So, things have really kicked in for me in a lot of ways. I often make choices that I think will benefit me, but I am not asking God if it is for the best so I end up making a choice that backfires on me. Life is about learning, but life is also about listening to those around you, and when we, okay, when I, go against what people say because I feel they won't understand, God is really testing me to determine if I can listen to him and sadly, I do not obey as much as I should and that is not good. So growing up is hard but it has to happen no matter what, and change is a part of life, we have to accept it despite how we think or feel. Situations do not make a person, if you decide to be something, or do something, make sure you know why you are doing it, and to make sure it is for the best, not because you think it will make you happy. I love my family, and all the support they give, but growing up we all had a different life even though we are from the same family, Age does make a difference when making choices and it is hard to hang with those who are either older or younger, what we need to make sure is that we keep each other in check but in a positive way. I am grateful that I am assured by family how incredible I am because sometimes it is tough and you get angry and upset and you end up doing things that you regret, but to know who I am and the faith my family has in my makes me feel and know how loved I am and to never go against their advice. Listen to those closest to you!!!!!!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, December 19, 2011
Finish What You Start
I was just going over some blog posts and I had not realized that I do not finish what I start. For example, I will start a poem, and will leave it for weeks, or I will start a blog, and leave it forgetting it is there...So my goal is to finish what I start. Or at least to remember to go back to it. I have so many short stories that never got finished...Not good. So, this blog is short, and also to remind those that if you start something, don't forget about it.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Monday, December 5, 2011
FBW
I'm sure you can figure out what the title stands for.
This was a FB status I made just before I made the blog.
"Women need to stop accepting the "Friends With Benefits Package", you don't deserve a standard or mediocre friendship/relationship where you give him what he wants, what about you. Always remind yourself you are worth much more than what he's willing to give, and remind him you aren't settling for less, benefits come after he has worked to keep you, just like a job, keep him on probation till he puts a ring on it. Yup, I said it."
Time and time again men have convinced women with their bodies instead of their hearts to be with them. Women who come from good homes, run into guys who use their charm, and a nice little hobby, like singing or poetry, or even books to give a woman the impression he's the commitment type, but we all know that that is how he gets women. He'll sweet talk her, have a good convo, than find a way to make her laugh smile, knowing in his body, "This one's easy." Sadly, women fall for it, but I have learned that being strong makes a huge difference, and I am glad to know I will not be another stereotype and let myself fall for someone that won't even be there 100% for me. Days after this post, since sometimes I start my blogs but do not finish, I find myself with a new sight towards my idea. There were some comments that made me really see that some women do just want something physical, while some want the real deal. And if you choose a short term, I have no right to judge, because you know exactly what you are doing, and why. You know where you are and you have decided to accept the present. If I ever offended anyone regarding my post, my apologies, I am just sharing how I feel about things, and I feel that women should not settle for less.
Hey, that's just my thought, everyone thinks differently.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
This was a FB status I made just before I made the blog.
"Women need to stop accepting the "Friends With Benefits Package", you don't deserve a standard or mediocre friendship/relationship where you give him what he wants, what about you. Always remind yourself you are worth much more than what he's willing to give, and remind him you aren't settling for less, benefits come after he has worked to keep you, just like a job, keep him on probation till he puts a ring on it. Yup, I said it."
Time and time again men have convinced women with their bodies instead of their hearts to be with them. Women who come from good homes, run into guys who use their charm, and a nice little hobby, like singing or poetry, or even books to give a woman the impression he's the commitment type, but we all know that that is how he gets women. He'll sweet talk her, have a good convo, than find a way to make her laugh smile, knowing in his body, "This one's easy." Sadly, women fall for it, but I have learned that being strong makes a huge difference, and I am glad to know I will not be another stereotype and let myself fall for someone that won't even be there 100% for me. Days after this post, since sometimes I start my blogs but do not finish, I find myself with a new sight towards my idea. There were some comments that made me really see that some women do just want something physical, while some want the real deal. And if you choose a short term, I have no right to judge, because you know exactly what you are doing, and why. You know where you are and you have decided to accept the present. If I ever offended anyone regarding my post, my apologies, I am just sharing how I feel about things, and I feel that women should not settle for less.
