We've all had to make them, even when we don't want to, but I have to give my parents credit for raising my siblings the way that they did. It has not been an easy road, but my parents live off of faith. They know God will see them through anything and everything, so why live in fear? They never doubt or question God, they know he will bring them through the storm safe and sound. We got where we are because my parents worked hard. they fought hard, they made compromises, sacrifices over sacrifice, they knew they were risking a lot bringing three (when we arrived in Canada my baby sis wasn't born than) small African children to a new culture knowing we would have less of our own...But we have managed to stay in touch and not lose total awareness of where we are from. I learn from my parents everyday. And things change all the time, so of course back than, 20+ years ago it was all different. My parents knew that coming here meant they had to work together to make things work. They have been married for 29 years, and still going strong. They have shown through thick and through thin, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, as long as we both shall live. God made them make a promise, and said I will see you through the whole thing. And he has, and for that I thank God and hope and pray that I am luck enough to find someone that will honor the vows my parents have honored.
Traits my dad has that I hope I find in a man:
Christian-(I was raised Baptist...)
strong willedOpen-minded
Kind man
EducatedWilling to make sacrifices
The list can go on really...
Enjoys having a good time
What have I learned:
Less is more
God works in mysterious ways
Manage your money better
Timing is everything, (Not sure when I'll get this but I'm not giving up on myself)
Keep my eyes on the prize
There is always a process to progress
P.U.S.H
Patience and confidence are key!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Sunday, July 17, 2011
These Are My Confessions
Sooooooooooo....Major reality check, or more like a slap in the face!!!!!!!!!
Today I went to a church in Halifax with my sister. It's as if I was supposed to be there today...The sermon was about being a servant for Christ without complaining. There were lots of scriptures mentioned..But the one read today was Mark 10:35...Read and let me know your thoughts please and thanks! So if you had money and your dad didn't and he needed gas, offering what you have instead of saying, how much do you need, just give what you have and smile. Give with a giving heart and I have struggled with this for years, and still do. Ask my family. I know that I have a lot to work on but I have really good intentions and I have found myself struggling to please people. I live with a family of high expectations and often times I struggle to meet them because I am trying to live my own life, but one thing I need to grip on tighter is that I will never be without if I have God. Why is that so hard to believe? Not sure, but I've lived in fear my whole life. Never being enough, never getting the A+, never being the apple of someone's eye, (besides God) I whine and complain a lot, and I get mad. I try to help, but sometimes it does not help but aggravate, and nobody likes to listen to someone who just talks for the sake of hearing their own voice. I am very much like my mother and you know what? You will just have to accept parts of me that may not all be there because not everyone has the right "formula" most times we act like we have it together, but we do not. To some I may hide behind a computer, but trust me, I am working my way up the ladder. I don't hide in real life I am honest but I also have respect for people and do not treat them like "friends" I try my best to not use people because it is wrong. It makes me uncomfortable when I am trying to be friends with people, and in the end I don't see them for while unless I need a drive...it just doesn't make sense. Why befriend someone if you don't really like them?
So I confess that I am not always right. I do sometimes say words that I shouldn't, and I am working on gossiping less, it's a sin and we should know better. If you cannot talk to the person to their face, keep your mouth closed and turn the other cheek, but do not be two-faced. It's not nice! That's not very God like and if you claim to be a faith based person, think WWJD, yes I pulled it out! Would Jesus turn his face away? Jesus would never shun anyone away from his kingdom, he just wants people that are humble. Honest, trustworthy, and willing to do anything to make him happy. I do not always obey my parents, and that means I am breaking a commandment, God knows that and knows I am trying my hardest but God sees all...
Anyway, like I said, these are my confessions. This week I am working on not gossiping, and respecting my parents more. It is a commandment and if broken, you are not pleasing God. So, I challenge all to try on commandment a week. See what happens...I'll keep you updated everyday on what happens..Happy or sad, but I plan to keep counting my blessings big or small, and when you do right, trust me, God will reward you bigger than you thought.
