your coherence
The way you made her feel
Was a feeling only a man could provide
She trusted his body, his mind, and his heart
He trusted her voice, her soul, and allowed her to her part
She trusted his history, his culture, and his views
He trusted her knowledge, her education, and enjoyed listening to her blues
She trusted him to caress and protect
While he trusted her to be just be perfect
Not super model size
But the right kind of woman in his eyes
Because thats what she meant to him
She trusted him, and defended him
He trusted her, and stood up for her
See
Love is not about hurting one and making one cry
But holding her close and drying her eyes
Love is not about tearing her apart
But helping find the glue to put back her heart
Love should not be when he hits her and she fears him
But love should be when she needs him and he desires her
Love is an action not to be abused
Though because of the media, the word is misused
I we looked to the past, and looked in our lives
We would see that love is about being true and not telling lies
My parents taught me honor, strength, and being true
Never giving up no matter how badly you were through
You made a commitment, now honor your words
You promised not just her, but her family too
That you would stick by her whether she is gang-green or blue
Make a promise, one you know you can keep
Promise to honor her values, and let your love run deep
You fell for her eyes, her smile, her hips, lips, and how she kissed
You fell for her skin, her hair, how she walked, and her
You fell for her voice, her tone, her caring side, and her strong bones
You fell for her motivation, her determination, her love for creation, and her strength to help a whole nation
She fell for your eyes, your smile, your lips, and how you kissed
She fell for your skin, your touch, how you walked, and your love so much
She fell for your voice, your tone, your strong strides, and your strong bones
She fell for your perseverance, adherence, appearance, and your coherence
You both fell for love because that's what you both deserved
You both fell for each other, now work hard to be preserved
Completed Sept 12th, 2011
Noun: A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
Verb: To have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
You fell for her eyes, her smile, her hips, lips, and how she kissed
You fell for her skin, her hair, how she walked, and her flare
You fell for her voice, her tone, her caring side, and her strong bones
You fell for her motivation, her determination, her love for creation, and her strength to help a whole nation
She fell for your eyes, your smile, your lips, and how you kissed
She fell for your skin, your touch, how you walked, and your love so much
She fell for your voice, your tone, your strong strides, and your strong bones
She fell for your perseverance, adherence, appearance, and your coherence
The way you made her feel
Was a feeling only a man could provide
She trusted his body, his mind, and his heart
He trusted her voice, her soul, and allowed her to her part
She trusted his history, his culture, and his views
He trusted her knowledge, her education, and enjoyed listening to her blues
She trusted him to caress and protect
While he trusted her to be just be perfect
Not super model size
But the right kind of woman in his eyes
Because thats what she meant to him
She trusted him, and defended him
He trusted her, and stood up for her
See
Love is not about hurting one and making one cry
But holding her close and drying her eyes
Love is not about tearing her apart
But helping find the glue to put back her heart
Love should not be when he hits her and she fears him
But love should be when she needs him and he desires her
Love is an action not to be abused
Though because of the media, the word is misused
I we looked to the past, and looked in our lives
We would see that love is about being true and not telling lies
My parents taught me honor, strength, and being true
Never giving up no matter how badly you were through
You made a commitment, now honor your words
You promised not just her, but her family too
That you would stick by her whether she is gang-green or blue
Make a promise, one you know you can keep
Promise to honor her values, and let your love run deep
You fell for her eyes, her smile, her hips, lips, and how she kissed
You fell for her skin, her hair, how she walked, and her
You fell for her voice, her tone, her caring side, and her strong bones
You fell for her motivation, her determination, her love for creation, and her strength to help a whole nation
She fell for your eyes, your smile, your lips, and how you kissed
She fell for your skin, your touch, how you walked, and your love so much
She fell for your voice, your tone, your strong strides, and your strong bones
She fell for your perseverance, adherence, appearance, and your coherence
You both fell for love because that's what you both deserved
You both fell for each other, now work hard to be preserved
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Is It Love? Or Is It Looks?
It's been a while since I said hi...
When you pick a partner, is it based on looks, or compatibility? Or both? Do you need someone who looks like Halle Berry or Beyonce? Or you want someone that talks like Michelle Obama, dresses like Kim Kardashian, (however ever you spell her name), and as a bonus can sing like Mariah Carey?
To be real, that is asking for someone that does not exist, because we are all made under God's eyes. Whether you believe in God or not, you parents were brought together by him, and he ensured that you were made a certain way. So if you were supposed to be a chubby baby, do not do weight watchers and end up like Jennifer Hudson or Raven Symone, or worse, Star Jones, people that were hit by the image of Hollywood, claim that they lost weight to be healthy, but they are now barely even wearing sizes that fit the shape of their body, simply because their body has little to no shape. I am not saying they are not beautiful, but we know that society expects certain standards from the people willing to take the risk and either raise their kids in a place filled with toxicity, or people dumb enough to do what it takes to be noticed, fall in love, and hope he does not leave you...
A bit off track, but I really want to know if looks matter or is it personality? Is he smart, can he cook? Does he like to travel and try new places to eat? Is he picky when it comes to how he dresses, whom he lets himself talk to, is he Baptist? Catholic? Does he believe in God and is he ambitious? There are so many things that we can ask the person we want to be with, but what are your thoughts?
Was choosing based on culture? Was it an arranged marriage? Was it for papers or you knew that they were it for you?
If traits mean more than looks, I think you stand a better chance of making it because you can have a Kardashian, gorgeous body, great hair, nice skin, but she could also be the dumbest person you ever met, and has no idea how to cook, clean, let alone drive if she was "catered" to as a child..You might want a Beyonce type, works hard, has a 10-15 year plan for her life, educated, has good morals and values, and is not letting society tell her what to do...And she did it right, she followed her plan, and it got her where she is. A good guy, finally expecting her first child, she is a music legend, and the world knows her as the woman who never gives up, but keeps going.
Anyway, I think you can have both, traits and looks, just be practical about both of them and remember there are things about yourself that are not so perfect but it is what you have in your heart that matters, and how you use your head.
Just some thoughts that have been with me for a few weeks.
Until next time:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
When you pick a partner, is it based on looks, or compatibility? Or both? Do you need someone who looks like Halle Berry or Beyonce? Or you want someone that talks like Michelle Obama, dresses like Kim Kardashian, (however ever you spell her name), and as a bonus can sing like Mariah Carey?
To be real, that is asking for someone that does not exist, because we are all made under God's eyes. Whether you believe in God or not, you parents were brought together by him, and he ensured that you were made a certain way. So if you were supposed to be a chubby baby, do not do weight watchers and end up like Jennifer Hudson or Raven Symone, or worse, Star Jones, people that were hit by the image of Hollywood, claim that they lost weight to be healthy, but they are now barely even wearing sizes that fit the shape of their body, simply because their body has little to no shape. I am not saying they are not beautiful, but we know that society expects certain standards from the people willing to take the risk and either raise their kids in a place filled with toxicity, or people dumb enough to do what it takes to be noticed, fall in love, and hope he does not leave you...