Hey, that's just my thought, everyone thinks differently.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
FourTraits
http://www.christianhusbands.org/writings/responsibility.html
The bible talks about there being a particular type of woman that men should want to marry, and it made me think, there must be one about men, so I looked it up on google and that is where I found the link posted above. Men talk so much about the type of woman they want, how she should be, dress, traits they want her to have, etc but I have always wondered about men, and what to look for, and this changes everything.
There are four areas that men need to have in order to make a good Christian man, and if looking for more, a good Christian husband. I thought it was really neat and informative, and of course I went to the bible to find out more information, and I think it is great how when you want to know something, the bible is there for you to find it. Sometimes its in a hidden message but you have to dig to find it. Proverbs 31:10 talks about the type of woman, a woman of virtue, which sadly these days its hard to find, but we are out there. So, the main point of this blog is to emphasize to men, to please, do not think you cannot hold these traits that God declares all men should have, if you are expecting your woman, the one you want to be with to have the traits you want, loving, caring, strong, ambitious, and can hold things down when you cannot, you need to be able to do the same for her. It is not about one person when it comes to relationships, just know that both parties need attention, and the right kind goes a long way. You cannot demand a man to be like this, but you can encourage him to be a better person if you notice he is straying. Okay, I wont make it a long blog, I am working on my blogs being shorter than normal. Work in Progress.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
The bible talks about there being a particular type of woman that men should want to marry, and it made me think, there must be one about men, so I looked it up on google and that is where I found the link posted above. Men talk so much about the type of woman they want, how she should be, dress, traits they want her to have, etc but I have always wondered about men, and what to look for, and this changes everything.
There are four areas that men need to have in order to make a good Christian man, and if looking for more, a good Christian husband. I thought it was really neat and informative, and of course I went to the bible to find out more information, and I think it is great how when you want to know something, the bible is there for you to find it. Sometimes its in a hidden message but you have to dig to find it. Proverbs 31:10 talks about the type of woman, a woman of virtue, which sadly these days its hard to find, but we are out there. So, the main point of this blog is to emphasize to men, to please, do not think you cannot hold these traits that God declares all men should have, if you are expecting your woman, the one you want to be with to have the traits you want, loving, caring, strong, ambitious, and can hold things down when you cannot, you need to be able to do the same for her. It is not about one person when it comes to relationships, just know that both parties need attention, and the right kind goes a long way. You cannot demand a man to be like this, but you can encourage him to be a better person if you notice he is straying. Okay, I wont make it a long blog, I am working on my blogs being shorter than normal. Work in Progress.
Signed;
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
ABG turns ABW
Check out this link: http://www.bullyingcanada.ca/index.php, and this on: http://www.redcross.ca/article.asp?id=24700&tid=108, and last one: http://www.stopabully.ca/
So this is part two of my response. But it is no longer bout being an Awkward Black Girl, the title has changed to an Angry Black Woman but for a reason. This time, it's not about men.
A week ago I came across a gossip site which brought the attention of two suicides. Two young girls has both hung themselves because they were both bullied in school. This drew my attention because I was bullied when I was in high school., not as badly when I was younger, but in High School it was all about who was more popular, who could afford this and that, and who was prettier. Most times I never made either list and i was happy, because I did not care. But I look back now and I kept it together. My sisters helped me change a lot about myself at the same time encouraging me to love who I was. Being different made you an easy target for bullying and my hope and prayer is that more people will take a stand and stand with their kids. If your kids refuses to get out of bed, there is a problem. Do not ignore it, do something about it. Your child is your responsibility, not the schools. Last year while I was working I had to spend two weeks with my cousins because their parents and mine and gone out of the country for a family event. My sister joined me a couple of days later. While at work I got phone call telling me about an incident involving my younger cousin at school. I froze, and kept myself from losing my mind. Not knowing how to help her or what to do I took time to breathe. If this is what a parent goes through when it comes to handling these types of problems, I hope I did the right thing. I ask what happened, asked how my lil girl was doing, and told my sister thanks for letting me know, and she explained that other family had stepped in as well. I could have left but there was someone closer to her than me, and I knew I probably would not have been much help. Kids are cruel. What happened to my cousin could have beat her up emotionally but she is a strong person and has a big heart. She made it through fine, but I know it wasn't easy. Kids showed up at her home threatening her and I got concerned. Her older sister had to pick her up from school to make sure she was not picked on or hurt anymore. That is why I love my family. They will stand beside each other know matter what.