Later
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Today I went to a church in Halifax with my sister. It's as if I was supposed to be there today...The sermon was about being a servant for Christ without complaining. There were lots of scriptures mentioned..But the one read today was Mark 10:35...Read and let me know your thoughts please and thanks! So if you had money and your dad didn't and he needed gas, offering what you have instead of saying, how much do you need, just give what you have and smile. Give with a giving heart and I have struggled with this for years, and still do. Ask my family. I know that I have a lot to work on but I have really good intentions and I have found myself struggling to please people. I live with a family of high expectations and often times I struggle to meet them because I am trying to live my own life, but one thing I need to grip on tighter is that I will never be without if I have God. Why is that so hard to believe? Not sure, but I've lived in fear my whole life. Never being enough, never getting the A+, never being the apple of someone's eye, (besides God) I whine and complain a lot, and I get mad. I try to help, but sometimes it does not help but aggravate, and nobody likes to listen to someone who just talks for the sake of hearing their own voice. I am very much like my mother and you know what? You will just have to accept parts of me that may not all be there because not everyone has the right "formula" most times we act like we have it together, but we do not. To some I may hide behind a computer, but trust me, I am working my way up the ladder. I don't hide in real life I am honest but I also have respect for people and do not treat them like "friends" I try my best to not use people because it is wrong. It makes me uncomfortable when I am trying to be friends with people, and in the end I don't see them for while unless I need a drive...it just doesn't make sense. Why befriend someone if you don't really like them?
So I confess that I am not always right. I do sometimes say words that I shouldn't, and I am working on gossiping less, it's a sin and we should know better. If you cannot talk to the person to their face, keep your mouth closed and turn the other cheek, but do not be two-faced. It's not nice! That's not very God like and if you claim to be a faith based person, think WWJD, yes I pulled it out! Would Jesus turn his face away? Jesus would never shun anyone away from his kingdom, he just wants people that are humble. Honest, trustworthy, and willing to do anything to make him happy. I do not always obey my parents, and that means I am breaking a commandment, God knows that and knows I am trying my hardest but God sees all...
Anyway, like I said, these are my confessions. This week I am working on not gossiping, and respecting my parents more. It is a commandment and if broken, you are not pleasing God. So, I challenge all to try on commandment a week. See what happens...I'll keep you updated everyday on what happens..Happy or sad, but I plan to keep counting my blessings big or small, and when you do right, trust me, God will reward you bigger than you thought.
Later
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Timing Is Everything Ecc 3:1
Not sure why it has taken me this long, but I have decided to open my own business! Most of you know that I braid hair. But there is a lot to learn. So far, I only know how to do singles, but I plan to learn how to do twists, and hopefully very soon, to learn weaves, and cornrows, etc...
I believe that God has blessed me in ways I least expected. I have been braiding hair a lot this year so far and little did I know that it was God's way of saying to me, "This is what you love to do..." So I have decided to start my own hair braiding business. I have regulars, people that like how I do hair, they trust me, and I make people look fabulous. Why shouldn't a person look gorgeous? They are paying good money...I am flexible and do neg, but I will admit, if you want your hair done, you gotta save your pennies. My prices are decent and though times are tough, just know that for me, this is how I make my living. As of right now, I charge just for the labor. Sometimes it can take more than 10 hours to do hair and as reasonable as I am, it is a bit hard but I have managed to make it work. $100 for non students, $50 for students, and for a child's hair in singles, $50. Decent prices, but chances are next year they might go up by a few dollars. We all gotta make a living, and I'm def a lot more affordable than hair salons, (no offense). I just enjoy making people look pretty. So I am asking for your help and support. Please spread the word about my hair braiding, and yes I do sell hair as well. However, that is extra with the labor. But like I said, I neg, but I also ask that my talent be respected and not abused. :)
Anyway, just decided to post this on my blog because I know people read it! And I really appreciate those that read! Please let people know, if they want to reach me, they can use my email, and I will take it from there, must stay professional.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I believe that God has blessed me in ways I least expected. I have been braiding hair a lot this year so far and little did I know that it was God's way of saying to me, "This is what you love to do..." So I have decided to start my own hair braiding business. I have regulars, people that like how I do hair, they trust me, and I make people look fabulous. Why shouldn't a person look gorgeous? They are paying good money...I am flexible and do neg, but I will admit, if you want your hair done, you gotta save your pennies. My prices are decent and though times are tough, just know that for me, this is how I make my living. As of right now, I charge just for the labor. Sometimes it can take more than 10 hours to do hair and as reasonable as I am, it is a bit hard but I have managed to make it work. $100 for non students, $50 for students, and for a child's hair in singles, $50. Decent prices, but chances are next year they might go up by a few dollars. We all gotta make a living, and I'm def a lot more affordable than hair salons, (no offense). I just enjoy making people look pretty. So I am asking for your help and support. Please spread the word about my hair braiding, and yes I do sell hair as well. However, that is extra with the labor. But like I said, I neg, but I also ask that my talent be respected and not abused. :)
Anyway, just decided to post this on my blog because I know people read it! And I really appreciate those that read! Please let people know, if they want to reach me, they can use my email, and I will take it from there, must stay professional.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Deception:
something that deceives or is intended to deceive; fraud; artifice.