A bit off track, but I really want to know if looks matter or is it personality? Is he smart, can he cook? Does he like to travel and try new places to eat? Is he picky when it comes to how he dresses, whom he lets himself talk to, is he Baptist? Catholic? Does he believe in God and is he ambitious? There are so many things that we can ask the person we want to be with, but what are your thoughts?
Was choosing based on culture? Was it an arranged marriage? Was it for papers or you knew that they were it for you?
If traits mean more than looks, I think you stand a better chance of making it because you can have a Kardashian, gorgeous body, great hair, nice skin, but she could also be the dumbest person you ever met, and has no idea how to cook, clean, let alone drive if she was "catered" to as a child..You might want a Beyonce type, works hard, has a 10-15 year plan for her life, educated, has good morals and values, and is not letting society tell her what to do...And she did it right, she followed her plan, and it got her where she is. A good guy, finally expecting her first child, she is a music legend, and the world knows her as the woman who never gives up, but keeps going.
Anyway, I think you can have both, traits and looks, just be practical about both of them and remember there are things about yourself that are not so perfect but it is what you have in your heart that matters, and how you use your head.
Just some thoughts that have been with me for a few weeks.
Until next time:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Saturday, August 27, 2011
R.I.P
I wrote this the day Mr. Layton passed but never posted...
Yesterday morning the Canada lot a great leader. Jack Layton passed away from a cancer. He was 61 years old.
We treat life as if we have forever, when really, we only have the days we are given. We take so much for granted, yet we forget that one day, we could lose everything we have within minutes. I will keep this short, but I just wanted to say Prayers to the Layton family, relatives, though I never knew him personally, I know he accomplished a lot while he was alive.
I hope and pray for a better day tomorrow, and that no matter how tough things get, that we will always be thankful for what we have. Life is just way too short to worry about the little things, to judge others, and waste time, we need to really give God time to say thank you, because we would not where we are without him.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Yesterday morning the Canada lot a great leader. Jack Layton passed away from a cancer. He was 61 years old.
We treat life as if we have forever, when really, we only have the days we are given. We take so much for granted, yet we forget that one day, we could lose everything we have within minutes. I will keep this short, but I just wanted to say Prayers to the Layton family, relatives, though I never knew him personally, I know he accomplished a lot while he was alive.
I hope and pray for a better day tomorrow, and that no matter how tough things get, that we will always be thankful for what we have. Life is just way too short to worry about the little things, to judge others, and waste time, we need to really give God time to say thank you, because we would not where we are without him.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Undecisive Conclusion
Love is full of emotions, feelings, actions, thoughts and of course, words that are often hard to find.
But we manage to find them because they are important to us, and we know that love is so precious and hard to find, that once we do find it, we have to fight so hard not to lose it.
Love makes a person go crazy. I have seen it first hand, but love can also make a person lose her mind being in love with someone that will do anything to make her happy. Why be unhappy when you can laugh and smile all day? We want a type of love that will get us through the tough times. When he forgets to pay a bill because of work, or he left his laundry all over the living room and you are tired of 'waiting" for him to pick it up...We all know that women and men are TWO different creatures, yet we, women want men to act like we do. "NOT GONNA HAPPEN" Just ask the expert, Steve Harvey. Don't really ask him he only knows what he has gone through. He has heard the stories of what others go through and based on what his past has been like he shares how to deal with it, he is only an expert on what he has gone through.
Anyway, love does not abuse, misuse or make one feel like less of a person, would you consider that love?
God states in 1 Corinthian that love is patient, love is kind, it does not boast, it is not proud, it has no records of wrongs, and holds no grudge. Now, we all know its hard to do and be either of these, but when we present or act upon the rules God has laid out, it is not that hard to find love or be loved, it is about maintaining what you have and working with it because you made a promise in front of people and God swearing you would obey. So you have to obey. Being in relationship will make you wonder, "Why did I pick this person? He has stopped showing me kindness, like when we first met, he stopped telling me he loves me, and we speak less." He will only know how you feel once you tell him. NEVER assume he knows how you feel just because he is supposed to know you. It does not work that way. Not that I have seen.
Sooooo....love has made us go nuts and also made us so insane we want to declare it on FB, (Not a fan of PDA, as long as he/she knows that's what matters) We need to stop looking for approval from the public and only worry about in front of us.
So, will YOUR love make it or did you fall for the wrong reasons? It is okay to confess, it's good for the soul, but confess to the one that counts, the opinion that matters. Only God can judge you..
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
But we manage to find them because they are important to us, and we know that love is so precious and hard to find, that once we do find it, we have to fight so hard not to lose it.
Love makes a person go crazy. I have seen it first hand, but love can also make a person lose her mind being in love with someone that will do anything to make her happy. Why be unhappy when you can laugh and smile all day? We want a type of love that will get us through the tough times. When he forgets to pay a bill because of work, or he left his laundry all over the living room and you are tired of 'waiting" for him to pick it up...We all know that women and men are TWO different creatures, yet we, women want men to act like we do. "NOT GONNA HAPPEN" Just ask the expert, Steve Harvey. Don't really ask him he only knows what he has gone through. He has heard the stories of what others go through and based on what his past has been like he shares how to deal with it, he is only an expert on what he has gone through.
Anyway, love does not abuse, misuse or make one feel like less of a person, would you consider that love?
God states in 1 Corinthian that love is patient, love is kind, it does not boast, it is not proud, it has no records of wrongs, and holds no grudge. Now, we all know its hard to do and be either of these, but when we present or act upon the rules God has laid out, it is not that hard to find love or be loved, it is about maintaining what you have and working with it because you made a promise in front of people and God swearing you would obey. So you have to obey. Being in relationship will make you wonder, "Why did I pick this person? He has stopped showing me kindness, like when we first met, he stopped telling me he loves me, and we speak less." He will only know how you feel once you tell him. NEVER assume he knows how you feel just because he is supposed to know you. It does not work that way. Not that I have seen.
Sooooo....love has made us go nuts and also made us so insane we want to declare it on FB, (Not a fan of PDA, as long as he/she knows that's what matters) We need to stop looking for approval from the public and only worry about in front of us.
So, will YOUR love make it or did you fall for the wrong reasons? It is okay to confess, it's good for the soul, but confess to the one that counts, the opinion that matters. Only God can judge you..
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Does Love Exist/Soul Traits
My favorite/least favorite topic...
I know that love is real, but sometimes when you see people, married, couples, friends, I wonder if love was the main ingredient used to ensure everlasting happiness?