So now the world is accepting people who are different, and it's about time we stopped hurting others. I know that when one bullies another, it is because the one doing the bullying is not getting enough love at home, and needs an outlet, so they find the easiest, softest target and shoot away. I don't want to sound violent but bullying has gone too far, and there should be a law against it otherwise we will lose more youth, and parents will never recover from burying their child.
It all starts at home. Look at the Columbine Shootings, those kids were messed up, the Dawson College shooting in Montreal, it breaks my heart to think about the issues going on in families...I wish I could wish it all away but we know that won't happen, but we should do something.
We need to do more, what more can be done?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
So this is part two of my response. But it is no longer bout being an Awkward Black Girl, the title has changed to an Angry Black Woman but for a reason. This time, it's not about men.
A week ago I came across a gossip site which brought the attention of two suicides. Two young girls has both hung themselves because they were both bullied in school. This drew my attention because I was bullied when I was in high school., not as badly when I was younger, but in High School it was all about who was more popular, who could afford this and that, and who was prettier. Most times I never made either list and i was happy, because I did not care. But I look back now and I kept it together. My sisters helped me change a lot about myself at the same time encouraging me to love who I was. Being different made you an easy target for bullying and my hope and prayer is that more people will take a stand and stand with their kids. If your kids refuses to get out of bed, there is a problem. Do not ignore it, do something about it. Your child is your responsibility, not the schools. Last year while I was working I had to spend two weeks with my cousins because their parents and mine and gone out of the country for a family event. My sister joined me a couple of days later. While at work I got phone call telling me about an incident involving my younger cousin at school. I froze, and kept myself from losing my mind. Not knowing how to help her or what to do I took time to breathe. If this is what a parent goes through when it comes to handling these types of problems, I hope I did the right thing. I ask what happened, asked how my lil girl was doing, and told my sister thanks for letting me know, and she explained that other family had stepped in as well. I could have left but there was someone closer to her than me, and I knew I probably would not have been much help. Kids are cruel. What happened to my cousin could have beat her up emotionally but she is a strong person and has a big heart. She made it through fine, but I know it wasn't easy. Kids showed up at her home threatening her and I got concerned. Her older sister had to pick her up from school to make sure she was not picked on or hurt anymore. That is why I love my family. They will stand beside each other know matter what.
So now the world is accepting people who are different, and it's about time we stopped hurting others. I know that when one bullies another, it is because the one doing the bullying is not getting enough love at home, and needs an outlet, so they find the easiest, softest target and shoot away. I don't want to sound violent but bullying has gone too far, and there should be a law against it otherwise we will lose more youth, and parents will never recover from burying their child.
It all starts at home. Look at the Columbine Shootings, those kids were messed up, the Dawson College shooting in Montreal, it breaks my heart to think about the issues going on in families...I wish I could wish it all away but we know that won't happen, but we should do something.
We need to do more, what more can be done?
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Saturday, November 26, 2011
ABGResponse
Part One
I have struggled with this blog for a while now, and I have decided to do it in parts because this hits close to home.
