It's been a while since I said hi...
When you pick a partner, is it based on looks, or compatibility? Or both? Do you need someone who looks like Halle Berry or Beyonce? Or you want someone that talks like Michelle Obama, dresses like Kim Kardashian, (however ever you spell her name), and as a bonus can sing like Mariah Carey?
To be real, that is asking for someone that does not exist, because we are all made under God's eyes. Whether you believe in God or not, you parents were brought together by him, and he ensured that you were made a certain way. So if you were supposed to be a chubby baby, do not do weight watchers and end up like Jennifer Hudson or Raven Symone, or worse, Star Jones, people that were hit by the image of Hollywood, claim that they lost weight to be healthy, but they are now barely even wearing sizes that fit the shape of their body, simply because their body has little to no shape. I am not saying they are not beautiful, but we know that society expects certain standards from the people willing to take the risk and either raise their kids in a place filled with toxicity, or people dumb enough to do what it takes to be noticed, fall in love, and hope he does not leave you...
A bit off track, but I really want to know if looks matter or is it personality? Is he smart, can he cook? Does he like to travel and try new places to eat? Is he picky when it comes to how he dresses, whom he lets himself talk to, is he Baptist? Catholic? Does he believe in God and is he ambitious? There are so many things that we can ask the person we want to be with, but what are your thoughts?
Was choosing based on culture? Was it an arranged marriage? Was it for papers or you knew that they were it for you?
If traits mean more than looks, I think you stand a better chance of making it because you can have a Kardashian, gorgeous body, great hair, nice skin, but she could also be the dumbest person you ever met, and has no idea how to cook, clean, let alone drive if she was "catered" to as a child..You might want a Beyonce type, works hard, has a 10-15 year plan for her life, educated, has good morals and values, and is not letting society tell her what to do...And she did it right, she followed her plan, and it got her where she is. A good guy, finally expecting her first child, she is a music legend, and the world knows her as the woman who never gives up, but keeps going.
Anyway, I think you can have both, traits and looks, just be practical about both of them and remember there are things about yourself that are not so perfect but it is what you have in your heart that matters, and how you use your head.
Just some thoughts that have been with me for a few weeks.
Until next time:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Saturday, August 27, 2011
R.I.P
I wrote this the day Mr. Layton passed but never posted...
Yesterday morning the Canada lot a great leader. Jack Layton passed away from a cancer. He was 61 years old.
We treat life as if we have forever, when really, we only have the days we are given. We take so much for granted, yet we forget that one day, we could lose everything we have within minutes. I will keep this short, but I just wanted to say Prayers to the Layton family, relatives, though I never knew him personally, I know he accomplished a lot while he was alive.
I hope and pray for a better day tomorrow, and that no matter how tough things get, that we will always be thankful for what we have. Life is just way too short to worry about the little things, to judge others, and waste time, we need to really give God time to say thank you, because we would not where we are without him.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Yesterday morning the Canada lot a great leader. Jack Layton passed away from a cancer. He was 61 years old.
We treat life as if we have forever, when really, we only have the days we are given. We take so much for granted, yet we forget that one day, we could lose everything we have within minutes. I will keep this short, but I just wanted to say Prayers to the Layton family, relatives, though I never knew him personally, I know he accomplished a lot while he was alive.
I hope and pray for a better day tomorrow, and that no matter how tough things get, that we will always be thankful for what we have. Life is just way too short to worry about the little things, to judge others, and waste time, we need to really give God time to say thank you, because we would not where we are without him.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Undecisive Conclusion
Love is full of emotions, feelings, actions, thoughts and of course, words that are often hard to find.
But we manage to find them because they are important to us, and we know that love is so precious and hard to find, that once we do find it, we have to fight so hard not to lose it.
Love makes a person go crazy. I have seen it first hand, but love can also make a person lose her mind being in love with someone that will do anything to make her happy. Why be unhappy when you can laugh and smile all day? We want a type of love that will get us through the tough times. When he forgets to pay a bill because of work, or he left his laundry all over the living room and you are tired of 'waiting" for him to pick it up...We all know that women and men are TWO different creatures, yet we, women want men to act like we do. "NOT GONNA HAPPEN" Just ask the expert, Steve Harvey. Don't really ask him he only knows what he has gone through. He has heard the stories of what others go through and based on what his past has been like he shares how to deal with it, he is only an expert on what he has gone through.