I come back to this blog after a couple weeks of ignoring it for personal and blogging reasons. I had a conversation with my family. I asked "how come nobody knocks on my door?", why doesn't anyone find me worth getting to know? Why am I still single and I'm hitting my mid-twenties? Time is changing that even our generation will marry later in life. But than my parents talked about being mentally developed and it made a lot of sense. I have a strong personality, but I am also the quietest, most shy person you can ever meet. My hard shell hides the big strong me. But no really, relationships and marriage are a LOT of work. I mention all the time that my parents have been married for 30 years next April, that is a long time. couples in Hollywood now are divorcing..Why are people not obeying God's rule of through thick or through thin? Is love no longer a part of the equation or have couples forgotten why they fell in love with" my tall dark and handsome, or my other half whom they met only months prior...There have been a lot of quick romances, and some couples are still just "together" Brangelina now have six kids and are still going strong...Seriously, she made that work...Anyhoo,
When talking to my sister, she mentioned that she does not believe in soul mate because we can have more than one. And I see how and why. When picking someone, we want someone with ambition, determination, and passion, and of course is loving. These traits make for a great person, and if she is beautiful, heck that is a bonus. But these days looks are not the main ingredient. Education, work, family, where she comes from, how she was raised, what she does not, etc. Back than we married for security unless you really did find your true love, and if you did, I salute you and wish you every happiness.
But some people marry to stay secure because they know what they need, as do the parents. It's a cultural thing. Look at P.Diddy, he has two girlfriends who both know about each other...Cassie and Kim Parker. He has kids with one, and the other knows that she needs his 'security" to stay in the place that she is in. We all know, and she knows what she is to him, and maybe her family knows too, she will only make it so far, but she has what she needs now. He will treat her like a princess, but he won't marry her. But he can also drop her so fast, leaving her stranded, we all know Jennifer Lopez is on the market again and he knows when to make his move. Just you wait...(That marriage, J-Lo and Marc Anthony) was messed up too but hey...Gotta do what ya gotta do.
Back on track. Traits are what make a person appealing. If they have what you want, cooking skills, cleaning skills, can take care of babies, enjoys having a conversation about anything from politics to movies, to books to traveling, etc. she is a keeper. Like I also stated, looks won't always count anymore...
I hope you find your soul traits, someone that fits everything you want and need in a person and you know you can make it work with them.
I pray we all find that one person we can work with and stick with them. Vows are important, life is precious and it stops being about you once someone else comes in your life. It is a lot to handle and if you cannot handle it, don't mess up the routine of someone else just because you think they are pretty. It isn't worth it...
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I know that love is real, but sometimes when you see people, married, couples, friends, I wonder if love was the main ingredient used to ensure everlasting happiness?
I come back to this blog after a couple weeks of ignoring it for personal and blogging reasons. I had a conversation with my family. I asked "how come nobody knocks on my door?", why doesn't anyone find me worth getting to know? Why am I still single and I'm hitting my mid-twenties? Time is changing that even our generation will marry later in life. But than my parents talked about being mentally developed and it made a lot of sense. I have a strong personality, but I am also the quietest, most shy person you can ever meet. My hard shell hides the big strong me. But no really, relationships and marriage are a LOT of work. I mention all the time that my parents have been married for 30 years next April, that is a long time. couples in Hollywood now are divorcing..Why are people not obeying God's rule of through thick or through thin? Is love no longer a part of the equation or have couples forgotten why they fell in love with" my tall dark and handsome, or my other half whom they met only months prior...There have been a lot of quick romances, and some couples are still just "together" Brangelina now have six kids and are still going strong...Seriously, she made that work...Anyhoo,
When talking to my sister, she mentioned that she does not believe in soul mate because we can have more than one. And I see how and why. When picking someone, we want someone with ambition, determination, and passion, and of course is loving. These traits make for a great person, and if she is beautiful, heck that is a bonus. But these days looks are not the main ingredient. Education, work, family, where she comes from, how she was raised, what she does not, etc. Back than we married for security unless you really did find your true love, and if you did, I salute you and wish you every happiness.
But some people marry to stay secure because they know what they need, as do the parents. It's a cultural thing. Look at P.Diddy, he has two girlfriends who both know about each other...Cassie and Kim Parker. He has kids with one, and the other knows that she needs his 'security" to stay in the place that she is in. We all know, and she knows what she is to him, and maybe her family knows too, she will only make it so far, but she has what she needs now. He will treat her like a princess, but he won't marry her. But he can also drop her so fast, leaving her stranded, we all know Jennifer Lopez is on the market again and he knows when to make his move. Just you wait...(That marriage, J-Lo and Marc Anthony) was messed up too but hey...Gotta do what ya gotta do.
Back on track. Traits are what make a person appealing. If they have what you want, cooking skills, cleaning skills, can take care of babies, enjoys having a conversation about anything from politics to movies, to books to traveling, etc. she is a keeper. Like I also stated, looks won't always count anymore...
I hope you find your soul traits, someone that fits everything you want and need in a person and you know you can make it work with them.
I pray we all find that one person we can work with and stick with them. Vows are important, life is precious and it stops being about you once someone else comes in your life. It is a lot to handle and if you cannot handle it, don't mess up the routine of someone else just because you think they are pretty. It isn't worth it...
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
The Help
The movie was The Help was downplayed quite a bit because it was set in such a racist time, yet they should nothing about domestic abuse, the abuse of the help, we all know back than if any major events happened they would have shown, however, it was a quite movie which focused on the "heroism" of the writer. I don't think Emma Stone should have been portrayed as the "hero" because yes, I will say it, the real hero's are the women that go through the garbage and nonsense that they go through everyday, and still come back strong no matter what. She made Viola Davis shine because she showed her as the "mother" of the women that spent hours in the homes of the white folk. Now, if you were one of those angry black women that just want to be angry that "The Help" were treated how they were because they were Black, try to remember that we do not always have to be angry, it is about how we react.
If you want to be angry, be angry but it's pointless being mad about something that happened years before you were born, what can you do about it that has not already been done?
It was a great movie, read the book first though, I should have read the book but I plan too. Sometimes things do not always add up but we do our best to fight and earn what we want, life does not always take us where we want but we live with it.
Check out the movie, it is #1 in the box office, I hope Viola Davis is recognized for her role but we know how Hollywood "forgets" our people. Anyway, that's another blog for another day!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
If you want to be angry, be angry but it's pointless being mad about something that happened years before you were born, what can you do about it that has not already been done?
It was a great movie, read the book first though, I should have read the book but I plan too. Sometimes things do not always add up but we do our best to fight and earn what we want, life does not always take us where we want but we live with it.
Check out the movie, it is #1 in the box office, I hope Viola Davis is recognized for her role but we know how Hollywood "forgets" our people. Anyway, that's another blog for another day!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Would You Wait?
Would you wait for a man to grow up and be a man before marrying him?
Confused, let me explain, would you be with someone for a long time, knowing that marriage is on your mind, not his, and still stay with him until he is ready?
It's asking a lot of a woman to give up what she deserves just because a man is either "scared" or "not there yet" which is kinda like being scared. Ive read articles about women that waited over ten years to be married to a man who "just wasn't there yet" and honestly, it's not easy. My older sister was with her now husband for 6.5-7 years. They knew each other growing up, but nothing happened until years later. They have been married for two years but at the time, most of the relationship was long distance, but he moved home, and the rest is history.
It takes men a while to really get a grip on where they are in life. To men, it's more than just about the paper coming in, it's about stability, financially, emotionally, mentally, environmentally, physically, and how much ambition he has to accomplish his goals, or how depressed he is with how the world is changing and he just hasn't caught up yet and instead of being the "man he was" he goes to the 'coach potato, with no hope and no future." Would you give up or keep pushing?