I was born in Zambia, left when I was a year and a half, I spent the first ten years of my life in the valley, Annapolis. I went to school there, church, I had a while life there. I lived amongst my friends, my neighbors and I all went to the same school, we all got alone, and my race was never an issue. Than when I was in my last year of grade five, my dad accepted a position to be a pastor at a church in the city so the whole family moved to the city. I did not like the city. I loved the valley, that was my home, but change is a part of life, so off we went. We landed in the city, lived in a couple of homes before the final move to Cole Harbor the year I was in grade eight. Since than we never moved again. I explain this because it is relevant to my post. While in school, I stuck out because I was different. In elementary school my sisters and I were the only black students besides a few mixed race kids. At this time, none of that mattered. But once we hit the city, race became an issue. I had been surrounded by Caucasians my whole life, and now being thrown into a a new setting with Black Nova Scotians, and other diverse cultures, it made me see that there was more to life than the life I had previously. I did not fit in at all, it took me a while to settle in, but I was able to make friends. I had different friends circles. Some days I would sit with one group, other times, I sat with some nerds, but often I just kinda went with the crowd. I cannot remember everything to detail, but I know I had trouble keeping friends. I don't remember much about junior high school, but high school was where I finally came into my own skin, and started to really discover who I was. I was a part of groups that allowed me to express who I was, even if I did not know what to do most of the time. I love to dance but am not a dancer...I had been writing though, short stories, poems, random thoughts. High school was when the awkwardness came out. First year, I had my own way of doing things, and that made me a target for bullying. It never got out of hand, but it made me feel more aware of myself. The names I was called were never bitter names but the fact that complete strangers though that they could say stuff, I am not sure if they were tempting or provoking a fight to see what I would do, but I never fought back. I was told if I had nothing nice to say, not to say anything at all. So I kept quiet. Over time , I grew more of a back bone and was able to really stand up for my self more. Being awkward is not fun, or at least back than it wasn't, but now, I am learning to embrace who I am, and accepting my self for who I am because loving my self is more important than please people who do not know me or appreciate other personalities. The road does not get any easier, but it will be better for yourself, like me, to just accept who you are instead of trying to be someone else for someone else.
Check back for Part Two:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have struggled with this blog for a while now, and I have decided to do it in parts because this hits close to home.
I was born in Zambia, left when I was a year and a half, I spent the first ten years of my life in the valley, Annapolis. I went to school there, church, I had a while life there. I lived amongst my friends, my neighbors and I all went to the same school, we all got alone, and my race was never an issue. Than when I was in my last year of grade five, my dad accepted a position to be a pastor at a church in the city so the whole family moved to the city. I did not like the city. I loved the valley, that was my home, but change is a part of life, so off we went. We landed in the city, lived in a couple of homes before the final move to Cole Harbor the year I was in grade eight. Since than we never moved again. I explain this because it is relevant to my post. While in school, I stuck out because I was different. In elementary school my sisters and I were the only black students besides a few mixed race kids. At this time, none of that mattered. But once we hit the city, race became an issue. I had been surrounded by Caucasians my whole life, and now being thrown into a a new setting with Black Nova Scotians, and other diverse cultures, it made me see that there was more to life than the life I had previously. I did not fit in at all, it took me a while to settle in, but I was able to make friends. I had different friends circles. Some days I would sit with one group, other times, I sat with some nerds, but often I just kinda went with the crowd. I cannot remember everything to detail, but I know I had trouble keeping friends. I don't remember much about junior high school, but high school was where I finally came into my own skin, and started to really discover who I was. I was a part of groups that allowed me to express who I was, even if I did not know what to do most of the time. I love to dance but am not a dancer...I had been writing though, short stories, poems, random thoughts. High school was when the awkwardness came out. First year, I had my own way of doing things, and that made me a target for bullying. It never got out of hand, but it made me feel more aware of myself. The names I was called were never bitter names but the fact that complete strangers though that they could say stuff, I am not sure if they were tempting or provoking a fight to see what I would do, but I never fought back. I was told if I had nothing nice to say, not to say anything at all. So I kept quiet. Over time , I grew more of a back bone and was able to really stand up for my self more. Being awkward is not fun, or at least back than it wasn't, but now, I am learning to embrace who I am, and accepting my self for who I am because loving my self is more important than please people who do not know me or appreciate other personalities. The road does not get any easier, but it will be better for yourself, like me, to just accept who you are instead of trying to be someone else for someone else.