Anyway, love does not abuse, misuse or make one feel like less of a person, would you consider that love?
God states in 1 Corinthian that love is patient, love is kind, it does not boast, it is not proud, it has no records of wrongs, and holds no grudge. Now, we all know its hard to do and be either of these, but when we present or act upon the rules God has laid out, it is not that hard to find love or be loved, it is about maintaining what you have and working with it because you made a promise in front of people and God swearing you would obey. So you have to obey. Being in relationship will make you wonder, "Why did I pick this person? He has stopped showing me kindness, like when we first met, he stopped telling me he loves me, and we speak less." He will only know how you feel once you tell him. NEVER assume he knows how you feel just because he is supposed to know you. It does not work that way. Not that I have seen.
Sooooo....love has made us go nuts and also made us so insane we want to declare it on FB, (Not a fan of PDA, as long as he/she knows that's what matters) We need to stop looking for approval from the public and only worry about in front of us.
So, will YOUR love make it or did you fall for the wrong reasons? It is okay to confess, it's good for the soul, but confess to the one that counts, the opinion that matters. Only God can judge you..
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
But we manage to find them because they are important to us, and we know that love is so precious and hard to find, that once we do find it, we have to fight so hard not to lose it.
Love makes a person go crazy. I have seen it first hand, but love can also make a person lose her mind being in love with someone that will do anything to make her happy. Why be unhappy when you can laugh and smile all day? We want a type of love that will get us through the tough times. When he forgets to pay a bill because of work, or he left his laundry all over the living room and you are tired of 'waiting" for him to pick it up...We all know that women and men are TWO different creatures, yet we, women want men to act like we do. "NOT GONNA HAPPEN" Just ask the expert, Steve Harvey. Don't really ask him he only knows what he has gone through. He has heard the stories of what others go through and based on what his past has been like he shares how to deal with it, he is only an expert on what he has gone through.
Anyway, love does not abuse, misuse or make one feel like less of a person, would you consider that love?
God states in 1 Corinthian that love is patient, love is kind, it does not boast, it is not proud, it has no records of wrongs, and holds no grudge. Now, we all know its hard to do and be either of these, but when we present or act upon the rules God has laid out, it is not that hard to find love or be loved, it is about maintaining what you have and working with it because you made a promise in front of people and God swearing you would obey. So you have to obey. Being in relationship will make you wonder, "Why did I pick this person? He has stopped showing me kindness, like when we first met, he stopped telling me he loves me, and we speak less." He will only know how you feel once you tell him. NEVER assume he knows how you feel just because he is supposed to know you. It does not work that way. Not that I have seen.
Sooooo....love has made us go nuts and also made us so insane we want to declare it on FB, (Not a fan of PDA, as long as he/she knows that's what matters) We need to stop looking for approval from the public and only worry about in front of us.
So, will YOUR love make it or did you fall for the wrong reasons? It is okay to confess, it's good for the soul, but confess to the one that counts, the opinion that matters. Only God can judge you..
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Does Love Exist/Soul Traits
My favorite/least favorite topic...
I know that love is real, but sometimes when you see people, married, couples, friends, I wonder if love was the main ingredient used to ensure everlasting happiness?
I come back to this blog after a couple weeks of ignoring it for personal and blogging reasons. I had a conversation with my family. I asked "how come nobody knocks on my door?", why doesn't anyone find me worth getting to know? Why am I still single and I'm hitting my mid-twenties? Time is changing that even our generation will marry later in life. But than my parents talked about being mentally developed and it made a lot of sense. I have a strong personality, but I am also the quietest, most shy person you can ever meet. My hard shell hides the big strong me. But no really, relationships and marriage are a LOT of work. I mention all the time that my parents have been married for 30 years next April, that is a long time. couples in Hollywood now are divorcing..Why are people not obeying God's rule of through thick or through thin? Is love no longer a part of the equation or have couples forgotten why they fell in love with" my tall dark and handsome, or my other half whom they met only months prior...There have been a lot of quick romances, and some couples are still just "together" Brangelina now have six kids and are still going strong...Seriously, she made that work...Anyhoo,
When talking to my sister, she mentioned that she does not believe in soul mate because we can have more than one. And I see how and why. When picking someone, we want someone with ambition, determination, and passion, and of course is loving. These traits make for a great person, and if she is beautiful, heck that is a bonus. But these days looks are not the main ingredient. Education, work, family, where she comes from, how she was raised, what she does not, etc. Back than we married for security unless you really did find your true love, and if you did, I salute you and wish you every happiness.