Anyway, I see these people in relationships longer than five years and I wonder, how do you do it? is marriage an option or it's been so long that you just never thought about it? I can't speak on this issue personally but I wonder if love was enough to keep me with a man for years and not be married.
We all know men need the extra push. It's important for men to have the "I'm a man feel" You cannot, and should not take that from a man. It isn't right, but it happens because women feel they can control a man...in a way yes..But not to go off track...Never speak on what you have not gone through. So I wont say how I feel, it's more of a question for women that have waited, or women that are waiting...
Well, guess we will have to wait and see what the future holds.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Confused, let me explain, would you be with someone for a long time, knowing that marriage is on your mind, not his, and still stay with him until he is ready?
It's asking a lot of a woman to give up what she deserves just because a man is either "scared" or "not there yet" which is kinda like being scared. Ive read articles about women that waited over ten years to be married to a man who "just wasn't there yet" and honestly, it's not easy. My older sister was with her now husband for 6.5-7 years. They knew each other growing up, but nothing happened until years later. They have been married for two years but at the time, most of the relationship was long distance, but he moved home, and the rest is history.
It takes men a while to really get a grip on where they are in life. To men, it's more than just about the paper coming in, it's about stability, financially, emotionally, mentally, environmentally, physically, and how much ambition he has to accomplish his goals, or how depressed he is with how the world is changing and he just hasn't caught up yet and instead of being the "man he was" he goes to the 'coach potato, with no hope and no future." Would you give up or keep pushing?
Anyway, I see these people in relationships longer than five years and I wonder, how do you do it? is marriage an option or it's been so long that you just never thought about it? I can't speak on this issue personally but I wonder if love was enough to keep me with a man for years and not be married.
We all know men need the extra push. It's important for men to have the "I'm a man feel" You cannot, and should not take that from a man. It isn't right, but it happens because women feel they can control a man...in a way yes..But not to go off track...Never speak on what you have not gone through. So I wont say how I feel, it's more of a question for women that have waited, or women that are waiting...
Well, guess we will have to wait and see what the future holds.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, August 15, 2011
Have You Ever????
Have you ever had a conversation with someone that made you really see just the type of person that you are? Good or bad?
I have been in the position for the first time, and it did not feel good.
I am always told my friends and family just how smart beautiful, and that any guy who picks me would be the luckiest guy in the world. I've heard it enough times to want to cry, but I realize now more than ever, that settling for less than what you deserve, is not right, and despite the hardships that life has us go through, whether we lose a best friend, or our parents get divorced, or we move to a new city and have to make new friends every few years, whatever we deal with, we do not go through the process alone. I have an amazing family, that has given me the utmost support. They have given me pep talks on love, friends, family, etc, and continue to remind me that everything in life takes time, and that rushing into stuff will only cause harm. I am a very determined person, dedicated, and passionate about life. Only when times have been tough, I have shown less happiness because it is hard to smile when you are feeling down. But, I am a firm believer that things will turn around. I know this because I have seen the miracles in my family, and I know that we would not be the people that we are without God and the support of the community.
I wake up some day wondering, when will I get my big break, when will I finally see my name in lights, when will the rest of my goals be achieved, and as I think about it now, my dreams will only happen if I stay focused and do not lose sight of what matters and what is important.
In a conversation that I had with a friend, I was told that men are intimidated by independence and smarts. I explained the one thing that I am afraid of and that is not being enough because of my education. I never finished university, and never knew growing up what I wanted to do. I never had a plan, and felt in conversations that I had nothing to offer. Besides my writing, I have always felt a bit inadequate and never quite knew how to handle it, however, the things I have accomplished, big or small, people see the real me, my actions have shaped my character and helped me to see things in a different light.
You can be told all your life how great you are, how incredible your writing is, but unless you feel it deep down inside, than you will not convince anyone.
The reason for this blog was to allow me to see that sometimes you are too good for someone, but it should be motivation to better you and not make the other person feel bad. It might seem that way, but I am learning to turn a negative into a positive.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have been in the position for the first time, and it did not feel good.
I am always told my friends and family just how smart beautiful, and that any guy who picks me would be the luckiest guy in the world. I've heard it enough times to want to cry, but I realize now more than ever, that settling for less than what you deserve, is not right, and despite the hardships that life has us go through, whether we lose a best friend, or our parents get divorced, or we move to a new city and have to make new friends every few years, whatever we deal with, we do not go through the process alone. I have an amazing family, that has given me the utmost support. They have given me pep talks on love, friends, family, etc, and continue to remind me that everything in life takes time, and that rushing into stuff will only cause harm. I am a very determined person, dedicated, and passionate about life. Only when times have been tough, I have shown less happiness because it is hard to smile when you are feeling down. But, I am a firm believer that things will turn around. I know this because I have seen the miracles in my family, and I know that we would not be the people that we are without God and the support of the community.
I wake up some day wondering, when will I get my big break, when will I finally see my name in lights, when will the rest of my goals be achieved, and as I think about it now, my dreams will only happen if I stay focused and do not lose sight of what matters and what is important.
In a conversation that I had with a friend, I was told that men are intimidated by independence and smarts. I explained the one thing that I am afraid of and that is not being enough because of my education. I never finished university, and never knew growing up what I wanted to do. I never had a plan, and felt in conversations that I had nothing to offer. Besides my writing, I have always felt a bit inadequate and never quite knew how to handle it, however, the things I have accomplished, big or small, people see the real me, my actions have shaped my character and helped me to see things in a different light.
You can be told all your life how great you are, how incredible your writing is, but unless you feel it deep down inside, than you will not convince anyone.
The reason for this blog was to allow me to see that sometimes you are too good for someone, but it should be motivation to better you and not make the other person feel bad. It might seem that way, but I am learning to turn a negative into a positive.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I Was There
I threw this together some time back, and now just finished it...Let me know your thoughts
I was the girl that people walked past
I was the girl that was ignored
I was the girl that you thought about, looked at, and talked about, but never spoke to
And you wonder why I eyed you the way I did
It's because you treated me the way you did
Why should I give you my time
When you don't even think I am worth a dime?
You act like a man but you speak like a child
And you wonder why a woman like me now, would go for a man like him?
It' because he sees the woman I am, and the woman I can be
He does not choose when to use me, and when to abuse me
He chooses when to love me, cherish me, and hold me
He chooses to make me smile, wipe my tears and comfort me when I sigh
He chooses to stand by me, defend me, and help me fight my battles
But you, preferred to fight against me, and watch me fall alone, with no hope of getting back up
He choose to challenge me, but not act better than me, he chose to help me, and to love me
You chose to fight me, and harm me, not protect me, And
while you chose to be that way, I chose a man who learned to say, "I love you" with his actions, thoughts, and his personality
I hope you learned your lesson, to never let something great go
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I was the girl that people walked past
I was the girl that was ignored
I was the girl that you thought about, looked at, and talked about, but never spoke to
And you wonder why I eyed you the way I did
It's because you treated me the way you did
Why should I give you my time
When you don't even think I am worth a dime?