Check back for Part Two:
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Friday, November 18, 2011
IndependentOrDependent/Communicate
http://www.essence.com/2011/11/17/real-talk-tyrese-says-you-need-a-man/
So....Black ...women are in this conversation more than any other race that I know of...That I have read of. You see, Black women do love their Black men, but we have a very big communication problem. Black women would prefer that their man come already trained to help out in the kitchen, help around the house, pick up the kids, contribute, and eventually, marry the woman they have shared a few years with. Instead, we have Black couples divorcing after such a short period of time. Divorcing after a year or two, and all we can ask is, "Why go through with it knowing it's for life, and your not sure?" Eva Longoria married Tony Parker and they divorced, but he did cheat. However, vows do say through thick and thin. I'm not saying forgive him right away, but he has to know he did wrong, pay for it, and find a way to gain your trust back. For celebrities its worse. Now a days the B-ball players just want to have fun, they don't care if they are married or not. The wives know what they are getting into. It's all about the money in the end. Whether they fight the press about it for years, we know money is the reason most B-ball players find those wives who just want access into clubs, booze, and to be flown all over the world wearing hideous looking clothes they think are gorgeous. But the real deal is within our own people. A good Black woman will show her man she appreciates him. But the Black man needs to stop being pampered 24/7 and pamper her back. Your wife does NOT replace your mother. You need to get that out if your head. Be the man, you have a job to, and its more than to just bring home the bacon. Dating outside the race has always been a problem, but now the topic is just out of hand. Movies such as "Something New" Which showed that no matter how for you are for your own man, he could be successful, gorgeous, have it all, but he could be boring as anything and just want to be at home and work. That is boring. So she went for the White guy because he made her laugh, smile, and was outgoing. People stared, and whispered, but who cares???????? Why do us girls, Black girls care so much about what people think about us? Do they pay your bills? They are just jealous because you found a good man who will honor you for life. Nobody else matters except for the people you pick. Family will always support you even if they do not like the choice you make. It's their job to stand behind you because in the end, all family want is for you to be happy.
Now I kinda went a bit off track, so to come back to my title...Women have leaned on men for decades until we were given rights to vote, work, and do other things. Now, we want to be independent, bu the man wants us to lean on him. It can get messy but if you just sit and talk things out with your spouse, it's not as hard as you make it out to be. Honesty is a good policy. If you do not learn to trust in you relationship, you will struggle with everything else and life is too short. Let him spoil you, let him treat you, no harm in that. But talk about things in a calm and respectful manner without yelling and trying to hurt each other.
Loving is so important yet this world would rather us kill each other. Let's not do that. Treasure life, communicate in a decent manner, and learn to be open, kind, and respectful.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
So....Black ...women are in this conversation more than any other race that I know of...That I have read of. You see, Black women do love their Black men, but we have a very big communication problem. Black women would prefer that their man come already trained to help out in the kitchen, help around the house, pick up the kids, contribute, and eventually, marry the woman they have shared a few years with. Instead, we have Black couples divorcing after such a short period of time. Divorcing after a year or two, and all we can ask is, "Why go through with it knowing it's for life, and your not sure?" Eva Longoria married Tony Parker and they divorced, but he did cheat. However, vows do say through thick and thin. I'm not saying forgive him right away, but he has to know he did wrong, pay for it, and find a way to gain your trust back. For celebrities its worse. Now a days the B-ball players just want to have fun, they don't care if they are married or not. The wives know what they are getting into. It's all about the money in the end. Whether they fight the press about it for years, we know money is the reason most B-ball players find those wives who just want access into clubs, booze, and to be flown all over the world wearing hideous looking clothes they think are gorgeous. But the real deal is within our own people. A good Black woman will show her man she appreciates him. But the Black man needs to stop being pampered 24/7 and pamper her back. Your wife does NOT replace your mother. You need to get that out if your head. Be the man, you have a job to, and its more than to just bring home the bacon. Dating outside the race has always been a problem, but now the topic is just out of hand. Movies such as "Something New" Which showed that no matter how for you are for your own man, he could be successful, gorgeous, have it all, but he could be boring as anything and just want to be at home and work. That is boring. So she went for the White guy because he made her laugh, smile, and was outgoing. People stared, and whispered, but who cares???????? Why do us girls, Black girls care so much about what people think about us? Do they pay your bills? They are just jealous because you found a good man who will honor you for life. Nobody else matters except for the people you pick. Family will always support you even if they do not like the choice you make. It's their job to stand behind you because in the end, all family want is for you to be happy.