Now why you wanna go and do that, that, that, (Yes I'm quoting T.I on a Sunday lol)
You walked around school like you were the hottest thing in town. (or not) You talked like you were important (but you knew you weren't) you dressed like you were a millionaire, and you spoke like you owned the whole school, (but you knew you didn't) But deep down inside, you were the kid people laughed at, stuffed in lockers, had your face in a toilet bowl, made fun of as you walked down the hall to class, and kept out of the circle, no matter what. Your clothes were out of date, your music was too different, and you drove a hideous car, but it was a car, and it got you places, just not with the people you wanted.You get what I mean, I know you do...
We have all worn the mask that hid who we really were. You thought nobody could see past the flashy cars, brand named clothes that just looked cheap, the long creepy trench coat you wore on hot days, (people still do that and I'm not sure what statement they are trying to make) I used to want to fit in. I tried hard in high school to fit in, but I wasn't the type that followed others, I was more the "on her own" type of girl and I made it work. I still knew people, hung out with friends but never let my self be told by another person what I could wear, what to sat, (ya'll saw Mean Girls, that's not me) I am not a follower, unless I am learning something but I am a quick learner and often take charge in most situations.
Looks can be deceiving, I know you have all heard those words before. If your born in the suburbs, why act like you are from the hood?Act like a proper African Canadian, speak good English and people will take you seriously, and maybe you might get a girl that doesn't see the "wanna-be" in you. She just wants to see you. Period. Stop trying to be a hustla, stop using words that don't fit in your vocab.
Nobody is ever strong enough to say how they feel in person because they feel they will lose friends, but I know if you watch your friend act foolish, and you don't say anything, you are not much of a friend! Just saying!!!! I'd rather be told what I am doing wrong so in that moment I can fix it, but if you let me be stupid in public, than clearly you do not even like me and are just using me. Why would you do that? Be a good person, be a friend, don't be a faker, and just do what you think makes others happy.
Do what makes you happy!
Writing makes me happy!
God Bless and enjoy your Sunday! :)
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
something that deceives or is intended to deceive; fraud; artifice.
Now why you wanna go and do that, that, that, (Yes I'm quoting T.I on a Sunday lol)
You walked around school like you were the hottest thing in town. (or not) You talked like you were important (but you knew you weren't) you dressed like you were a millionaire, and you spoke like you owned the whole school, (but you knew you didn't) But deep down inside, you were the kid people laughed at, stuffed in lockers, had your face in a toilet bowl, made fun of as you walked down the hall to class, and kept out of the circle, no matter what. Your clothes were out of date, your music was too different, and you drove a hideous car, but it was a car, and it got you places, just not with the people you wanted.You get what I mean, I know you do...
We have all worn the mask that hid who we really were. You thought nobody could see past the flashy cars, brand named clothes that just looked cheap, the long creepy trench coat you wore on hot days, (people still do that and I'm not sure what statement they are trying to make) I used to want to fit in. I tried hard in high school to fit in, but I wasn't the type that followed others, I was more the "on her own" type of girl and I made it work. I still knew people, hung out with friends but never let my self be told by another person what I could wear, what to sat, (ya'll saw Mean Girls, that's not me) I am not a follower, unless I am learning something but I am a quick learner and often take charge in most situations.
Looks can be deceiving, I know you have all heard those words before. If your born in the suburbs, why act like you are from the hood?Act like a proper African Canadian, speak good English and people will take you seriously, and maybe you might get a girl that doesn't see the "wanna-be" in you. She just wants to see you. Period. Stop trying to be a hustla, stop using words that don't fit in your vocab.