You act like a man but you speak like a child
And you wonder why a woman like me now, would go for a man like him?
It' because he sees the woman I am, and the woman I can be
He does not choose when to use me, and when to abuse me
He chooses when to love me, cherish me, and hold me
He chooses to make me smile, wipe my tears and comfort me when I sigh
He chooses to stand by me, defend me, and help me fight my battles
But you, preferred to fight against me, and watch me fall alone, with no hope of getting back up
He choose to challenge me, but not act better than me, he chose to help me, and to love me
You chose to fight me, and harm me, not protect me, And
while you chose to be that way, I chose a man who learned to say, "I love you" with his actions, thoughts, and his personality
I hope you learned your lesson, to never let something great go
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Sunday, August 14, 2011
How To Be A Man Vs. Be Who You Are
http://iamboigenius.com/boris-kodjoe-schools-twitter-on-how-to-be-a-man/
I really won't say much but I thought that this was really neat, and encourage men to take a look, and share your thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I really won't say much but I thought that this was really neat, and encourage men to take a look, and share your thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Friday, August 12, 2011
Ain't Waiting!!
http://www.essence.com/2011/08/a09/real-talk-are-white-men-the-answer/
There is nothing wrong with dating outside your race. There is nothing wrong with being happy, and knowing the person you are with can confide in you, trust you, communicate with you, knows you better than you know yourself, and most of all, is willing to fight tooth and nail for you and show you unconditional love. When you find a man like that, regardless of where he is from, do what it takes to keep him. He will do what is necessary to be with you, and you should never think twice about letting a man like him go. I am open, and though I have my preferences, I deserve happiness, and a best friend whom I know will protect me through to the end.
Once you find God, you find everything else that you neeed.
Real love is rare but it is possible to have if you trust God to find it.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
There is nothing wrong with dating outside your race. There is nothing wrong with being happy, and knowing the person you are with can confide in you, trust you, communicate with you, knows you better than you know yourself, and most of all, is willing to fight tooth and nail for you and show you unconditional love. When you find a man like that, regardless of where he is from, do what it takes to keep him. He will do what is necessary to be with you, and you should never think twice about letting a man like him go. I am open, and though I have my preferences, I deserve happiness, and a best friend whom I know will protect me through to the end.
Once you find God, you find everything else that you neeed.
Real love is rare but it is possible to have if you trust God to find it.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Opposites Attract
Do opposites really attract? Is it possible that two people from two different cultures can meet, get to know each other, respect each other, and make it work? I do not want to use the term fall in love because it is a bit, what's the word, "abused" but that does not mean I do not believe in it. I just feel that there is more to happiness than love.
For me, when meeting someone, I am a bit of a non-traditionalist. Just ask my family, friends, they will tell you. I won't always wait for the guy to approach me, if I know I have a chance, I will go for it. I am not always afraid, but when it comes to someone I think I stand a chance with, or think that there could be something, that's when I stumble. See, for me, I am borderline proper, and non-traditional. So I do think the rules should change just a bit, but I still believe some things can remain the same. I do not believe in casual dating, but I do believe you can enjoy someone's company, and get to know them. That is excluding friends with benefits because I know I am not that type. Can you fall for the opposite of yourself? Yes you can. Now, this is where things get funny/interesting, and I will go a bit off track here, when it comes to a relationship, you should know in your heart, what you deserve, what you want, and what you are willing to fight for. The perspectives of others will not count unless you let them. So if you go against some of the rules on your checklist, knowing in your heart why you chose that, must you be exiled? Never, life has changed, the rules have changed, and I know that I have changed. So when I consider someone that I want to spend time with, I know that who I am now, is not who I was fifteen years ago, five years ago, two years ago, etc. My wants, needs, desires, ambitions, goals, and preferences have changed. They changed because I had to evaluate everything and in doing that, there are choices I would make, that others would question...But I say, "Your opinion is just that...Yours, and as much as I appreciate you looking out for me, I am aware of my choice and have considered the outcome and am prepared to handle what comes my way." (Very well answered if I say so myself. :) )
Okay, back on track...
I will try not to sound like a personals ad, but I know the type of person that I am, and I have a versatile personality. I can be an aggressive loud girl who does not give a rats about who is around her, speaks her mind and stands her ground. I can be the shy quiet ambient type, who just wants to hang back and keep to herself, prefers her own company, and enjoys thinking and pondering about her future. I can be the funny, socialite, dances like nobody is watching type of girl, OR I could be the angry, sad and tired girl that just wants to be left alone. It's hard to be who you are because so much of the time you are surrounded by people from different backgrounds and it becomes too hard to "find a good fit" So I am just who I am. If someone out there matches my loud personality and is not afraid to challenge me, please, I challenge you. A bit "personals" type there but oh well. Opposites do attract.
At this point I have had three blogs open for a week and decided to just finish them. If you read and weren't sure, feel free to ask, that's the best way to learn.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
For me, when meeting someone, I am a bit of a non-traditionalist. Just ask my family, friends, they will tell you. I won't always wait for the guy to approach me, if I know I have a chance, I will go for it. I am not always afraid, but when it comes to someone I think I stand a chance with, or think that there could be something, that's when I stumble. See, for me, I am borderline proper, and non-traditional. So I do think the rules should change just a bit, but I still believe some things can remain the same. I do not believe in casual dating, but I do believe you can enjoy someone's company, and get to know them. That is excluding friends with benefits because I know I am not that type. Can you fall for the opposite of yourself? Yes you can. Now, this is where things get funny/interesting, and I will go a bit off track here, when it comes to a relationship, you should know in your heart, what you deserve, what you want, and what you are willing to fight for. The perspectives of others will not count unless you let them. So if you go against some of the rules on your checklist, knowing in your heart why you chose that, must you be exiled? Never, life has changed, the rules have changed, and I know that I have changed. So when I consider someone that I want to spend time with, I know that who I am now, is not who I was fifteen years ago, five years ago, two years ago, etc. My wants, needs, desires, ambitions, goals, and preferences have changed. They changed because I had to evaluate everything and in doing that, there are choices I would make, that others would question...But I say, "Your opinion is just that...Yours, and as much as I appreciate you looking out for me, I am aware of my choice and have considered the outcome and am prepared to handle what comes my way." (Very well answered if I say so myself. :) )
Okay, back on track...
I will try not to sound like a personals ad, but I know the type of person that I am, and I have a versatile personality. I can be an aggressive loud girl who does not give a rats about who is around her, speaks her mind and stands her ground. I can be the shy quiet ambient type, who just wants to hang back and keep to herself, prefers her own company, and enjoys thinking and pondering about her future. I can be the funny, socialite, dances like nobody is watching type of girl, OR I could be the angry, sad and tired girl that just wants to be left alone. It's hard to be who you are because so much of the time you are surrounded by people from different backgrounds and it becomes too hard to "find a good fit" So I am just who I am. If someone out there matches my loud personality and is not afraid to challenge me, please, I challenge you. A bit "personals" type there but oh well. Opposites do attract.
