http://www.essence.com/2011/08/a09/real-talk-are-white-men-the-answer/
There is nothing wrong with dating outside your race. There is nothing wrong with being happy, and knowing the person you are with can confide in you, trust you, communicate with you, knows you better than you know yourself, and most of all, is willing to fight tooth and nail for you and show you unconditional love. When you find a man like that, regardless of where he is from, do what it takes to keep him. He will do what is necessary to be with you, and you should never think twice about letting a man like him go. I am open, and though I have my preferences, I deserve happiness, and a best friend whom I know will protect me through to the end.
Once you find God, you find everything else that you neeed.
Real love is rare but it is possible to have if you trust God to find it.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Friday, August 12, 2011
Opposites Attract
Do opposites really attract? Is it possible that two people from two different cultures can meet, get to know each other, respect each other, and make it work? I do not want to use the term fall in love because it is a bit, what's the word, "abused" but that does not mean I do not believe in it. I just feel that there is more to happiness than love.
For me, when meeting someone, I am a bit of a non-traditionalist. Just ask my family, friends, they will tell you. I won't always wait for the guy to approach me, if I know I have a chance, I will go for it. I am not always afraid, but when it comes to someone I think I stand a chance with, or think that there could be something, that's when I stumble. See, for me, I am borderline proper, and non-traditional. So I do think the rules should change just a bit, but I still believe some things can remain the same. I do not believe in casual dating, but I do believe you can enjoy someone's company, and get to know them. That is excluding friends with benefits because I know I am not that type. Can you fall for the opposite of yourself? Yes you can. Now, this is where things get funny/interesting, and I will go a bit off track here, when it comes to a relationship, you should know in your heart, what you deserve, what you want, and what you are willing to fight for. The perspectives of others will not count unless you let them. So if you go against some of the rules on your checklist, knowing in your heart why you chose that, must you be exiled? Never, life has changed, the rules have changed, and I know that I have changed. So when I consider someone that I want to spend time with, I know that who I am now, is not who I was fifteen years ago, five years ago, two years ago, etc. My wants, needs, desires, ambitions, goals, and preferences have changed. They changed because I had to evaluate everything and in doing that, there are choices I would make, that others would question...But I say, "Your opinion is just that...Yours, and as much as I appreciate you looking out for me, I am aware of my choice and have considered the outcome and am prepared to handle what comes my way." (Very well answered if I say so myself. :) )
Okay, back on track...
I will try not to sound like a personals ad, but I know the type of person that I am, and I have a versatile personality. I can be an aggressive loud girl who does not give a rats about who is around her, speaks her mind and stands her ground. I can be the shy quiet ambient type, who just wants to hang back and keep to herself, prefers her own company, and enjoys thinking and pondering about her future. I can be the funny, socialite, dances like nobody is watching type of girl, OR I could be the angry, sad and tired girl that just wants to be left alone. It's hard to be who you are because so much of the time you are surrounded by people from different backgrounds and it becomes too hard to "find a good fit" So I am just who I am. If someone out there matches my loud personality and is not afraid to challenge me, please, I challenge you. A bit "personals" type there but oh well. Opposites do attract.
At this point I have had three blogs open for a week and decided to just finish them. If you read and weren't sure, feel free to ask, that's the best way to learn.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
For me, when meeting someone, I am a bit of a non-traditionalist. Just ask my family, friends, they will tell you. I won't always wait for the guy to approach me, if I know I have a chance, I will go for it. I am not always afraid, but when it comes to someone I think I stand a chance with, or think that there could be something, that's when I stumble. See, for me, I am borderline proper, and non-traditional. So I do think the rules should change just a bit, but I still believe some things can remain the same. I do not believe in casual dating, but I do believe you can enjoy someone's company, and get to know them. That is excluding friends with benefits because I know I am not that type. Can you fall for the opposite of yourself? Yes you can. Now, this is where things get funny/interesting, and I will go a bit off track here, when it comes to a relationship, you should know in your heart, what you deserve, what you want, and what you are willing to fight for. The perspectives of others will not count unless you let them. So if you go against some of the rules on your checklist, knowing in your heart why you chose that, must you be exiled? Never, life has changed, the rules have changed, and I know that I have changed. So when I consider someone that I want to spend time with, I know that who I am now, is not who I was fifteen years ago, five years ago, two years ago, etc. My wants, needs, desires, ambitions, goals, and preferences have changed. They changed because I had to evaluate everything and in doing that, there are choices I would make, that others would question...But I say, "Your opinion is just that...Yours, and as much as I appreciate you looking out for me, I am aware of my choice and have considered the outcome and am prepared to handle what comes my way." (Very well answered if I say so myself. :) )
Okay, back on track...
I will try not to sound like a personals ad, but I know the type of person that I am, and I have a versatile personality. I can be an aggressive loud girl who does not give a rats about who is around her, speaks her mind and stands her ground. I can be the shy quiet ambient type, who just wants to hang back and keep to herself, prefers her own company, and enjoys thinking and pondering about her future. I can be the funny, socialite, dances like nobody is watching type of girl, OR I could be the angry, sad and tired girl that just wants to be left alone. It's hard to be who you are because so much of the time you are surrounded by people from different backgrounds and it becomes too hard to "find a good fit" So I am just who I am. If someone out there matches my loud personality and is not afraid to challenge me, please, I challenge you. A bit "personals" type there but oh well. Opposites do attract.
At this point I have had three blogs open for a week and decided to just finish them. If you read and weren't sure, feel free to ask, that's the best way to learn.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Open Relationships/Marriage?
This will be very short, I've been on this blog for almost a week and a half and tonight I decided to just end it.
I do not believe in open marriages. Life stops being about you once you bring someone in your life.
I know everyone has their own opinions but we know that this world is known for it's greed. We need to sacrifice more, and be less selfish.
That's really all I had to say
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I do not believe in open marriages. Life stops being about you once you bring someone in your life.
I know everyone has their own opinions but we know that this world is known for it's greed. We need to sacrifice more, and be less selfish.
That's really all I had to say
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
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