Why do we do what we do?
Why do we ask a question, if we already know the answer? Why do we get involved with people we already know in the end, may hurt us, what is it that attracts us to these types of people? Why do we feel the need to put ourselves in a position that could hurt us?
Ive been there, and its not the best feeling, at the time it feels right, but that's what temptation feels like. Right, and wrong. We know it shouldn't happen, but we do it because it feels good...Ya know you've been there.
Short and sweet
Hope your also checking out my other blog TheSilentPoet!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Friday, September 30, 2011
Yup, We're Going There
http://www.essence.com/2011/09/27/real-talk-are-you-willing-to-date-a-non-black-man/
I love how it is okay for a Black man to date a woman outside of his race, but when it comes to a Black woman dating outside of her race, the world turns upside down, and we act as if we are losing our heads. Why does it matter if I date a white man, Asian man, Latin, Hispanic, British, what does it matter? I am not waiting for a Black man, any to come to his senses. If someone finds me attractive, that is because God put us together. Brothers do not have a right to be upset if they see their sistah's dating a white guy. Honestly, I could care less what his color is, it's his heart, mind and soul that I am interested in. If we get along great, have a lot in common, and he treats me like I am the only woman that matters, why should I let him go? Because he isn't Black? That is absolute foolishness, and you need to get over yourselves. Do not act insulted when you see a sistah hanging with a white guy. If he loves her, he loves her, you love someone, let her find her happiness. There are brothers out there, but the problem is that they either do not know what they want, they claim that us Black women want too much, (a good man isn't asking for much, but we want to be taken care of like our fathers cared for us, why settle for less?) My dad, no matter what the cost, circumstance or situation, he would always provide because that's what his job was. Even as we get older, he will still care for us regardless if we live with him or not.
The link that I posted above is about Black women dating outside their race. I normally would pass this up, but I would like to know why it matters if we date outside or not when men have been doing it for years? Not just Black men either, White men dating non white girls, Asian's dating non Asian's, somehow, Black women are still a target in this world, for reasons that should not even matter.
Why can't we just live our lives?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I love how it is okay for a Black man to date a woman outside of his race, but when it comes to a Black woman dating outside of her race, the world turns upside down, and we act as if we are losing our heads. Why does it matter if I date a white man, Asian man, Latin, Hispanic, British, what does it matter? I am not waiting for a Black man, any to come to his senses. If someone finds me attractive, that is because God put us together. Brothers do not have a right to be upset if they see their sistah's dating a white guy. Honestly, I could care less what his color is, it's his heart, mind and soul that I am interested in. If we get along great, have a lot in common, and he treats me like I am the only woman that matters, why should I let him go? Because he isn't Black? That is absolute foolishness, and you need to get over yourselves. Do not act insulted when you see a sistah hanging with a white guy. If he loves her, he loves her, you love someone, let her find her happiness. There are brothers out there, but the problem is that they either do not know what they want, they claim that us Black women want too much, (a good man isn't asking for much, but we want to be taken care of like our fathers cared for us, why settle for less?) My dad, no matter what the cost, circumstance or situation, he would always provide because that's what his job was. Even as we get older, he will still care for us regardless if we live with him or not.
The link that I posted above is about Black women dating outside their race. I normally would pass this up, but I would like to know why it matters if we date outside or not when men have been doing it for years? Not just Black men either, White men dating non white girls, Asian's dating non Asian's, somehow, Black women are still a target in this world, for reasons that should not even matter.
Why can't we just live our lives?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Women & Men: Vague I know!
Women and men both make a lot of mistakes, however, we do not always see them as mistakes, but more so choices made to determine the best solution of a problem. We only want what is best, yet the world seems to decide otherwise. Will society ever just let us be? Not really, but we will continue to prove to the world that we marry for both love and money, why can't we have both? Some marry for one, some marry for none, they marry someone because they know that this person can help them survive. After all, this world is survival of the fittest, and sadly, we know that our third world countries are not doing so great, but that is because of the bad leadership, and greed.
If men understood how a woman thought, would they cheat? Would he let his eyes wonder? If a woman knew her man would she even bother being with him? Why doesn't she just let him go?
I just find it funny and odd how men and women operate. We upset each other all the time, and still yet, we cannot make it without one another. Literally, even if two women fell in love, they still need a man to get em pregnant. Can't escape that one, and the same goes for men...Anyway, off topic...
