Yes, this will be a not so nice blog!
It has come to my attention that in order to succeed, you must be a slut, gold digger, or use your assets, not talking about your personality or passion, in order to A) get a man, B) Pass school C) Get your license..."In your opinion?" "Yes, in my opinion" ( I love the Good Wife, can't wait for it to come back)
There are some girls that will stop at nothing to get what they want, but it is the way they fight for it. Not all of us are born fighters, we fight in diff ways. I fight with words, while others fight with their bodies. See, I am one of the good girls. Yes, I am, and I can sit here and blog about it. I do not sleep around, (yeah I'm going to get personal) I do not swear or wear inappropriate clothes to get a guys attention. I dress for my self, I don't wear fake contacts, and change in front of guys hoping they see my bra, I don't through my @$$ in front of them like I have no class. I fight with words because that's what I do best.
I grew up the shy quiet girl most guys did not see, nor approach. I never had a boyfriend, no guy friends, so I was used to just being around girls. I never flirted because the opportunity was never there. So I grew up not having certain experiences and just stayed the "good silent girl". Yeah I "talked" to a few guys but it never went past friendship.
As I got older things changed and I grew into my self. Image, mind, voice, personality...I learned to love my body despite the few things I might have. Small imperfections, but loving those imperfections made me realize that they do not define who I am. They just are a part of the life I had growing up, we all have scars, bumps and bruises but it shows that we fell and got back up. I am doing something about it because I am educating myself and learning what works for me and what doesn't. Being a hoe won't get you far, well, it can, but how long can you keep up the Facade
Some girls use their body to get men, not good...They will only want you for sex, and in the end, you have nothing else to offer so he gets tired of you. If there is one thing about me, I get emotionally attached to guys, and I always go for the ones that never like me in the end. (tear tear) My wires get a bit mixed up but that happens to some of us. We aren't all lucky to know how to flirt in public and not care, we don't all know how to use our "Assets" like the Kim's and Amber Rose's. Those girls only have the body, no education...Unless you know something I don't..Please, inform me lol.
Yes, the girls that stalked, hunted, and were persistent about what they wanted, are married with kids, they did not give up, but I wonder...Is the man really happy or is he trapped and only married her because he knew she wouldn't give up? Two options here... A) He liked the fact that she did not give up, she was a hard worker, ambitious, educated, and wants a good man and refused to settle, she knew what she wanted. Who doesn't want that type of girl? B) He married her because she wouldn't leave him alone now he has to grow to love her. I love option A even though that isn't me..Yet...We all get where we should eventually but it takes time and practice. But yea, I'd be sad if the guy I wanted and worked hard to get did not want me back, but at the same time, there are lots of fish in the sea so why settle for one guy when a million guys could want me?
Please do not be the gold digging slut that some girls are, it really is not a nice way to be seen. And guys respect a girl who respects herself, but is also confident in who she is, but does not use her body to prove she can make it, use your head. You have they body, that's great, but do not use your body for wrong. So many people think sex will keep a man but sadly you are wrong. He will stay for a bit, but that's about it. Education girls, very important. Not just the certificate, but be smart about your life choices and know that Karma is real!!!!!!!!!
This was a harsh blog but my day was full of some harsh words said, and things I heard made me see that this world is about survival of the fittest. Even if you are not the most athletic, does not mean you will not make it. I exercise at least twice a week and try to do what my body needs to be ready for a game. I know what is needed, so if I do what is needed, I should be okay.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, July 11, 2011
Don't Judge
One thing I do not get about people is how we treat each other still, and still want the respect of our enemies! I cannot tell you how many times I have been "used" or been the middle person, or decided to go for something and nobody stood behind me even tho they claimed they were my friends? I don't just mean Africans, this is everyone. We treat each other like garbage, and than when we want our hair done, or to borrow some money, or...anything, we go out of our way to be nice, and in the end, the real deal is that, "I just needed you at that time, not anymore" I get that we grow up in different areas, we all have our own ways have handling things, we talk different, have our own codes, we dress different, we go to our own places, etc, but that does not mean that we hurt each other for the sake of one's happiness.
What has this world come to?