Nobody is ever strong enough to say how they feel in person because they feel they will lose friends, but I know if you watch your friend act foolish, and you don't say anything, you are not much of a friend! Just saying!!!! I'd rather be told what I am doing wrong so in that moment I can fix it, but if you let me be stupid in public, than clearly you do not even like me and are just using me. Why would you do that? Be a good person, be a friend, don't be a faker, and just do what you think makes others happy.
Do what makes you happy!
Writing makes me happy!
God Bless and enjoy your Sunday! :)
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Who You Are (Jessie J song title)
Just a reminder, I am not who I was five years ago...Let alone two years ago...I have changed and I would hope that those that know me have seen that, or would at least try to get it that I learn from my mistakes.
I have my own things to deal with, but I never claim perfection.
It's also important to know who your friends are because it is easy to be pressured to do anything and your real friends won't do that if they know what you like and don't like. Just be you, and people will see that.
One thing I know about my self is that I am real. I say how I feel, but I have learned that communication works differently for everyone. We don't all speak the same, but I don't run around yelling hood nonsense if I am from the suburbs. I don't curse knowing that I love God and speaking profanity goes against what I believe in. Swearing isn't cool and won't make people fall at your feet, it makes you look stupid, and we need more smart people in this world instead of actors. In one of my blogs I talk about deception. Looks can be deceiving. You see these nice looking guys, but they could be the complete opposite! Violent an nasty as anything, and than you have the least attractive guy who could be the biggest sweetheart. Now tell me ladies, would you rather a man that beats you and throws you down stairs or a man that will give you breakfast in bed, say how pretty you look no matter how you feel, and surprise you at work?
We do not want a bad guy so please, don't go for the first guy that says you look pretty or he promises to offer you the world. Chances are 30 other women had that before you. Go for a guy that looks at you like you are the only woman in the world, and you can tell, you just have to be very observant and stay focused otherwise he can fool you.
Please, young girls, young women, all females, watch out for the looks, please, men test us all the time, and the same goes for women. Don't act opposite of what you are. You will get a man based on your actions, and your personality. Men want a smart woman. Trust me both of my sisters are married so I know what I'm talking about. Ive seen a lot in the past ten years, and in all that I learned, smarts, confidence, and yes, looks do matter but men want a woman with strong character traits. Persistent, hard worker, go getter, and someone not afraid to take chances. Smart chances, not ones that make you look foolish or end up being talked about behind your back. Nobody wants a girl that gives up easy.
I got my eyes on the prize, and I'm working towards it, are YOU?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have my own things to deal with, but I never claim perfection.
It's also important to know who your friends are because it is easy to be pressured to do anything and your real friends won't do that if they know what you like and don't like. Just be you, and people will see that.
One thing I know about my self is that I am real. I say how I feel, but I have learned that communication works differently for everyone. We don't all speak the same, but I don't run around yelling hood nonsense if I am from the suburbs. I don't curse knowing that I love God and speaking profanity goes against what I believe in. Swearing isn't cool and won't make people fall at your feet, it makes you look stupid, and we need more smart people in this world instead of actors. In one of my blogs I talk about deception. Looks can be deceiving. You see these nice looking guys, but they could be the complete opposite! Violent an nasty as anything, and than you have the least attractive guy who could be the biggest sweetheart. Now tell me ladies, would you rather a man that beats you and throws you down stairs or a man that will give you breakfast in bed, say how pretty you look no matter how you feel, and surprise you at work?
We do not want a bad guy so please, don't go for the first guy that says you look pretty or he promises to offer you the world. Chances are 30 other women had that before you. Go for a guy that looks at you like you are the only woman in the world, and you can tell, you just have to be very observant and stay focused otherwise he can fool you.
Please, young girls, young women, all females, watch out for the looks, please, men test us all the time, and the same goes for women. Don't act opposite of what you are. You will get a man based on your actions, and your personality. Men want a smart woman. Trust me both of my sisters are married so I know what I'm talking about. Ive seen a lot in the past ten years, and in all that I learned, smarts, confidence, and yes, looks do matter but men want a woman with strong character traits. Persistent, hard worker, go getter, and someone not afraid to take chances. Smart chances, not ones that make you look foolish or end up being talked about behind your back. Nobody wants a girl that gives up easy.
I got my eyes on the prize, and I'm working towards it, are YOU?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
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