I was just going over some blog posts and I had not realized that I do not finish what I start. For example, I will start a poem, and will leave it for weeks, or I will start a blog, and leave it forgetting it is there...So my goal is to finish what I start. Or at least to remember to go back to it. I have so many short stories that never got finished...Not good. So, this blog is short, and also to remind those that if you start something, don't forget about it.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, December 19, 2011
Monday, December 5, 2011
FBW
I'm sure you can figure out what the title stands for.
This was a FB status I made just before I made the blog.
"Women need to stop accepting the "Friends With Benefits Package", you don't deserve a standard or mediocre friendship/relationship where you give him what he wants, what about you. Always remind yourself you are worth much more than what he's willing to give, and remind him you aren't settling for less, benefits come after he has worked to keep you, just like a job, keep him on probation till he puts a ring on it. Yup, I said it."
Time and time again men have convinced women with their bodies instead of their hearts to be with them. Women who come from good homes, run into guys who use their charm, and a nice little hobby, like singing or poetry, or even books to give a woman the impression he's the commitment type, but we all know that that is how he gets women. He'll sweet talk her, have a good convo, than find a way to make her laugh smile, knowing in his body, "This one's easy." Sadly, women fall for it, but I have learned that being strong makes a huge difference, and I am glad to know I will not be another stereotype and let myself fall for someone that won't even be there 100% for me. Days after this post, since sometimes I start my blogs but do not finish, I find myself with a new sight towards my idea. There were some comments that made me really see that some women do just want something physical, while some want the real deal. And if you choose a short term, I have no right to judge, because you know exactly what you are doing, and why. You know where you are and you have decided to accept the present. If I ever offended anyone regarding my post, my apologies, I am just sharing how I feel about things, and I feel that women should not settle for less.
Hey, that's just my thought, everyone thinks differently.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
This was a FB status I made just before I made the blog.
"Women need to stop accepting the "Friends With Benefits Package", you don't deserve a standard or mediocre friendship/relationship where you give him what he wants, what about you. Always remind yourself you are worth much more than what he's willing to give, and remind him you aren't settling for less, benefits come after he has worked to keep you, just like a job, keep him on probation till he puts a ring on it. Yup, I said it."
Time and time again men have convinced women with their bodies instead of their hearts to be with them. Women who come from good homes, run into guys who use their charm, and a nice little hobby, like singing or poetry, or even books to give a woman the impression he's the commitment type, but we all know that that is how he gets women. He'll sweet talk her, have a good convo, than find a way to make her laugh smile, knowing in his body, "This one's easy." Sadly, women fall for it, but I have learned that being strong makes a huge difference, and I am glad to know I will not be another stereotype and let myself fall for someone that won't even be there 100% for me. Days after this post, since sometimes I start my blogs but do not finish, I find myself with a new sight towards my idea. There were some comments that made me really see that some women do just want something physical, while some want the real deal. And if you choose a short term, I have no right to judge, because you know exactly what you are doing, and why. You know where you are and you have decided to accept the present. If I ever offended anyone regarding my post, my apologies, I am just sharing how I feel about things, and I feel that women should not settle for less.
Hey, that's just my thought, everyone thinks differently.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
FourTraits
http://www.christianhusbands.org/writings/responsibility.html
The bible talks about there being a particular type of woman that men should want to marry, and it made me think, there must be one about men, so I looked it up on google and that is where I found the link posted above. Men talk so much about the type of woman they want, how she should be, dress, traits they want her to have, etc but I have always wondered about men, and what to look for, and this changes everything.
There are four areas that men need to have in order to make a good Christian man, and if looking for more, a good Christian husband. I thought it was really neat and informative, and of course I went to the bible to find out more information, and I think it is great how when you want to know something, the bible is there for you to find it. Sometimes its in a hidden message but you have to dig to find it. Proverbs 31:10 talks about the type of woman, a woman of virtue, which sadly these days its hard to find, but we are out there. So, the main point of this blog is to emphasize to men, to please, do not think you cannot hold these traits that God declares all men should have, if you are expecting your woman, the one you want to be with to have the traits you want, loving, caring, strong, ambitious, and can hold things down when you cannot, you need to be able to do the same for her. It is not about one person when it comes to relationships, just know that both parties need attention, and the right kind goes a long way. You cannot demand a man to be like this, but you can encourage him to be a better person if you notice he is straying. Okay, I wont make it a long blog, I am working on my blogs being shorter than normal. Work in Progress.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
The bible talks about there being a particular type of woman that men should want to marry, and it made me think, there must be one about men, so I looked it up on google and that is where I found the link posted above. Men talk so much about the type of woman they want, how she should be, dress, traits they want her to have, etc but I have always wondered about men, and what to look for, and this changes everything.