Now I kinda went a bit off track, so to come back to my title...Women have leaned on men for decades until we were given rights to vote, work, and do other things. Now, we want to be independent, bu the man wants us to lean on him. It can get messy but if you just sit and talk things out with your spouse, it's not as hard as you make it out to be. Honesty is a good policy. If you do not learn to trust in you relationship, you will struggle with everything else and life is too short. Let him spoil you, let him treat you, no harm in that. But talk about things in a calm and respectful manner without yelling and trying to hurt each other.
Loving is so important yet this world would rather us kill each other. Let's not do that. Treasure life, communicate in a decent manner, and learn to be open, kind, and respectful.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
BlessedBeyondBelief/YetBodyBreakingDown
As grateful as I am for the fact that four companies want to hire me, the process literally had me almost asleep at the wheel the past few days. I had four job interviews in two days. Three women's stores want to hire me by the end of the week...I have been job hunting for the past nine months so I am grateful for the positive outcomes happening now, but it's been a toll on the body. What do I do?? (in shock, face in hands). The past few days had me thinking to myself, we spend so much time trying to impress people, give the right answers, find the right job, spending hours doing so many things that by the time we are done, our body shuts down and that is not good. It is required that we get 8 hours of sleep so out body can rest, relax, cleanse from the day, and re-energize in order to be fresh and enthusiastic for the next day. Why not sleep, and work all night? If it doesn't get done, tell your boss to go somewhere (seriously, you are only human) If he thinks you can perform miracles in an eight hour work day he must think he hired superman. We only have on superman...You have 24 hours in a day. Nobody should get up at 6am, to be at work for 8, to get off at either 5 or 6 to get home soo late you either just see your kids going down for bed, or you arrive in time for supper, barely letting yourself relax before you work on other things. Life has just made us soooo busy. And the worst part is the holidays. Every holiday we over due ourselves. Thanksgiving, you hae to buy all the ingredients. Christmas, that is the most expensive time of year. One night, oh so funny, my parents had gone to Sobeys and had bought a whole bunch of groceries, only to find out that we had no space in our trunk because it was filled with, lol kinda gross but funny, garbage. haha so he had to ask a stafff member to help him unload his garbage to fit in his groceries, My dad just wanted to make sure the food got home. He' a funny guy, and only means well. He just wants a nice home for his kids to live in but he forgot to get rid of the stuff he through out.
ANYWAY...
So yeah, no matter how busy you are, NEVER let work, other activities, even your kids or your friends convince you that you need to be so busy. Take a day off, go to the spa, go see a funny movie, go have a drink, even if you have never had alcohol, go check out an art gallery and enjoy some beautiful artwork. Do something other than what you normally do...Give yourself a break.
This might sound like, but I have had one of those days where I just felt like my body was glued to my bed...Not for sleep, but because moving and walking became so hard that I could barely make a phone call...Be kind to your body, eat right, sleep, exercise, drink fluids, life is too short, so be nice to your body.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
ANYWAY...
So yeah, no matter how busy you are, NEVER let work, other activities, even your kids or your friends convince you that you need to be so busy. Take a day off, go to the spa, go see a funny movie, go have a drink, even if you have never had alcohol, go check out an art gallery and enjoy some beautiful artwork. Do something other than what you normally do...Give yourself a break.