At this point I have had three blogs open for a week and decided to just finish them. If you read and weren't sure, feel free to ask, that's the best way to learn.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Open Relationships/Marriage?
This will be very short, I've been on this blog for almost a week and a half and tonight I decided to just end it.
I do not believe in open marriages. Life stops being about you once you bring someone in your life.
I know everyone has their own opinions but we know that this world is known for it's greed. We need to sacrifice more, and be less selfish.
That's really all I had to say
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I do not believe in open marriages. Life stops being about you once you bring someone in your life.
I know everyone has their own opinions but we know that this world is known for it's greed. We need to sacrifice more, and be less selfish.
That's really all I had to say
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
FWB/Terms & Conditions
FWB! Friends With Benefits! This is a trend just like the whole mo hawk look with skinny jeans and fake glasses people find hot.( I do not mean to offend anyone I just don't feel the style myself....) Personally, I'm not a fan of following trends.
Why have friends with benefits? What ever happened to standards? I do not believe men and women can just be friends. People think it is possible, and I wrote a blog on this a while ago, but after watching the movie, (BTW Justin Timberlake is not a good actor, they should have used James Franco....Or the Blonde dude from Fantastic Four (stretch dude) it's just one movie, but still. We are afraid of commitment and proving to one another that we will "stick with you in good times and bad". My parents have been married for 30 years next April. That's a long time. In Hollywood, a couple that makes it to a year is a big deal, but the big thing now is just being together without a ring and a ceremony, and now kids are involved. My only issue, is that what about your kids? I watched an episode of Single Ladies which I like very much because it shows what single women really do go through, relationships, exes, being friends with benefits, etc. It's not easy. Valerie had made a promise to herself to be friends with a guy and just get to know him before allowing him to woo her into dating him. She can afford nice things, she has a great job, does well and does not need a man to complete her, but she wants the whole marriage and kids setting, and some men just want the benefits package. Val's first boyfriend Quinn was a professional Basketball player. They were together for five years, but he never planned on marrying her, and he was not in love with her, he just enjoyed her company, and he knew she could pull herself together. She has a great body at her age, and is not afraid to show it. So when she and her friends are celebrating the shop open, somehow the convo turns to marriage and why it never happened for those two. She breaks up with him because he claimed he never loved her, etc....So months later she meets this guy Jerry, he owns her ex-boyfriends team, and after spending lots of days, weeks, time away, Jerry decides to tell Val, (after seeing her in a wedding dress) that he refuses to marry again and have kids, but is willing to be with her for the rest of his life. He's been married three times, and already has kids, and knew after that not to do it again...Poor Val. She wants the real deal, he just wants his deal. So she breaks up with him because she deserves more and won't settle. I said, "good for her"
If a man wants you to settle because of his conditions, do not do it. If you know you are the type to get married, have kids, travel the world, etc, do that, but never let a man tell you, "if you love me, you'll do this" because that's not true. If a man loved you, he would consider your feelings and your future plans and he would find a way to compromise. We are all entitled to being happy, laughing, being treated right, and of course, spoiled once in a while, but we should never give up what we want to please someone else.
My own personal choice is to let the guy know upfront, when I'm ready to settle, what I really want. I am the type that wants the mushy romance. I do want to get married, I want kids, I love traveling, I want to try new things, but I need someone who won't ask me to give that up. I know the type of person that I am, and if a guy cares about more than himself, he will consider my future with his.
So this whole FWB thing? Not my thing, and I do not think anyone should settle for less. Never let someone tell you how to live life. There will always be another guy out there for you, just don't give up, trust God, and keep doing you. You will regret your choice if you settle, in the end you will regret him/her, so I urge you to make sure before you sign the dotted line, to read over the terms and conditions. Honesty is better than lying.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
Why have friends with benefits? What ever happened to standards? I do not believe men and women can just be friends. People think it is possible, and I wrote a blog on this a while ago, but after watching the movie, (BTW Justin Timberlake is not a good actor, they should have used James Franco....Or the Blonde dude from Fantastic Four (stretch dude) it's just one movie, but still. We are afraid of commitment and proving to one another that we will "stick with you in good times and bad". My parents have been married for 30 years next April. That's a long time. In Hollywood, a couple that makes it to a year is a big deal, but the big thing now is just being together without a ring and a ceremony, and now kids are involved. My only issue, is that what about your kids? I watched an episode of Single Ladies which I like very much because it shows what single women really do go through, relationships, exes, being friends with benefits, etc. It's not easy. Valerie had made a promise to herself to be friends with a guy and just get to know him before allowing him to woo her into dating him. She can afford nice things, she has a great job, does well and does not need a man to complete her, but she wants the whole marriage and kids setting, and some men just want the benefits package. Val's first boyfriend Quinn was a professional Basketball player. They were together for five years, but he never planned on marrying her, and he was not in love with her, he just enjoyed her company, and he knew she could pull herself together. She has a great body at her age, and is not afraid to show it. So when she and her friends are celebrating the shop open, somehow the convo turns to marriage and why it never happened for those two. She breaks up with him because he claimed he never loved her, etc....So months later she meets this guy Jerry, he owns her ex-boyfriends team, and after spending lots of days, weeks, time away, Jerry decides to tell Val, (after seeing her in a wedding dress) that he refuses to marry again and have kids, but is willing to be with her for the rest of his life. He's been married three times, and already has kids, and knew after that not to do it again...Poor Val. She wants the real deal, he just wants his deal. So she breaks up with him because she deserves more and won't settle. I said, "good for her"
If a man wants you to settle because of his conditions, do not do it. If you know you are the type to get married, have kids, travel the world, etc, do that, but never let a man tell you, "if you love me, you'll do this" because that's not true. If a man loved you, he would consider your feelings and your future plans and he would find a way to compromise. We are all entitled to being happy, laughing, being treated right, and of course, spoiled once in a while, but we should never give up what we want to please someone else.
My own personal choice is to let the guy know upfront, when I'm ready to settle, what I really want. I am the type that wants the mushy romance. I do want to get married, I want kids, I love traveling, I want to try new things, but I need someone who won't ask me to give that up. I know the type of person that I am, and if a guy cares about more than himself, he will consider my future with his.
So this whole FWB thing? Not my thing, and I do not think anyone should settle for less. Never let someone tell you how to live life. There will always be another guy out there for you, just don't give up, trust God, and keep doing you. You will regret your choice if you settle, in the end you will regret him/her, so I urge you to make sure before you sign the dotted line, to read over the terms and conditions. Honesty is better than lying.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Fake To Make It
We all do it. Well, for those that have admitted it, we have faked it to make it. Nobody wants to be left alone, nobody likes going places on their own, okay, some people might, but have you ever really asked a person if they were really happy being on their own?
Not having a partner, or friend or a lover by their side? Some people never get married they just date because they don't want commitment, but they don't want to be alone. So they do the whole friends with benefits package. That's not my style. I believe in commitment because I have watched a lot of relationships, and marriages succeed.
