Would you wait for a man to grow up and be a man before marrying him?
Confused, let me explain, would you be with someone for a long time, knowing that marriage is on your mind, not his, and still stay with him until he is ready?
It's asking a lot of a woman to give up what she deserves just because a man is either "scared" or "not there yet" which is kinda like being scared. Ive read articles about women that waited over ten years to be married to a man who "just wasn't there yet" and honestly, it's not easy. My older sister was with her now husband for 6.5-7 years. They knew each other growing up, but nothing happened until years later. They have been married for two years but at the time, most of the relationship was long distance, but he moved home, and the rest is history.
It takes men a while to really get a grip on where they are in life. To men, it's more than just about the paper coming in, it's about stability, financially, emotionally, mentally, environmentally, physically, and how much ambition he has to accomplish his goals, or how depressed he is with how the world is changing and he just hasn't caught up yet and instead of being the "man he was" he goes to the 'coach potato, with no hope and no future." Would you give up or keep pushing?
Anyway, I see these people in relationships longer than five years and I wonder, how do you do it? is marriage an option or it's been so long that you just never thought about it? I can't speak on this issue personally but I wonder if love was enough to keep me with a man for years and not be married.
We all know men need the extra push. It's important for men to have the "I'm a man feel" You cannot, and should not take that from a man. It isn't right, but it happens because women feel they can control a man...in a way yes..But not to go off track...Never speak on what you have not gone through. So I wont say how I feel, it's more of a question for women that have waited, or women that are waiting...
Well, guess we will have to wait and see what the future holds.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
