Tonight in Psychology class, my professor asked us to write down five things each that both men and women want in each other, generally. Than after, he wanted us to label g or b for girl or boy, and our A #, and we gave them in to him. He read all of the papers, and basically stated that research says different about what we want...We are programmed, mentally to want a tall dark and handsome guy, great job, goal oriented, does not live at home, already done school has a car, you know where I am going with this. However, society has deemed, those with only some qualities...Let me not forget that if he is too short, he is deemed weak and unworthy, have we really lost sense of what we were taught? Do we no longer think practical just material? He also has to be rich...
Some women thought that the guy should want an independent woman, but guys want a woman that they can spoil rotten, but still has some sort of life of her own. I lost track a bit...Let me back up...Society has us thinking that short guys cannot make us happy..We all watched Girlfriends, the popular comedy/drama that was canceled a while back, (still hoping and praying that it comes back. It was like the black Sex & The City) Tony Childs, was almost robbed, and a guy, short guy named Todd came to her rescue. She fell in love with him, even though he was short, they made it work.
I myself am still going through changes and understanding that when picking a partner, you need someone that will be able to help you in life, instead of hurt you. If the person is strong, passionate, patient, loves kids, goes to church,very active, etc. Than what is holding you back? Maybe he has no car, but is saving up to buy one that will last...So we pass? Don't be silly ladies.. Men who have too much money, have a great job that they love more than you, spend more time in the mirror than you...Yeah, he is def a keeper. He won't stay with you, maybe for the sex, if it's good...Anyway..
I challenge my followers to ask themselves what they look for in a partner?
Men, be honest with yourselves, women, same to you. You do not have to respond, but think of this as a tiny assignment if you read this. What top five things do you think men want in women, and vice versa? Life partner, loving, sense of humor? Smart/educated, intellect, experienced, well traveled, family oriented, ambitious?
What do you think are the top five things?
Just for fun but we spent almost 45 minutes doing this in class. And of course I paid attention, it was interesting how we think one way, but do another, trained one way, but grow up with minds of our own and begin to discover what matters.
I'm a practical girl, and have grown up understanding that less is more, and I appreciate hard work because it proves results. Of course nothing comes easy, but we will make it. Just have faith, know yourself through God, and everything else falls into place. Do not get me wrong, if a man told me he wanted to take care of me, (It's his job anyway to take care of you, etc, etc...) But remind him that you want to be able to do your own thing too, without feeling controlled, or underestimated.
Lots of love
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