I really think and believe that if we took the time to understand each other, than we would want to hurt each other less. Instead of cheating, be honest and tell the girl you have a woman. Just because you are not seen together does not mean you take advantage. Ladies, check in with your man, let him know what's up. I watched The Game, and even though Melanie and Derwin had some major issues between them, they remained honest even though it could have broken them. They have overcome many trials, infidelity, a child from two unwed parents, we have witnessed them get through, and still yet, they love each other. She knew what she was doing, they watched each other fail, but they also pushed each other to succeed because that is what's important. Why watch your lover fail if you know you can help them? Don't do them wrong just because the opportunity is there. I do not care if it is a man or a woman, neither should act like idiots. If you got something good, you better work hard to make it stick other wise you can kiss what is called love goodbye. It can only happen so many times.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
If men understood how a woman thought, would they cheat? Would he let his eyes wonder? If a woman knew her man would she even bother being with him? Why doesn't she just let him go?
I just find it funny and odd how men and women operate. We upset each other all the time, and still yet, we cannot make it without one another. Literally, even if two women fell in love, they still need a man to get em pregnant. Can't escape that one, and the same goes for men...Anyway, off topic...
I really think and believe that if we took the time to understand each other, than we would want to hurt each other less. Instead of cheating, be honest and tell the girl you have a woman. Just because you are not seen together does not mean you take advantage. Ladies, check in with your man, let him know what's up. I watched The Game, and even though Melanie and Derwin had some major issues between them, they remained honest even though it could have broken them. They have overcome many trials, infidelity, a child from two unwed parents, we have witnessed them get through, and still yet, they love each other. She knew what she was doing, they watched each other fail, but they also pushed each other to succeed because that is what's important. Why watch your lover fail if you know you can help them? Don't do them wrong just because the opportunity is there. I do not care if it is a man or a woman, neither should act like idiots. If you got something good, you better work hard to make it stick other wise you can kiss what is called love goodbye. It can only happen so many times.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Procrastinator
Yup, I procrastinate!!!!!
I have spent the past week talking about how I would read, yet for most of the days, I either spend them at the mall, by accident, or hanging with friends so I never really hit the study area. This does not make me lazy, I just have to get used to being in school. And I am not yet.
So anyway, I started a new blog, not sure I mentioned it but I will be poetry blogging about everything and anything no matter what the topic, so feel free to check it out!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have spent the past week talking about how I would read, yet for most of the days, I either spend them at the mall, by accident, or hanging with friends so I never really hit the study area. This does not make me lazy, I just have to get used to being in school. And I am not yet.
So anyway, I started a new blog, not sure I mentioned it but I will be poetry blogging about everything and anything no matter what the topic, so feel free to check it out!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Sunday, September 25, 2011
In My Opinion (And I have no problem being corrected)
First and foremost, I am not an expert, and if I do not know anything about a topic, I do not talk about it, and obviously, I have a lot of homework to do because this past weekend I although I missed most of the events, I was able to attend the gala for the African Diaspora Heritage Trail Conference and it was amazing. Though I missed the workshops and seminars about change and how to move forward, etc, I still wonder, will anything really happen or will it all just be talk?
Almost a month ago a friend sent an email in regards to a blog that I had posted, and I was overwhelmed by the response but I also realized how little I know about a lot of stuff. Before I answer his questions, I just wanted to express how important education is, and that no matter how scared you might be, hard things may get, or "tough" you have to act to make it, just know that you will make it with the support of the community.
So, onto the blog responses: I really hope I do them justice and if not please let me know, and I will do my homework.
First question:
"Firstly in your article you mention that we hurt ourselves and treat each other like we do not love each other. Are you saying that Black people don't love each other? And if so how did I come to that conclusion?"
My answer: I do believe that we do love each other, but sometimes we do things, not so nice things like stab each other in the back. I could sit here and list but I'd be here all night. We have such a large black community, yet somehow, families turn on each other, siblings kill each other, and it is not even just black people that do these to each other, it is everyone, Hispanics, Latino's, Whites, Africans, Asian's, wherever you are, something in the community turns families, friends and businesses against each other and it causes a major rift. When we see a young child out on the street, instead of telling her to go home, we talk behind her back and spread rumors about another parent's kid, but when it is our own kid, we deny it and say, "not my child" but yet we have no issues telling another parent that they caught their child on the corner. Why do we do these types of things to each other? Honestly, I cannot tell you, but it is not right, and it should not happen...I hope it changes, or that it is changing.