The nerds and the geeks are not cool enough because they wear suspenders, funny shoes, and spend hours in thee bedroom creating who knows what...We have the losers, the goth, etc that wear dark make-up, dress in heavy wear no matter the weather, they listen to horrible loud aggressive music, and they intimidate people, mostly because they lack in social skills...We had the stuck up girls whose parents paid for everything from cars to shopping trips, and they even had trust funds so they could afford school, we had the kids that were avg and they just worked hard and yes, it paid off...Growing up I was the outcast. I kept to my self because I knew fitting in would be hard, and I have not always been a fighter, but more of the verbal fighter. I have never been strong at fighting. I was a follower because I did not know what path to take...But I am starting to figure out that who I am, is not a silent quiet person, so please, do not judge a book by it's cover.
I wish the division would end, but I know in this world, times have changed, and we have to push our way through the crowd because yelling is not enough!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
What has this world come to?
The nerds and the geeks are not cool enough because they wear suspenders, funny shoes, and spend hours in thee bedroom creating who knows what...We have the losers, the goth, etc that wear dark make-up, dress in heavy wear no matter the weather, they listen to horrible loud aggressive music, and they intimidate people, mostly because they lack in social skills...We had the stuck up girls whose parents paid for everything from cars to shopping trips, and they even had trust funds so they could afford school, we had the kids that were avg and they just worked hard and yes, it paid off...Growing up I was the outcast. I kept to my self because I knew fitting in would be hard, and I have not always been a fighter, but more of the verbal fighter. I have never been strong at fighting. I was a follower because I did not know what path to take...But I am starting to figure out that who I am, is not a silent quiet person, so please, do not judge a book by it's cover.
I wish the division would end, but I know in this world, times have changed, and we have to push our way through the crowd because yelling is not enough!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Saturday, July 9, 2011
It's been a while since I shared some news with you, and I guess I will start with this.
I believe in happiness, and though we are given so much responsibility in life, we deserve a day off, where we don't do what we can't do during the week, we do wht we want to do, that we are scared to do.
The other day I had the chance to sit at Public gardens on a gorgeous Fri, (Yesterday) I was there for maybe half an hour or an hour, but it felt nice to just be by myself, and enjoy the environment. It was hot, I felt gorgeous, I had gotten all dressed up, wore a cute yellow sundress, black sandals, had my hair down, and of course my make-up was on point, and I felt fabulous. Often times we let life get in the way, work bogs us down, school gets us depressed, jobs make us want to quit, and yea friends and family can be a bit much...But it is about how you handle it, putting your foot down, and telling someone how you feel. I am tired of the word, "that's life" because I do not believe that is how life should be. Why should young people be overworked? We are young, and we have so many opportunities, why should what we do, make us age fast, and in the end, instead of looking 24, (yes I am) and fabulous, I could end up looking 30. In life, we do what we love. It's called passion and determination. I am a writer, and I plan to use my writing as a way to educate, encourage, and uplift people. Sciences may be taking over, but we all have the right to express ourselves and people are trying to tell us that we are not allowed.
Writing has been a passion of mine since I was a little girl. I wrote anything and everything. Nothing stopped me. I kept going, and going, and before I knew it, I had binders and little booklets of things hidden in drawers, closets, bags, random places. And I still have a lot of those left.
Writing has helped me learn more about the type of person that I am. Strong minded, passionate, and i do not give up. There are areas in life that take time, but not everything happens in a day.
I am happy that people take time to look at my blogs, and share thoughts, or just look at the blog and see what I wrote about. This is how I communicate. Through words, but I have joined one of the best writing companies in the area and hopefully they can direct me in a positive way with my book.
It may be done by the end of the year, or it might take another year, it all depends on God's plan.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I believe in happiness, and though we are given so much responsibility in life, we deserve a day off, where we don't do what we can't do during the week, we do wht we want to do, that we are scared to do.
The other day I had the chance to sit at Public gardens on a gorgeous Fri, (Yesterday) I was there for maybe half an hour or an hour, but it felt nice to just be by myself, and enjoy the environment. It was hot, I felt gorgeous, I had gotten all dressed up, wore a cute yellow sundress, black sandals, had my hair down, and of course my make-up was on point, and I felt fabulous. Often times we let life get in the way, work bogs us down, school gets us depressed, jobs make us want to quit, and yea friends and family can be a bit much...But it is about how you handle it, putting your foot down, and telling someone how you feel. I am tired of the word, "that's life" because I do not believe that is how life should be. Why should young people be overworked? We are young, and we have so many opportunities, why should what we do, make us age fast, and in the end, instead of looking 24, (yes I am) and fabulous, I could end up looking 30. In life, we do what we love. It's called passion and determination. I am a writer, and I plan to use my writing as a way to educate, encourage, and uplift people. Sciences may be taking over, but we all have the right to express ourselves and people are trying to tell us that we are not allowed.
