Environmental/Cultural Sensitivity

 I woke up early this morning to go do a shift at my old job. Temp work. I took it because it is extra cash, and it was an opportunity to be by myself, see some old friends, and chat and gossip a little bit. I must admit, I have not been hustling hard enough. I do not toot my own horn because I do not like to "boast" in front of people. I am an honest person and I do not like throwing my talents at others, let's call it, environmental or cultural sensitivity. Some people have trouble finding jobs, love, and moving into a new place, while others thrive at settling down. Me? I have learned to adjust quickly to new settings because I learned, while staying with my grandmother two years ago, that things will happen in life that I have no control over, so I have to adjust and deal. Some people do not know how to deal, but as you get older, you really do not have much of a choice.

Back to my point because I tend to get a bit offtrack, I feel people in certain situations feel that they can say whatever they want because of "privilege".  First off, the only privilege you have is to the one you are married to, not every other person in that specific race, or any other minority. (Trying not to rant) Where ever you are,  if you do not respect those around you, problems may arise. You may not mean to harm anyone, but trust me, sometimes even one word can provoke someone to do something.
Every culture is different, there are some things you can say, and some things you need to watch what you say, because even if the person you insult on purpose or by accident/for fun, others around you may take it the wrong way.
So hopefully this made sense but I felt a need to share. I know how I am around people but I have never been one to really step up and defend, but over the years I discovered how some people just talk because they want to "connect" or "relate" or "understand" you can do that but make sure you word it right, and are in the right place. Remember, not everyone thinks the way you do. Some take things nicely, other's not so nice.

I plan to follow up on this, but I would love some feedback, I think it is very important to know, there is still a lot of cultural sensitivity in this world so I ask, before you say something, please, think before you speak.
I hope I did not rant, I try to stay on track...But blogs are meant to share emotions, so if it happens it happens.

Signed:
GyftedArtyst

It's Just Emotions

One of my favorite songs by Mary J. Blige is "Take Me As I Am". I find that over the years I have changed a lot about myself because some things were hindering my growth as a person. I grew up in church but I often wondered, "How come you are here and I am not" We grow at different rates, and most times things happen if you are emotionally stable, and often times I wonder if I am. Does not mean I am mentally insane, or crazy, just that some things make me a bit more loud and aggressive than others. But I operate pretty darn well. But one thing I noticed is that no matter where you are, who you are with, evrything you do is counted, and sometimes it is counted against you, so you do have to take certain measures in life, and make sure you act right. Not be perfect, but if you know swearing, chewying loud, burping and farting are not polite especially if you are in the presence of the oppostie sex, make sure they do not have cute friends, because the way you act, your friends would not recommend you to the guys they know. It's simple logic, I have flaws, but I am still a great person. My greats outweigh the bads because I want them to. I would rather be positive than negative because nobody likes a sourpuss. Why be crany and miserable all the time? Why act childish, yell, scream and pick fights just because someone disagreed with what you said?

Growing up is not fun, we often let our emotions get the best of us. I know I do sometimes, but I do my best to control it, however I do know I that have to gain a bit more control.
It may just be emotions, but they often decide our future for us if we do not control how we react to things in life.

I hope those that know me know I try my best, so if at anytime you feel yourself losing control, make sure you have a friend to keep you in check,  I know I have a few that tell it like it is. It is not attractive to scream, swear, and lose your mind, but if he/she knows you than you will be okay.

Signed:
GyftedArtyst