His question: "You later say we have come a long way. This is a statement I definitely agree with, progress has been made. Since when to which time frame are you referring?"
My answer: I do not know the specific timeline, however, if we have not progressed in any way, we would not have a Black President, we would not have had a woman run for president, women were a minority, and in some countries/religions they still are, but we have fought to make sure that equality went all the way around. We have Black supermodels, we have African Canadians and Americans that own and successfully run their own businesses, we have financial assistance available for anyone that wants to go to school, the list goes on, but we really have made our mark in a big way, and of course, we are not done, but we have spent centuries fighting, we have lost great people, but they are the ones that paved the way for us. They made it possible for us to be who we are, and do what we do. There will always be issues, but it is about working around them.
His question: "Also you mention that attending different poetry events that people express a lot of anger of their treatment in Halifax. Now would you say those people that complain represent a majority of Black people in Halifax?"
My answer: I have no issue with people telling it like it is because that is what I aim to do as well, I just think we need to also accept what has changed, we know this world has issues, we know where we live there are problems, but the way we handle, the way we discuss, instead of yelling and trashing people online, (vbloggers) and bloggers that hash out the ugly truth, I feel we would be better not always thinking and focusing about hate. Isn't there something we can be happy about? Why do we always have to be in a fight? The people that complain do not represent all of us, but they are the ones that know how to speak, and know how to get the attention of people that matter and need to hear the problems at hand.
His question: "Later you say these people complain but they don't do anything? What are things these persons should or could do?"
My answer: There is always a better approach to something, you just have to find it. I may not know what it is right now, or I may never find out, or have access, but for those that do, I wish that they were able to. And maybe I am wrong about all of this but when I get up to perform at an event or poetry night, and I mention the type of poem, people get happy when it' an angry poem. I would prefer to not be encouraged to be angry, but to be encouraged to move on from the past.
His question: "When you say it's becoming a mental thing, do you mean to say it's not the reality of racism that holds people back but their minds?"
My answer: No, I do not know what goes on in the minds of most, but what I really feel is that we need to let go of the past and move on. It's sad how in some parts of the world people still feel and live a certain way, but its about education. We need to educate our kids, young people, adults about how to treat people, how things work, I wonder how people live like we are still in the slave days and in the 40's. People just need to grow up and let go. We think we are in a war, but if we were at war, we would not have a Black president and First lady, we would not have Black people owning businesses, being successful, and having the lifestyle that they have. We should be proud of who we are and where we come from, and not make it negative.
Every group faces oppression, but what we need to ask ourselves is why do we still feel this way? And what are we going to do about changing the future?
I hope that helped, I hoped I answered them right, I know it's long but there were a lot of questions.
Thanks for the response, and I hope the rest of you share how you feel. God Bless
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Almost a month ago a friend sent an email in regards to a blog that I had posted, and I was overwhelmed by the response but I also realized how little I know about a lot of stuff. Before I answer his questions, I just wanted to express how important education is, and that no matter how scared you might be, hard things may get, or "tough" you have to act to make it, just know that you will make it with the support of the community.
So, onto the blog responses: I really hope I do them justice and if not please let me know, and I will do my homework.
First question:
"Firstly in your article you mention that we hurt ourselves and treat each other like we do not love each other. Are you saying that Black people don't love each other? And if so how did I come to that conclusion?"
My answer: I do believe that we do love each other, but sometimes we do things, not so nice things like stab each other in the back. I could sit here and list but I'd be here all night. We have such a large black community, yet somehow, families turn on each other, siblings kill each other, and it is not even just black people that do these to each other, it is everyone, Hispanics, Latino's, Whites, Africans, Asian's, wherever you are, something in the community turns families, friends and businesses against each other and it causes a major rift. When we see a young child out on the street, instead of telling her to go home, we talk behind her back and spread rumors about another parent's kid, but when it is our own kid, we deny it and say, "not my child" but yet we have no issues telling another parent that they caught their child on the corner. Why do we do these types of things to each other? Honestly, I cannot tell you, but it is not right, and it should not happen...I hope it changes, or that it is changing.
His question: "You later say we have come a long way. This is a statement I definitely agree with, progress has been made. Since when to which time frame are you referring?"