This might sound like, but I have had one of those days where I just felt like my body was glued to my bed...Not for sleep, but because moving and walking became so hard that I could barely make a phone call...Be kind to your body, eat right, sleep, exercise, drink fluids, life is too short, so be nice to your body.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
SixWeeks
So just under a week ago, I decided to go through a trial and error phase for 6 weeks to change things up a bit and see if I can turn some results around. Not saying I did not before, I like trying new things and being different and being bold, but I have decided to give 100% in order to receive 100%. This includes more time with God, time with family and friends, sharing things that matter, changing my wardrobe, I will be 25 in just under three months and I felt a change was due. Why wait until next year? So for the rest of the year, my goal is to dress fab wherever I go, try new styles, new shades of make-up, earrings, go harder on the job hunting, which by the way, has made for some good progress. I booked three interviews, well four, but I already had one. Three for Wed, and I am feeling pretty good about each of them. It's for the holidays. So I have been doing my homework, doing my research about each job. I am working on my life plan. So much has happened over the past couple of years, and more recently this past year, I have made a lot of discoveries about my self, and never did I think I would become a poet, blogger, and an entrepreneur, yes soon I will be selling hair, I don't have any one me, but I am in the middle of great business plan. I have always wanted to own my own business, but never knew what steps to take, how to make them happen, but I have a huge network that it's impossible to think it cannot work. It can and it will.
I will do my best to show you the new places I check out, outfits, things I discover, and share my journey with you. I'm a few days behind, but I am working on confidence with every outfit and learning to be sexy and love my body. No more cute and adorable, it's time to become the grown and sexy woman I know I am, and remind everyone that I am not a little girl anymore...I am growing up and I hope that you can all take this journey with me. :)
I'm excited, a little nervous, I am also hoping to be able to meet new people, and try new event that I have never considered before...Being different and stepping outside of my box. You should try it.
I also want to point out an event at Saint Mary's University on the 24th of November...From 8-11pm, I am one of the poets, and will be showcasing my lovely work, a poem I wrote and a duet poem a friend and I will perform together at the Gorsebrook. It's on campus, its by donation, funds will go to the Watoto Children's Choir so I urge all to go and check it out...And support local and incredible poetic talent. For more info, (although that is pretty much it, check out the link below.
https://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=217220615012758
Bring friends and family, and an open mind to hear some great people speak.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I will do my best to show you the new places I check out, outfits, things I discover, and share my journey with you. I'm a few days behind, but I am working on confidence with every outfit and learning to be sexy and love my body. No more cute and adorable, it's time to become the grown and sexy woman I know I am, and remind everyone that I am not a little girl anymore...I am growing up and I hope that you can all take this journey with me. :)
I'm excited, a little nervous, I am also hoping to be able to meet new people, and try new event that I have never considered before...Being different and stepping outside of my box. You should try it.
I also want to point out an event at Saint Mary's University on the 24th of November...From 8-11pm, I am one of the poets, and will be showcasing my lovely work, a poem I wrote and a duet poem a friend and I will perform together at the Gorsebrook. It's on campus, its by donation, funds will go to the Watoto Children's Choir so I urge all to go and check it out...And support local and incredible poetic talent. For more info, (although that is pretty much it, check out the link below.
https://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=217220615012758
Bring friends and family, and an open mind to hear some great people speak.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, November 10, 2011
InterestingLinks
So...I was going to blog about how little sleep I got last night, but I decided to blog about some links I came across today which I found very helpful, and will use in my own personal use...And later, will share if I have any success with either or all of them...What on earth am I talking about?????
I have always been an avid Essence reader. I would buy every magazine until I decided to save some $$$ and just go online. If it wasn't online, than I'd buy the magazine.
Here are some links I came across today:
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/25/modern-day-matchmaker-how-to-tell-if-youre-dating-a-man-or-a-boy/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/18/modern-day-matchmaker-9-things-you-didnt-know-about-black-love/
http://www.essence.com/2011/11/01/modern-day-matchmaker-the-secret-to-finding-your-idris-or-denzel/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/12/girls-best-friend-you-need-a-love-to-do-list/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/11/modern-day-matchmaker-10-pick-up-lines-hell-go-for/
Enjoy and share your thoughts.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I have always been an avid Essence reader. I would buy every magazine until I decided to save some $$$ and just go online. If it wasn't online, than I'd buy the magazine.
