Does love at first really happen? I have heard a few stories where some people say it was love at first sight for them when they saw the person they would spend the rest of their lives with. Is it possible in less than a minute to see your future partner? And know that they would be the person you commit to every single day until death parts thee? There are some people that can answer this question if they are happily married regardless how they met. Life is short!
I also know in some cultures marriage is arranged, you may not even know the person, they may be older than you, but arranged marriage still happens in some parts of the world.
I watched the Wedding Planner, (I love Jennifer Lopez) And in the movie she and her dad had a conversation about love, and marriage and how it worked for (in the movie) for her father and her mother. He claims that she didn't want to marry him but than at some point while they were together, (still in the movie + this was a great lesson) he got sick, and she stayed by his side until he was in good health, and feelings grew and in the end, they were inseparable. So it is possible to grow to love someone, you just have to work at it. Even if the union is already decided, you still have to learn to be around the person.
I only brought this up because I have never been in love before. I have liked people, and grew to care for them very much, but have never really fallen in love with someone. I grew an emotional attachment to someone, but that was because of distance, which can also make it hard to keep the fire going, but I know people that have made it work.
I know in movies, we see things differently, let's just remind ourselves that movies are scripted and people are told what to say. Life does not work that way. In a script, you can change it however you want, but once you leave the set, things are different. And after I wrote this sentence it inspired my new title...We handle life different. I know the main thing I need in a man is for him to know and love God, if God is the center of our lives, anything is possible.
Key things I need in relationship:
God
Trust
Communication
Honesty
Love
Patience
At the end of the some may trump others but I need these in order for things to work. If these things are not present, we work to make sure they are. I do not believe in divorce, so I am praying to God that my special someone and I are perfectly matched for each other. If we go out picking the guy we want, he may not have all the features we want, so we settle for less, but with God, you get what you deserve.
Lust at first sight can be tricky, but we are all adults here What you do is your business and only you and God know, but I urge you to make sure you know why you are doing it.
So, lust at first sight? or love at first sight?
It can be both, or just one, but which you choose, make sure it is because you and God made this choice together.
I used to watch movies everyday or every other day, but growing up things are different, and you learn to see reality. I hope you can separate a scripted life to your life, because they go two different ways.
Our script is the bible, our parents, and family/church family, not everyone goes by the books we go by, not to say they are wrong, but, we are not the same.
Pray Until Something Happens!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Saturday, June 18, 2011
Good Morning! Not So Great News!!!!!!!
http://au.news.yahoo.com/thewest/a/-/world/9665811/former-zambian-president-frederick-chiluba-dies/
So though I was born in Zambia, I was raised in Canada, and very often feel very disconnected from home. I love my country, I am proud of who I am, but I still often wonder, how different would my life be if I had stayed back home? I would know the language, I would have been taught differently, education is a lot more structured, and I would have come about things differently. However, that is and was not the case.
My parents brought us to Canada when I was a year and a half. They wanted better opportunities for themselves as well as for their children. My mother won a scholarship to study so she took it and we moved! I grew up in Canada, so I am familiar with how things are done. In some sense. But one thing I wish I had kept was learning and staying in touch with family, and keeping up with current events.
So last night I read statuses on FB and I discover that my former Zambian President died. I attached a link, but it is sad to know that he has passed. Although I am not around to see the work being done, I am not a fan of politics, I pass my respects to the family a will keep them in my prayers. Every country goes through it's own trials and tribulations but regardless, we all stand proud. I pray the family makes it through and I ask that you keep the former presidents family in your prayers, and to also remember to stay in touch with family, and to stay updated on current events. Knowing what goes on outside of your own world means you care and are not so wrapped up in your own world. I am learning that there is life outside of mine and I am determined to make sure I pay my respects where ever I am.
Feel free to read the link attached it talks about the death and what happened.
More to come later today!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
So though I was born in Zambia, I was raised in Canada, and very often feel very disconnected from home. I love my country, I am proud of who I am, but I still often wonder, how different would my life be if I had stayed back home? I would know the language, I would have been taught differently, education is a lot more structured, and I would have come about things differently. However, that is and was not the case.
My parents brought us to Canada when I was a year and a half. They wanted better opportunities for themselves as well as for their children. My mother won a scholarship to study so she took it and we moved! I grew up in Canada, so I am familiar with how things are done. In some sense. But one thing I wish I had kept was learning and staying in touch with family, and keeping up with current events.
So last night I read statuses on FB and I discover that my former Zambian President died. I attached a link, but it is sad to know that he has passed. Although I am not around to see the work being done, I am not a fan of politics, I pass my respects to the family a will keep them in my prayers. Every country goes through it's own trials and tribulations but regardless, we all stand proud. I pray the family makes it through and I ask that you keep the former presidents family in your prayers, and to also remember to stay in touch with family, and to stay updated on current events. Knowing what goes on outside of your own world means you care and are not so wrapped up in your own world. I am learning that there is life outside of mine and I am determined to make sure I pay my respects where ever I am.
Feel free to read the link attached it talks about the death and what happened.
More to come later today!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thoughts
I think a lot. Which is why I started writing when I was in elementary school. I needed a way to remember my thoughts, and I also enjoy seeing how far I have come as a person. This blog is also a way for me to let others know they are not alone in their thoughts. Life is hard, and sometimes we need a guide, or a push to ensure we do not fall off track. I have had some of my own obstacles, but I know God has seen me through them all and hat has made me a stronger person.
For those that do not really know me, here is a snippet.
I am in my mid-twenties, I am Baptist, I live at home, I am looking for a job, I write when I am bored, happy, sad, alone, inspired, in love, in lust, obsessed, etc. When I was younger I dreamed that I would be a play write. I wanted to be like Tyler Perry. His work has changed, and so has my vision. I want to write my own types of stories. God has reminded me what I love to do, and I have been motivated to continue my work. I want to paint pictures with words. I believe in audience reaction. I like knowing people understand that they do not walk alone, or stand alone, I like plays better than movies because the people can actually see the actors rather than view on screen.
(Anyway)
I am in the middle of writing two books, a poetry book, and a book on my life experiences. Check back for updates. Keep me in your prayers that a job may come through, and also pray that I finish my poetry book. It is long overdue.
Signed:
Gyfted Artyst
For those that do not really know me, here is a snippet.
I am in my mid-twenties, I am Baptist, I live at home, I am looking for a job, I write when I am bored, happy, sad, alone, inspired, in love, in lust, obsessed, etc. When I was younger I dreamed that I would be a play write. I wanted to be like Tyler Perry. His work has changed, and so has my vision. I want to write my own types of stories. God has reminded me what I love to do, and I have been motivated to continue my work. I want to paint pictures with words. I believe in audience reaction. I like knowing people understand that they do not walk alone, or stand alone, I like plays better than movies because the people can actually see the actors rather than view on screen.
(Anyway)
I am in the middle of writing two books, a poetry book, and a book on my life experiences. Check back for updates. Keep me in your prayers that a job may come through, and also pray that I finish my poetry book. It is long overdue.
Signed:
Gyfted Artyst
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