My answer: I do not know the specific timeline, however, if we have not progressed in any way, we would not have a Black President, we would not have had a woman run for president, women were a minority, and in some countries/religions they still are, but we have fought to make sure that equality went all the way around. We have Black supermodels, we have African Canadians and Americans that own and successfully run their own businesses, we have financial assistance available for anyone that wants to go to school, the list goes on, but we really have made our mark in a big way, and of course, we are not done, but we have spent centuries fighting, we have lost great people, but they are the ones that paved the way for us. They made it possible for us to be who we are, and do what we do. There will always be issues, but it is about working around them.
His question: "Also you mention that attending different poetry events that people express a lot of anger of their treatment in Halifax. Now would you say those people that complain represent a majority of Black people in Halifax?"
My answer: I have no issue with people telling it like it is because that is what I aim to do as well, I just think we need to also accept what has changed, we know this world has issues, we know where we live there are problems, but the way we handle, the way we discuss, instead of yelling and trashing people online, (vbloggers) and bloggers that hash out the ugly truth, I feel we would be better not always thinking and focusing about hate. Isn't there something we can be happy about? Why do we always have to be in a fight? The people that complain do not represent all of us, but they are the ones that know how to speak, and know how to get the attention of people that matter and need to hear the problems at hand.
His question: "Later you say these people complain but they don't do anything? What are things these persons should or could do?"
My answer: There is always a better approach to something, you just have to find it. I may not know what it is right now, or I may never find out, or have access, but for those that do, I wish that they were able to. And maybe I am wrong about all of this but when I get up to perform at an event or poetry night, and I mention the type of poem, people get happy when it' an angry poem. I would prefer to not be encouraged to be angry, but to be encouraged to move on from the past.
His question: "When you say it's becoming a mental thing, do you mean to say it's not the reality of racism that holds people back but their minds?"
My answer: No, I do not know what goes on in the minds of most, but what I really feel is that we need to let go of the past and move on. It's sad how in some parts of the world people still feel and live a certain way, but its about education. We need to educate our kids, young people, adults about how to treat people, how things work, I wonder how people live like we are still in the slave days and in the 40's. People just need to grow up and let go. We think we are in a war, but if we were at war, we would not have a Black president and First lady, we would not have Black people owning businesses, being successful, and having the lifestyle that they have. We should be proud of who we are and where we come from, and not make it negative.
Every group faces oppression, but what we need to ask ourselves is why do we still feel this way? And what are we going to do about changing the future?
I hope that helped, I hoped I answered them right, I know it's long but there were a lot of questions.
Thanks for the response, and I hope the rest of you share how you feel. God Bless
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Memories
We like good memories, the kind that will make us laugh, smile, and wish for more good memories. But we know, in life, there will be good memories, and not so good memories. So how do we deal with it? I pray, write, and share how I feel with people because that is what gets me through the times I need a crutch, and the times I thank God for an awesome day. And also because it is not good to keep anything all tucked away inside of you. Trust me, I have been doing that for years and it messed up the flow of things.
The past year has been filled with some really amazing memories. And memories that I wish in ome way, had gone differently.
I lost my job in Feb of this past year, so I have been jobless, and I have been job hunting since than. It is not very fun to hear back, "we have decided to go with another applicant." It hurts to read the email, and it hurts more when you just do not hear anything back. But what hurts more is when you know you are qualified for the job, but its like they are screaming at you 'why bother applying you know you can't do it anyway" But see, we have two voices in our heads, a good one and a bad one, lately I have had both telling me stuff at the same time, and I am forgetting that the good memories are the ones you want. Dwelling on the negative only makes it tough to move on because you are in a rut and can only see the bad, not the good.
So I urge those of you that have memories, to treasure the good, and forgive the bad. Do not let it the bad hit you worse than it should. As my day says, deal with it, but move on and keep smiling.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
The past year has been filled with some really amazing memories. And memories that I wish in ome way, had gone differently.
I lost my job in Feb of this past year, so I have been jobless, and I have been job hunting since than. It is not very fun to hear back, "we have decided to go with another applicant." It hurts to read the email, and it hurts more when you just do not hear anything back. But what hurts more is when you know you are qualified for the job, but its like they are screaming at you 'why bother applying you know you can't do it anyway" But see, we have two voices in our heads, a good one and a bad one, lately I have had both telling me stuff at the same time, and I am forgetting that the good memories are the ones you want. Dwelling on the negative only makes it tough to move on because you are in a rut and can only see the bad, not the good.