But some people marry to stay secure because they know what they need, as do the parents. It's a cultural thing. Look at P.Diddy, he has two girlfriends who both know about each other...Cassie and Kim Parker. He has kids with one, and the other knows that she needs his 'security" to stay in the place that she is in. We all know, and she knows what she is to him, and maybe her family knows too, she will only make it so far, but she has what she needs now. He will treat her like a princess, but he won't marry her. But he can also drop her so fast, leaving her stranded, we all know Jennifer Lopez is on the market again and he knows when to make his move. Just you wait...(That marriage, J-Lo and Marc Anthony) was messed up too but hey...Gotta do what ya gotta do.
Back on track. Traits are what make a person appealing. If they have what you want, cooking skills, cleaning skills, can take care of babies, enjoys having a conversation about anything from politics to movies, to books to traveling, etc. she is a keeper. Like I also stated, looks won't always count anymore...
I hope you find your soul traits, someone that fits everything you want and need in a person and you know you can make it work with them.
I pray we all find that one person we can work with and stick with them. Vows are important, life is precious and it stops being about you once someone else comes in your life. It is a lot to handle and if you cannot handle it, don't mess up the routine of someone else just because you think they are pretty. It isn't worth it...
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I know that love is real, but sometimes when you see people, married, couples, friends, I wonder if love was the main ingredient used to ensure everlasting happiness?
I come back to this blog after a couple weeks of ignoring it for personal and blogging reasons. I had a conversation with my family. I asked "how come nobody knocks on my door?", why doesn't anyone find me worth getting to know? Why am I still single and I'm hitting my mid-twenties? Time is changing that even our generation will marry later in life. But than my parents talked about being mentally developed and it made a lot of sense. I have a strong personality, but I am also the quietest, most shy person you can ever meet. My hard shell hides the big strong me. But no really, relationships and marriage are a LOT of work. I mention all the time that my parents have been married for 30 years next April, that is a long time. couples in Hollywood now are divorcing..Why are people not obeying God's rule of through thick or through thin? Is love no longer a part of the equation or have couples forgotten why they fell in love with" my tall dark and handsome, or my other half whom they met only months prior...There have been a lot of quick romances, and some couples are still just "together" Brangelina now have six kids and are still going strong...Seriously, she made that work...Anyhoo,
When talking to my sister, she mentioned that she does not believe in soul mate because we can have more than one. And I see how and why. When picking someone, we want someone with ambition, determination, and passion, and of course is loving. These traits make for a great person, and if she is beautiful, heck that is a bonus. But these days looks are not the main ingredient. Education, work, family, where she comes from, how she was raised, what she does not, etc. Back than we married for security unless you really did find your true love, and if you did, I salute you and wish you every happiness.
But some people marry to stay secure because they know what they need, as do the parents. It's a cultural thing. Look at P.Diddy, he has two girlfriends who both know about each other...Cassie and Kim Parker. He has kids with one, and the other knows that she needs his 'security" to stay in the place that she is in. We all know, and she knows what she is to him, and maybe her family knows too, she will only make it so far, but she has what she needs now. He will treat her like a princess, but he won't marry her. But he can also drop her so fast, leaving her stranded, we all know Jennifer Lopez is on the market again and he knows when to make his move. Just you wait...(That marriage, J-Lo and Marc Anthony) was messed up too but hey...Gotta do what ya gotta do.
Back on track. Traits are what make a person appealing. If they have what you want, cooking skills, cleaning skills, can take care of babies, enjoys having a conversation about anything from politics to movies, to books to traveling, etc. she is a keeper. Like I also stated, looks won't always count anymore...
I hope you find your soul traits, someone that fits everything you want and need in a person and you know you can make it work with them.
I pray we all find that one person we can work with and stick with them. Vows are important, life is precious and it stops being about you once someone else comes in your life. It is a lot to handle and if you cannot handle it, don't mess up the routine of someone else just because you think they are pretty. It isn't worth it...
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)