There are days I don't like being alone, and days when I prefer being alone. The days I don't like being alone are when people move away to start over, or people go on a trip and are gone for a month or so. I say this because for the first time in a long time my sister took her first trip on her own. She's gone for a month. I've traveled lots of times before and am used to traveling, but I now know what it feels like to come home to an empty house, or an empty room. Yes, sob sob, I am dealing with it. Of course I miss my sister, but I don't want to depend on her to be happy. Which is why I do encourage people to be okay being on their own before settling down because once you make that choice, you can't turn back.
Now, when people ask me if I miss someone, there are times when I try to 'pretend' because I don't want to show signs of being weak. But it's not about being weak, it's about being honest. Yes I miss the person I spend hours talking to at night, or yes I miss the person I shop with sometimes, or eat out with sometimes. But should I fake it so people don't think I will fall apart? No, I keep going. When I was in England for three months, my sister had to learn a lot on her own. Like braiding her hair. I wasn't there so she had to get it done. She survived me not being there, but it was hard for her, just like it's hard for me, but God sees us through it all. That's one thing I know is true. Faking is lying. It isn't right, but everyone has their own reasons because in this world, we still get judged for the choices we make, places we go, who we hang out with, etc. Though the only person that can judge is God, we have to remember that he knows that we are faking it. He knew I missed my sister even though I tried to play it cool and tough. We all do it so survive, but is it worth it?
Being real is better than being fake and I know that acting differently in order to "fit in" makes things worse. Do what you love, we owe nothing to each other, just live your life.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Not having a partner, or friend or a lover by their side? Some people never get married they just date because they don't want commitment, but they don't want to be alone. So they do the whole friends with benefits package. That's not my style. I believe in commitment because I have watched a lot of relationships, and marriages succeed.
There are days I don't like being alone, and days when I prefer being alone. The days I don't like being alone are when people move away to start over, or people go on a trip and are gone for a month or so. I say this because for the first time in a long time my sister took her first trip on her own. She's gone for a month. I've traveled lots of times before and am used to traveling, but I now know what it feels like to come home to an empty house, or an empty room. Yes, sob sob, I am dealing with it. Of course I miss my sister, but I don't want to depend on her to be happy. Which is why I do encourage people to be okay being on their own before settling down because once you make that choice, you can't turn back.
Now, when people ask me if I miss someone, there are times when I try to 'pretend' because I don't want to show signs of being weak. But it's not about being weak, it's about being honest. Yes I miss the person I spend hours talking to at night, or yes I miss the person I shop with sometimes, or eat out with sometimes. But should I fake it so people don't think I will fall apart? No, I keep going. When I was in England for three months, my sister had to learn a lot on her own. Like braiding her hair. I wasn't there so she had to get it done. She survived me not being there, but it was hard for her, just like it's hard for me, but God sees us through it all. That's one thing I know is true. Faking is lying. It isn't right, but everyone has their own reasons because in this world, we still get judged for the choices we make, places we go, who we hang out with, etc. Though the only person that can judge is God, we have to remember that he knows that we are faking it. He knew I missed my sister even though I tried to play it cool and tough. We all do it so survive, but is it worth it?
Being real is better than being fake and I know that acting differently in order to "fit in" makes things worse. Do what you love, we owe nothing to each other, just live your life.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
"We Fall Down" But We Get Back Up (Donnie McClurkin Song Title)
I decided to attend Poetry Night. I haven't gone in maybe four months because things were becoming too different, and I didn't fit it. When Speak was at Gingers, I felt like I was a part of a family. I remember my first night on stage. I was sooo nervous, but they took me in. The diversity, the culture, the way they hugged me and smiled at me, yes, it made me feel like I mattered, and that I was important. We all want to feel like we mean something to someone, or that we matter to a project, or a company. I've worked in companies where I was treated very badly. My lack of education and "no sense of direction" told my boss that I wasn't good enough. But I wasn't strong enough to stand up for my self. There are days when I am still too weak to defend my self, but I know now that I am my worst enemy, and I am not letting mys elf be scared anymore. Even though Speak has a different crowd, and some of the diversity is gone, it does not mean that it should stay that way. We can change things and make them ten times better. With work, and a strong team of dedicated passionate poets, anything is possible.
A friend of mine has been pushing me for so long to do what I love, but fear has held me back for years. I fear not being good enough, and no being liked, I fear not being seen for my style of writing. I don't write my poems like this, if you've read my work, you would know. Some maybe, but not all.
But this one person, every time I talk to them, I am encouraged to write again, but once I begin, the inner thoughts tell me I am not good enough, when I know for a fact, I am amazing. People have todl me, and I know that I have what it takes.
So I encourage you to show some love and support for a fellow writer/poet and the Company House tomorrow night on Gottingen Street, with all the strength I have, I am getting up on stage. Just pray I do not get nervous, it's been a while!
Time: 8:30-11:30
Bring 5 bucks
And an open mind
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
A friend of mine has been pushing me for so long to do what I love, but fear has held me back for years. I fear not being good enough, and no being liked, I fear not being seen for my style of writing. I don't write my poems like this, if you've read my work, you would know. Some maybe, but not all.
But this one person, every time I talk to them, I am encouraged to write again, but once I begin, the inner thoughts tell me I am not good enough, when I know for a fact, I am amazing. People have todl me, and I know that I have what it takes.
So I encourage you to show some love and support for a fellow writer/poet and the Company House tomorrow night on Gottingen Street, with all the strength I have, I am getting up on stage. Just pray I do not get nervous, it's been a while!
Time: 8:30-11:30
Bring 5 bucks
And an open mind
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Can't Touch This
http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/07/25/touching.natural.black.hair/index.html
I stumbled upon this article the other day, and I knew how this person felt. I do not mind people asking about my hair, but do NOT, just grab my hair and pretend it belongs to you. That hair is physically attached to my head, and the last time I checked, it is not on display for some white person to just touch on his/her own free will.
There, (phew, got out the anger, now to focus on the blog. lol)
The one job where I worked was my first job, that's when my hair struck up conversation.
"Is that your real hair? Can I touch it? It feels like sheeps wool." I showed up to work with my hair in a weave, and my co-workers asked to see what my real hair looked like, on the floor of the shop. I mean, honestly, I'm not some display where a person is situated, and you peek under to see what the real hair is, how it is sewed in, glued in, like really people??? I am human, if you want to know just ask without touching, or asking to touch. I like my space and it doesn't mean I am being rude but it is my body. It is OUR body that you feel you can handle without care.
All races use fake hair in their own hair. White people like volume and length, different colors etc, so they added clip-on's or hair pieces for ponytails. so they can add something. When I was a kid, I had cornrows growing up, than into junior high and high school, weaves, extensions, hair pieces, a wig or two, my styles were always different. There were times I had my real hair out, short, permed, straightened, curled, as long as it looked good and I could rock it I had no problems. But some people always had something to say. People will always comment, just learn to ignore it and live your own life.
Now I am very comfy in my own skin. I've rocked and an Afro, but I only do extensions because weaves make me feel limited. I think the world has accepted that we people of color whether Asian, Hispanic, Black Nova Scotian, etc, we know who we are and do not need fake hair to feel good, we wear it to help our own hair grow. That's why I wear braids. To help my hair grow.