So I urge those of you that have memories, to treasure the good, and forgive the bad. Do not let it the bad hit you worse than it should. As my day says, deal with it, but move on and keep smiling.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Confusion
Have you ever loved or wanted someone outside of your religion?
I have a lot of reading to do, but I do know where I stand with dating and marriage...If he does not know God, than I will not marry him. Been there done that. I am not willing to risk anything. Friends yes, but to marry, no.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have a lot of reading to do, but I do know where I stand with dating and marriage...If he does not know God, than I will not marry him. Been there done that. I am not willing to risk anything. Friends yes, but to marry, no.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, September 12, 2011
Warning: Topic Is Sensitive!!!!
I use caution with this topic, but I must admit, I am a bit tired of hearing certain groups talk about how oppressed and isolated they feel, but I wonder what they are doing to "end" discrimination.
This is going to be a rant. So be prepared...
I have been attending different poetry events, and I notice with most of the nights, that certain diverse groups feel the need to "angrily" and "aggressively" share how they are still mad at how Black people are treated in schools, and gays cannot get over just how "unjust" this so called "cultural" place called Halifax is. I am wondering if this is becoming a mental thing and when we will stop hurting ourselves and just live life? We only live it once yet we seem to be choosing a not so nice way to live.
Why be angry all the time? It's mentioned in Stomp The Yard, (One of my favorite and best dance movies out there) that "losing is a state of mind". How much longer can we be in this state until something happens? We act like we are still being treated like slaves, when I know for a fact that that time is over. So why can't we move on? We have movies that still talk about issues between Blacks and Whites, Hispanics, and Whites, Latino's and Blacks, we forget that all minorities were oppressed and that it was not just the Blacks, Hispanic, Latino, and women.
Each group has had to fight for centuries to be heard. And while there are still some issues we must admit that we have come a long way. But what I do not get is how we manage to still treat each other like we do not have love for each other?
For a group that was isolated and ignored for years you would think that they know what it feels like and just accept people for who they are. What you are does not matter, God knows who and what we are but we as people, as easy as it is to judge, I am learning not to anymore. We have no right to make another person feel like they are not human because of the choice that we made. Why do I need your permission to be something? Only God knows, and only God can judge.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Jews had to fight, Christians had to fight, and still do, and in many countries they are killed for believing in God yet they will not step down. Nobody likes being told that their God does not exist, or that they cannot dress like a
This is going to be a rant. So be prepared...
I have been attending different poetry events, and I notice with most of the nights, that certain diverse groups feel the need to "angrily" and "aggressively" share how they are still mad at how Black people are treated in schools, and gays cannot get over just how "unjust" this so called "cultural" place called Halifax is. I am wondering if this is becoming a mental thing and when we will stop hurting ourselves and just live life? We only live it once yet we seem to be choosing a not so nice way to live.
Why be angry all the time? It's mentioned in Stomp The Yard, (One of my favorite and best dance movies out there) that "losing is a state of mind". How much longer can we be in this state until something happens? We act like we are still being treated like slaves, when I know for a fact that that time is over. So why can't we move on? We have movies that still talk about issues between Blacks and Whites, Hispanics, and Whites, Latino's and Blacks, we forget that all minorities were oppressed and that it was not just the Blacks, Hispanic, Latino, and women.
Each group has had to fight for centuries to be heard. And while there are still some issues we must admit that we have come a long way. But what I do not get is how we manage to still treat each other like we do not have love for each other?
