Why is it that women end up being scrutinized for being respectable and honest when it comes to relationships?
We ask a guy if he has been tested, how many partners, and if he has children if you want more than just a one night stand, but most guys are smart and know what to say, how to say it, and yes, we women fall for all kinds of bullshit. Yes, it's bullshit when a guy can convince you to go "natural" in bed. Excuse me but we have rights and no matter how fine he might be, he could be the worst lover ever, and not know because women don't like to bruise a man's sexual ego. Nope, not me. I make sure to do my homework. Ladies, you have rights as not just a human being, but a female to question a guy and his motives with you. I would do it on the first date because you are allowed if you feel the date may go beyond dinner, a movie, and a walk to your place, if you both hint that you want a loving, be prepared to ask the question, and never fear because you are putting your future on the line.
Women need to learn to stick up for themselves whether it is in bed, on the street, or in front of friends and you are being sold out by one of your own.
I am no expert but I watch a lot of movies, television, and I have siblings married, cousins and family and I am learning to observe a lot. If you are not aware of what is going on in your bed, your body, or in your community, you can end up messing yourself up pretty badly.
As BET claims to state,
Know Your Status!
You have EVERY right to ask him, and if he puts up a fuss, he is hiding stuff so confront him and walk away. If he becomes abusive, make sure you have 911 on speed dial or have a loud scream and are not afraid to yell rape.