There are four areas that men need to have in order to make a good Christian man, and if looking for more, a good Christian husband. I thought it was really neat and informative, and of course I went to the bible to find out more information, and I think it is great how when you want to know something, the bible is there for you to find it. Sometimes its in a hidden message but you have to dig to find it. Proverbs 31:10 talks about the type of woman, a woman of virtue, which sadly these days its hard to find, but we are out there. So, the main point of this blog is to emphasize to men, to please, do not think you cannot hold these traits that God declares all men should have, if you are expecting your woman, the one you want to be with to have the traits you want, loving, caring, strong, ambitious, and can hold things down when you cannot, you need to be able to do the same for her. It is not about one person when it comes to relationships, just know that both parties need attention, and the right kind goes a long way. You cannot demand a man to be like this, but you can encourage him to be a better person if you notice he is straying. Okay, I wont make it a long blog, I am working on my blogs being shorter than normal. Work in Progress.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
ABG turns ABW
Check out this link: http://www.bullyingcanada.ca/index.php, and this on: http://www.redcross.ca/article.asp?id=24700&tid=108, and last one: http://www.stopabully.ca/
So this is part two of my response. But it is no longer bout being an Awkward Black Girl, the title has changed to an Angry Black Woman but for a reason. This time, it's not about men.
A week ago I came across a gossip site which brought the attention of two suicides. Two young girls has both hung themselves because they were both bullied in school. This drew my attention because I was bullied when I was in high school., not as badly when I was younger, but in High School it was all about who was more popular, who could afford this and that, and who was prettier. Most times I never made either list and i was happy, because I did not care. But I look back now and I kept it together. My sisters helped me change a lot about myself at the same time encouraging me to love who I was. Being different made you an easy target for bullying and my hope and prayer is that more people will take a stand and stand with their kids. If your kids refuses to get out of bed, there is a problem. Do not ignore it, do something about it. Your child is your responsibility, not the schools. Last year while I was working I had to spend two weeks with my cousins because their parents and mine and gone out of the country for a family event. My sister joined me a couple of days later. While at work I got phone call telling me about an incident involving my younger cousin at school. I froze, and kept myself from losing my mind. Not knowing how to help her or what to do I took time to breathe. If this is what a parent goes through when it comes to handling these types of problems, I hope I did the right thing. I ask what happened, asked how my lil girl was doing, and told my sister thanks for letting me know, and she explained that other family had stepped in as well. I could have left but there was someone closer to her than me, and I knew I probably would not have been much help. Kids are cruel. What happened to my cousin could have beat her up emotionally but she is a strong person and has a big heart. She made it through fine, but I know it wasn't easy. Kids showed up at her home threatening her and I got concerned. Her older sister had to pick her up from school to make sure she was not picked on or hurt anymore. That is why I love my family. They will stand beside each other know matter what.
So now the world is accepting people who are different, and it's about time we stopped hurting others. I know that when one bullies another, it is because the one doing the bullying is not getting enough love at home, and needs an outlet, so they find the easiest, softest target and shoot away. I don't want to sound violent but bullying has gone too far, and there should be a law against it otherwise we will lose more youth, and parents will never recover from burying their child.
It all starts at home. Look at the Columbine Shootings, those kids were messed up, the Dawson College shooting in Montreal, it breaks my heart to think about the issues going on in families...I wish I could wish it all away but we know that won't happen, but we should do something.
We need to do more, what more can be done?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
So this is part two of my response. But it is no longer bout being an Awkward Black Girl, the title has changed to an Angry Black Woman but for a reason. This time, it's not about men.
A week ago I came across a gossip site which brought the attention of two suicides. Two young girls has both hung themselves because they were both bullied in school. This drew my attention because I was bullied when I was in high school., not as badly when I was younger, but in High School it was all about who was more popular, who could afford this and that, and who was prettier. Most times I never made either list and i was happy, because I did not care. But I look back now and I kept it together. My sisters helped me change a lot about myself at the same time encouraging me to love who I was. Being different made you an easy target for bullying and my hope and prayer is that more people will take a stand and stand with their kids. If your kids refuses to get out of bed, there is a problem. Do not ignore it, do something about it. Your child is your responsibility, not the schools. Last year while I was working I had to spend two weeks with my cousins because their parents and mine and gone out of the country for a family event. My sister joined me a couple of days later. While at work I got phone call telling me about an incident involving my younger cousin at school. I froze, and kept myself from losing my mind. Not knowing how to help her or what to do I took time to breathe. If this is what a parent goes through when it comes to handling these types of problems, I hope I did the right thing. I ask what happened, asked how my lil girl was doing, and told my sister thanks for letting me know, and she explained that other family had stepped in as well. I could have left but there was someone closer to her than me, and I knew I probably would not have been much help. Kids are cruel. What happened to my cousin could have beat her up emotionally but she is a strong person and has a big heart. She made it through fine, but I know it wasn't easy. Kids showed up at her home threatening her and I got concerned. Her older sister had to pick her up from school to make sure she was not picked on or hurt anymore. That is why I love my family. They will stand beside each other know matter what.
So now the world is accepting people who are different, and it's about time we stopped hurting others. I know that when one bullies another, it is because the one doing the bullying is not getting enough love at home, and needs an outlet, so they find the easiest, softest target and shoot away. I don't want to sound violent but bullying has gone too far, and there should be a law against it otherwise we will lose more youth, and parents will never recover from burying their child.
It all starts at home. Look at the Columbine Shootings, those kids were messed up, the Dawson College shooting in Montreal, it breaks my heart to think about the issues going on in families...I wish I could wish it all away but we know that won't happen, but we should do something.
We need to do more, what more can be done?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
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