For a group that was isolated and ignored for years you would think that they know what it feels like and just accept people for who they are. What you are does not matter, God knows who and what we are but we as people, as easy as it is to judge, I am learning not to anymore. We have no right to make another person feel like they are not human because of the choice that we made. Why do I need your permission to be something? Only God knows, and only God can judge.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Jews had to fight, Christians had to fight, and still do, and in many countries they are killed for believing in God yet they will not step down. Nobody likes being told that their God does not exist, or that they cannot dress like a
Poem called Love
August 27th, 2011
Completed Sept 12th, 2011
Noun: A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
Verb: To have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
You fell for her eyes, her smile, her hips, lips, and how she kissed
You fell for her skin, her hair, how she walked, and her flare
You fell for her voice, her tone, her caring side, and her strong bones
You fell for her motivation, her determination, her love for creation, and her strength to help a whole nation
She fell for your eyes, your smile, your lips, and how you kissed
She fell for your skin, your touch, how you walked, and your love so much
She fell for your voice, your tone, your strong strides, and your strong bones
She fell for your perseverance, adherence, appearance, and your coherence
The way you made her feel
Was a feeling only a man could provide
She trusted his body, his mind, and his heart
He trusted her voice, her soul, and allowed her to her part
She trusted his history, his culture, and his views
He trusted her knowledge, her education, and enjoyed listening to her blues
She trusted him to caress and protect
While he trusted her to be just be perfect
Not super model size
But the right kind of woman in his eyes
Because thats what she meant to him
She trusted him, and defended him
He trusted her, and stood up for her
See
Love is not about hurting one and making one cry
But holding her close and drying her eyes
Love is not about tearing her apart
But helping find the glue to put back her heart
Love should not be when he hits her and she fears him
But love should be when she needs him and he desires her
Love is an action not to be abused
Though because of the media, the word is misused
I we looked to the past, and looked in our lives
We would see that love is about being true and not telling lies
My parents taught me honor, strength, and being true
Never giving up no matter how badly you were through
You made a commitment, now honor your words
You promised not just her, but her family too
That you would stick by her whether she is gang-green or blue
Make a promise, one you know you can keep
Promise to honor her values, and let your love run deep
You fell for her eyes, her smile, her hips, lips, and how she kissed
You fell for her skin, her hair, how she walked, and her
You fell for her voice, her tone, her caring side, and her strong bones
You fell for her motivation, her determination, her love for creation, and her strength to help a whole nation
She fell for your eyes, your smile, your lips, and how you kissed
She fell for your skin, your touch, how you walked, and your love so much
She fell for your voice, your tone, your strong strides, and your strong bones
She fell for your perseverance, adherence, appearance, and your coherence
You both fell for love because that's what you both deserved
You both fell for each other, now work hard to be preserved
Completed Sept 12th, 2011
Noun: A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
Verb: To have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
You fell for her eyes, her smile, her hips, lips, and how she kissed
You fell for her skin, her hair, how she walked, and her flare
You fell for her voice, her tone, her caring side, and her strong bones
You fell for her motivation, her determination, her love for creation, and her strength to help a whole nation
She fell for your eyes, your smile, your lips, and how you kissed
She fell for your skin, your touch, how you walked, and your love so much
She fell for your voice, your tone, your strong strides, and your strong bones
She fell for your perseverance, adherence, appearance, and your coherence
The way you made her feel
Was a feeling only a man could provide
She trusted his body, his mind, and his heart
He trusted her voice, her soul, and allowed her to her part
She trusted his history, his culture, and his views
He trusted her knowledge, her education, and enjoyed listening to her blues
She trusted him to caress and protect
While he trusted her to be just be perfect
Not super model size
But the right kind of woman in his eyes
Because thats what she meant to him
She trusted him, and defended him
He trusted her, and stood up for her
See
Love is not about hurting one and making one cry
But holding her close and drying her eyes
Love is not about tearing her apart
But helping find the glue to put back her heart
Love should not be when he hits her and she fears him
But love should be when she needs him and he desires her
Love is an action not to be abused
Though because of the media, the word is misused
I we looked to the past, and looked in our lives
We would see that love is about being true and not telling lies
My parents taught me honor, strength, and being true
Never giving up no matter how badly you were through
You made a commitment, now honor your words
You promised not just her, but her family too
That you would stick by her whether she is gang-green or blue
Make a promise, one you know you can keep
Promise to honor her values, and let your love run deep
You fell for her eyes, her smile, her hips, lips, and how she kissed
You fell for her skin, her hair, how she walked, and her
You fell for her voice, her tone, her caring side, and her strong bones
You fell for her motivation, her determination, her love for creation, and her strength to help a whole nation
She fell for your eyes, your smile, your lips, and how you kissed
She fell for your skin, your touch, how you walked, and your love so much
She fell for your voice, your tone, your strong strides, and your strong bones
She fell for your perseverance, adherence, appearance, and your coherence
You both fell for love because that's what you both deserved
You both fell for each other, now work hard to be preserved
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Is It Love? Or Is It Looks?