Writing has been a passion of mine since I was a little girl. I wrote anything and everything. Nothing stopped me. I kept going, and going, and before I knew it, I had binders and little booklets of things hidden in drawers, closets, bags, random places. And I still have a lot of those left.
Writing has helped me learn more about the type of person that I am. Strong minded, passionate, and i do not give up. There are areas in life that take time, but not everything happens in a day.
I am happy that people take time to look at my blogs, and share thoughts, or just look at the blog and see what I wrote about. This is how I communicate. Through words, but I have joined one of the best writing companies in the area and hopefully they can direct me in a positive way with my book.
It may be done by the end of the year, or it might take another year, it all depends on God's plan.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Passion/Dedication/Commitment/Blessings Vs. Education
The year is half over, crazy huh? I know, time is ticking so whatever you did not finish early this year, make sure you finish before the year ends! I should talk, it takes me forever to start and finish but I plan to finish stuff this year. Poems, books, etc!
Today was such an amazing day. I reconnected with a friend that I met last year during a program. She has been such a blessing to me and is always encouraging me to be a better person, and she always looks out for me. We hang out as often as time and schedules permit, however, life happens and we get really busy so often times we forget to spend quality time with good quality friends.
Than after that awesome meeting I met up with another old friend and we chatted for a couple hours about life and everything about it! I love the friends I have. I AM BLESSED!!! Yes I have a right to scream it lol
We spent a couple hours chatting about life, love, education, passions, and we talked about my future, where things are going, my plans, goals, ambitions, and what I hope to achieve the rest of the year. We are in month seven. July 2011, can you believe how fast time has flown?
We went from being babies, enjoying childhood, having crushes, playing in the sand, dirt, spilling on our church dresses, moving around, making jokes, etc, to paying bills, having kids, not know where life will take you but still taking risks that can either take you farther or put you back a step, moving to a new city, starting over, getting married! Wow, this is life and though we have many ups and downs, we must count our blessings and thank God for the amazing things he has done! I am so blessed I'm speechless, I could cry. I have a very small business but it has done so much for me. I braid hair, and am planning to expand to more than just braiding singles. Though I do not have a salaried income, God has told people to come to me. In ways I never thought he would. He is telling me what I am good at, what makes me smile, and to never ever worry because he always has my back! How can I complain? I have no right! I have parents that love me, siblings that look out for me, friends that care enough to msg me even if its once a year, I have gone through so much, mentally, emotionally, financially, things have not been easy at all...I am in a better place, just had to open my eyes and see God was working in my life. My personal life is always a hard spot to talk about, but it is always something to work on. Yes, I am single, and yes there is a person of interest, but my struggle with love has always been, what can I offer him? And what can he offer me? Well, I hope I am able to offer something great because I know that I am a pretty cool person to hang out with! But, if God decides that this guy is right for me, than he will show me. But I have a pretty good feeling about it, but will pray, and keep being open, and see what God does.
I am a passionate person. I put my all into something, and the past year God has been rewarding me I just did not know. Silly me right? lol
I am dedicated. When I put my mind to something, I get it done, it takes time, support, and of course there is a process to getting things accomplished, but I make it happen, and if it is not meant to be, than I try something else. Life is full of endless opportunities.
I don't give up very easy but I do fall. Who doesn't, we are human and can only do so much.
I believe in commitment, My parents have been married for 30 years next year, and they have displayed an incredible amount of love, I have no words, They have shown love, honesty, they have struggled in every aspect, but they have stuck to the vows they said in front of God since day one, and I love them for that. Not giving up, and the faith they have in God is amazing. God has seen us through so much, that even on days when you think, "it's not going to happen," God turns it around ten seconds before we want to give up and the miracle we prayed for is there. It is never our time, but God's time!
My faith in God grows every day, and I know right now my biggest struggle is getting back into school. I need your prayers, faith, constant pushing and motivation to make it happen. Please do not give up on me, for it takes a village to raise a child! I am young and still have so much growing and learning to do, but it will not happen without you. Yes, my readers, followers, friends, family, I won't make it without you!
Education is important and in this day and age it is hard to get jobs without such and I am a firm believer in learning, but I am also a firm believer that one should work in a job that they love, and not do something mediocre and be unhappy. I love writing, blogging, and my book is going to happen. I plan to put my name out there and let people know who I am, and what I do, and what I do is help people look beautiful, think smart, and to never give up on what they believe in.