(Correct me if I have made a mistake)
Everyone in this world is different and I encourage you to read up on African/Black history. You will be amazed. I need to brush up, it's been a while, I have over ten book I need to read, started lots but never finished.
hair is a sign of strength for Blacks and African Americans. What is your strength?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I stumbled upon this article the other day, and I knew how this person felt. I do not mind people asking about my hair, but do NOT, just grab my hair and pretend it belongs to you. That hair is physically attached to my head, and the last time I checked, it is not on display for some white person to just touch on his/her own free will.
There, (phew, got out the anger, now to focus on the blog. lol)
The one job where I worked was my first job, that's when my hair struck up conversation.
"Is that your real hair? Can I touch it? It feels like sheeps wool." I showed up to work with my hair in a weave, and my co-workers asked to see what my real hair looked like, on the floor of the shop. I mean, honestly, I'm not some display where a person is situated, and you peek under to see what the real hair is, how it is sewed in, glued in, like really people??? I am human, if you want to know just ask without touching, or asking to touch. I like my space and it doesn't mean I am being rude but it is my body. It is OUR body that you feel you can handle without care.
All races use fake hair in their own hair. White people like volume and length, different colors etc, so they added clip-on's or hair pieces for ponytails. so they can add something. When I was a kid, I had cornrows growing up, than into junior high and high school, weaves, extensions, hair pieces, a wig or two, my styles were always different. There were times I had my real hair out, short, permed, straightened, curled, as long as it looked good and I could rock it I had no problems. But some people always had something to say. People will always comment, just learn to ignore it and live your own life.
Now I am very comfy in my own skin. I've rocked and an Afro, but I only do extensions because weaves make me feel limited. I think the world has accepted that we people of color whether Asian, Hispanic, Black Nova Scotian, etc, we know who we are and do not need fake hair to feel good, we wear it to help our own hair grow. That's why I wear braids. To help my hair grow.
(Correct me if I have made a mistake)
Everyone in this world is different and I encourage you to read up on African/Black history. You will be amazed. I need to brush up, it's been a while, I have over ten book I need to read, started lots but never finished.
hair is a sign of strength for Blacks and African Americans. What is your strength?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Live/Laugh, But Most Importantly, Learn
Life is all about learning. I learn new things about myself all the time. I know most people see an angry version of me, but there is a happy version of me. I try really hard to walk the walk AND talk the talk, but things get in the way and we often get thrown off track, as long as you get back up again, no worries right?
I laugh when things are funny, I smile when I'm happy, and when I'm upset, well, I blog about it but I share my feelings. Or I do my best to. I do not hide behind my computer, I am just home a lot and I enjoy spending time on my laptop, looking up different things, watching movies I'd never watch, shows I miss when I am out, I live at home so I help out a lot. Cleaning, cooking, whatever needs to be done, I make sure I achieve the goals for the day. I am learning to help out because my parents should not have to do it if I am home. One thing I see now is that maybe I am not supposed to be working. It may sound bad, but I see it as an opportunity to spend time on things I normally cannot do if I was working 35-40 hours a week. You get up early, spend an hour getting ready, leave for work, you spend 8 hours getting done what you can, than some days you have other events that you help out with, meetings, maybe a friend wants to see a movie, or go for coffee, or you have errands to run. That's a lot on a person. And some would say that's life, but that life can make a person so tired you want to sleep in on the weekends, and forget everything else. And think if the person was in school, and working, and still doing other events, it's a lot to do, and you get home and you still have to have supper, clean up, and plan the next few days, you don't have time to write, like I want to, and right now, I really need that. So the way I see it, God is blessing me by and telling me to take in the time I have right now because some jobs are so demanding they require overtime, and bringing work home, (Not on my watch) Yeah, no. I don't even mind working part-time. That's how serious I am about doing what I love. I want to be a professional play writer and I am determined to make it happen!
It takes me a long time to really see what God is trying to say. I have trouble listening and that is not good. I do my best, like I always say, but there are times when I really forget to listen and God throws signs in front of me to a point where I can't ignore. Like some signs this year that sent sent were to keep braiding because it makes you happy. I was braiding mostly on the weekends when I was still working, but by the first week of Feb, I was a free woman. (Unemployed) It felt weird not getting up, but I got used to it. I job hunted like crazy, I used all my resources, but things weren't changing. I Had to learn a new way. And that's all I've been doing. Learning a new way live my life. From the way I eat, to how I dress, to the way I talk, text, move, where I go, if finding a man won't work at Poetry night, try at a soccer game, or maybe go on a trip, and find a guy on a plane. (I found a guy in an airport...Didn't go far but the point is it happened where I least expected it.)
So you can find what you just keep your options and your eyes open and listen to God.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
I laugh when things are funny, I smile when I'm happy, and when I'm upset, well, I blog about it but I share my feelings. Or I do my best to. I do not hide behind my computer, I am just home a lot and I enjoy spending time on my laptop, looking up different things, watching movies I'd never watch, shows I miss when I am out, I live at home so I help out a lot. Cleaning, cooking, whatever needs to be done, I make sure I achieve the goals for the day. I am learning to help out because my parents should not have to do it if I am home. One thing I see now is that maybe I am not supposed to be working. It may sound bad, but I see it as an opportunity to spend time on things I normally cannot do if I was working 35-40 hours a week. You get up early, spend an hour getting ready, leave for work, you spend 8 hours getting done what you can, than some days you have other events that you help out with, meetings, maybe a friend wants to see a movie, or go for coffee, or you have errands to run. That's a lot on a person. And some would say that's life, but that life can make a person so tired you want to sleep in on the weekends, and forget everything else. And think if the person was in school, and working, and still doing other events, it's a lot to do, and you get home and you still have to have supper, clean up, and plan the next few days, you don't have time to write, like I want to, and right now, I really need that. So the way I see it, God is blessing me by and telling me to take in the time I have right now because some jobs are so demanding they require overtime, and bringing work home, (Not on my watch) Yeah, no. I don't even mind working part-time. That's how serious I am about doing what I love. I want to be a professional play writer and I am determined to make it happen!
It takes me a long time to really see what God is trying to say. I have trouble listening and that is not good. I do my best, like I always say, but there are times when I really forget to listen and God throws signs in front of me to a point where I can't ignore. Like some signs this year that sent sent were to keep braiding because it makes you happy. I was braiding mostly on the weekends when I was still working, but by the first week of Feb, I was a free woman. (Unemployed) It felt weird not getting up, but I got used to it. I job hunted like crazy, I used all my resources, but things weren't changing. I Had to learn a new way. And that's all I've been doing. Learning a new way live my life. From the way I eat, to how I dress, to the way I talk, text, move, where I go, if finding a man won't work at Poetry night, try at a soccer game, or maybe go on a trip, and find a guy on a plane. (I found a guy in an airport...Didn't go far but the point is it happened where I least expected it.)
So you can find what you just keep your options and your eyes open and listen to God.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
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