It's been a while since I said hi...
When you pick a partner, is it based on looks, or compatibility? Or both? Do you need someone who looks like Halle Berry or Beyonce? Or you want someone that talks like Michelle Obama, dresses like Kim Kardashian, (however ever you spell her name), and as a bonus can sing like Mariah Carey?
To be real, that is asking for someone that does not exist, because we are all made under God's eyes. Whether you believe in God or not, you parents were brought together by him, and he ensured that you were made a certain way. So if you were supposed to be a chubby baby, do not do weight watchers and end up like Jennifer Hudson or Raven Symone, or worse, Star Jones, people that were hit by the image of Hollywood, claim that they lost weight to be healthy, but they are now barely even wearing sizes that fit the shape of their body, simply because their body has little to no shape. I am not saying they are not beautiful, but we know that society expects certain standards from the people willing to take the risk and either raise their kids in a place filled with toxicity, or people dumb enough to do what it takes to be noticed, fall in love, and hope he does not leave you...
A bit off track, but I really want to know if looks matter or is it personality? Is he smart, can he cook? Does he like to travel and try new places to eat? Is he picky when it comes to how he dresses, whom he lets himself talk to, is he Baptist? Catholic? Does he believe in God and is he ambitious? There are so many things that we can ask the person we want to be with, but what are your thoughts?
Was choosing based on culture? Was it an arranged marriage? Was it for papers or you knew that they were it for you?
If traits mean more than looks, I think you stand a better chance of making it because you can have a Kardashian, gorgeous body, great hair, nice skin, but she could also be the dumbest person you ever met, and has no idea how to cook, clean, let alone drive if she was "catered" to as a child..You might want a Beyonce type, works hard, has a 10-15 year plan for her life, educated, has good morals and values, and is not letting society tell her what to do...And she did it right, she followed her plan, and it got her where she is. A good guy, finally expecting her first child, she is a music legend, and the world knows her as the woman who never gives up, but keeps going.
Anyway, I think you can have both, traits and looks, just be practical about both of them and remember there are things about yourself that are not so perfect but it is what you have in your heart that matters, and how you use your head.
Just some thoughts that have been with me for a few weeks.
Until next time:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
When you pick a partner, is it based on looks, or compatibility? Or both? Do you need someone who looks like Halle Berry or Beyonce? Or you want someone that talks like Michelle Obama, dresses like Kim Kardashian, (however ever you spell her name), and as a bonus can sing like Mariah Carey?
To be real, that is asking for someone that does not exist, because we are all made under God's eyes. Whether you believe in God or not, you parents were brought together by him, and he ensured that you were made a certain way. So if you were supposed to be a chubby baby, do not do weight watchers and end up like Jennifer Hudson or Raven Symone, or worse, Star Jones, people that were hit by the image of Hollywood, claim that they lost weight to be healthy, but they are now barely even wearing sizes that fit the shape of their body, simply because their body has little to no shape. I am not saying they are not beautiful, but we know that society expects certain standards from the people willing to take the risk and either raise their kids in a place filled with toxicity, or people dumb enough to do what it takes to be noticed, fall in love, and hope he does not leave you...
A bit off track, but I really want to know if looks matter or is it personality? Is he smart, can he cook? Does he like to travel and try new places to eat? Is he picky when it comes to how he dresses, whom he lets himself talk to, is he Baptist? Catholic? Does he believe in God and is he ambitious? There are so many things that we can ask the person we want to be with, but what are your thoughts?
Was choosing based on culture? Was it an arranged marriage? Was it for papers or you knew that they were it for you?
If traits mean more than looks, I think you stand a better chance of making it because you can have a Kardashian, gorgeous body, great hair, nice skin, but she could also be the dumbest person you ever met, and has no idea how to cook, clean, let alone drive if she was "catered" to as a child..You might want a Beyonce type, works hard, has a 10-15 year plan for her life, educated, has good morals and values, and is not letting society tell her what to do...And she did it right, she followed her plan, and it got her where she is. A good guy, finally expecting her first child, she is a music legend, and the world knows her as the woman who never gives up, but keeps going.
Anyway, I think you can have both, traits and looks, just be practical about both of them and remember there are things about yourself that are not so perfect but it is what you have in your heart that matters, and how you use your head.
Just some thoughts that have been with me for a few weeks.
Until next time:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
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