I hope you do not give up, but also do not turn your backs on those that have a hard time going forth. We can't all know at 16 what we want to do, or have the financial means by the time we are 25 to make the rest of our dreams come true, but we can keep pushing, going forth, and always trust in God that he will see us through.
I love you all for your support, and hope you will keep checking in! I took time off to write because I would rather share my good days and blessings with you than bring you down on my sad days.
God is good, all the time, all the time God is good!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Today was such an amazing day. I reconnected with a friend that I met last year during a program. She has been such a blessing to me and is always encouraging me to be a better person, and she always looks out for me. We hang out as often as time and schedules permit, however, life happens and we get really busy so often times we forget to spend quality time with good quality friends.
Than after that awesome meeting I met up with another old friend and we chatted for a couple hours about life and everything about it! I love the friends I have. I AM BLESSED!!! Yes I have a right to scream it lol
We spent a couple hours chatting about life, love, education, passions, and we talked about my future, where things are going, my plans, goals, ambitions, and what I hope to achieve the rest of the year. We are in month seven. July 2011, can you believe how fast time has flown?
We went from being babies, enjoying childhood, having crushes, playing in the sand, dirt, spilling on our church dresses, moving around, making jokes, etc, to paying bills, having kids, not know where life will take you but still taking risks that can either take you farther or put you back a step, moving to a new city, starting over, getting married! Wow, this is life and though we have many ups and downs, we must count our blessings and thank God for the amazing things he has done! I am so blessed I'm speechless, I could cry. I have a very small business but it has done so much for me. I braid hair, and am planning to expand to more than just braiding singles. Though I do not have a salaried income, God has told people to come to me. In ways I never thought he would. He is telling me what I am good at, what makes me smile, and to never ever worry because he always has my back! How can I complain? I have no right! I have parents that love me, siblings that look out for me, friends that care enough to msg me even if its once a year, I have gone through so much, mentally, emotionally, financially, things have not been easy at all...I am in a better place, just had to open my eyes and see God was working in my life. My personal life is always a hard spot to talk about, but it is always something to work on. Yes, I am single, and yes there is a person of interest, but my struggle with love has always been, what can I offer him? And what can he offer me? Well, I hope I am able to offer something great because I know that I am a pretty cool person to hang out with! But, if God decides that this guy is right for me, than he will show me. But I have a pretty good feeling about it, but will pray, and keep being open, and see what God does.
I am a passionate person. I put my all into something, and the past year God has been rewarding me I just did not know. Silly me right? lol
I am dedicated. When I put my mind to something, I get it done, it takes time, support, and of course there is a process to getting things accomplished, but I make it happen, and if it is not meant to be, than I try something else. Life is full of endless opportunities.
I don't give up very easy but I do fall. Who doesn't, we are human and can only do so much.
I believe in commitment, My parents have been married for 30 years next year, and they have displayed an incredible amount of love, I have no words, They have shown love, honesty, they have struggled in every aspect, but they have stuck to the vows they said in front of God since day one, and I love them for that. Not giving up, and the faith they have in God is amazing. God has seen us through so much, that even on days when you think, "it's not going to happen," God turns it around ten seconds before we want to give up and the miracle we prayed for is there. It is never our time, but God's time!
My faith in God grows every day, and I know right now my biggest struggle is getting back into school. I need your prayers, faith, constant pushing and motivation to make it happen. Please do not give up on me, for it takes a village to raise a child! I am young and still have so much growing and learning to do, but it will not happen without you. Yes, my readers, followers, friends, family, I won't make it without you!
Education is important and in this day and age it is hard to get jobs without such and I am a firm believer in learning, but I am also a firm believer that one should work in a job that they love, and not do something mediocre and be unhappy. I love writing, blogging, and my book is going to happen. I plan to put my name out there and let people know who I am, and what I do, and what I do is help people look beautiful, think smart, and to never give up on what they believe in.
I hope you do not give up, but also do not turn your backs on those that have a hard time going forth. We can't all know at 16 what we want to do, or have the financial means by the time we are 25 to make the rest of our dreams come true, but we can keep pushing, going forth, and always trust in God that he will see us through.
I love you all for your support, and hope you will keep checking in! I took time off to write because I would rather share my good days and blessings with you than bring you down on my sad days.
God is good, all the time, all the time God is good!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
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