Here are some links I came across today:
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/25/modern-day-matchmaker-how-to-tell-if-youre-dating-a-man-or-a-boy/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/18/modern-day-matchmaker-9-things-you-didnt-know-about-black-love/
http://www.essence.com/2011/11/01/modern-day-matchmaker-the-secret-to-finding-your-idris-or-denzel/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/12/girls-best-friend-you-need-a-love-to-do-list/
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/11/modern-day-matchmaker-10-pick-up-lines-hell-go-for/
Enjoy and share your thoughts.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Saturday, November 5, 2011
Everything
Everything changed. If you had been there, you would know what I mean. Poets4Change brought out a me I have been fighting to bring out, but was not sure how, or when it would happen. I delivered a poem for the first time in I don't know how many years. I have been going to Poetry nights and poetry events, and speaking, but yet, none of them compared to Wednesday night. Everything has changed. I spoke with passion, and with pride, and my goal is to learn to take what I do seriously. I am going to start allowing people to get to know me in three minutes. I want them to know who I am as a poet, and why this works for me.
Do not get the wrong idea, I come from a great family. Amazing parents, great siblings, we talk, share, laugh, and we help each other out, but there are times when we also hold back. I don't share as much because sometimes it is hard, but I know family is all we have in the end. Being a poet has made me emotional, more aware, and willing to just give it all I've got because I have a purpose and a reason for being a poet, and it is not just to be on stage to look pretty and search for gorgeous men, it's a bonus if I find one, but my point is that I am willing to let it go, regardless who what you or other's say. Loving what I do is all that matters and if how I do it bothers you, than you can go somewhere else...(Ranty like from this side but it happens). So I am urging and encouraging all to never give up on your dreams, to stick to your gut, your first love, and take yourself as high as you can go.
Be who you are and people will respect you. I am learning that now.
God bless
Signed:
Gyfted Artyst
Do not get the wrong idea, I come from a great family. Amazing parents, great siblings, we talk, share, laugh, and we help each other out, but there are times when we also hold back. I don't share as much because sometimes it is hard, but I know family is all we have in the end. Being a poet has made me emotional, more aware, and willing to just give it all I've got because I have a purpose and a reason for being a poet, and it is not just to be on stage to look pretty and search for gorgeous men, it's a bonus if I find one, but my point is that I am willing to let it go, regardless who what you or other's say. Loving what I do is all that matters and if how I do it bothers you, than you can go somewhere else...(Ranty like from this side but it happens). So I am urging and encouraging all to never give up on your dreams, to stick to your gut, your first love, and take yourself as high as you can go.
Be who you are and people will respect you. I am learning that now.
God bless
Signed:
Gyfted Artyst
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Small Victories Do Count
I know how hard it is to find a job because I have been jobless since February of this past year. But over time, as you look for a job, your attitude changes, your perception changes, you change as a person, and you go from thinking good about things, to having a bad attitude and wondering why God has forgotten about you. Some days it feels like you are being ignored, stepped on, under estimated, and treated like you do not matter. Think about all the good you have done, even if it happened years ago, you have come far. I am still job hunting, applying, and hearing nothing back, so I keep going. Found more jobs, and say to my self, I qualify for this job, because this is my passion, or I love to do this, so I will work hard to make the job happen for me. Dwelling on the pain only makes it harder to keep moving forward. I have been standing beside my best friend for almost six years, and there are some days when I just want to yell at her, but I do not because I know that she needs me, but there are times when I need her, but she makes the friendship seem more about her than us. I have tried to tell her, but she is so wrapped up in her own world sometimes she forgets that she is not on her own. I know she has gone through a lot, but she also has to grow up at some point and get over her past. I told her, but I am not sure if she will speak to me again. I know her, and we might not speak for a few weeks or a few days or five months, but I do know that I love her with my heart, and am only trying to help her. I hope one day she can see that.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Dealing With Grief
We all deal with grief in different ways. A few days ago, I recently learned of the passing of one of my youth that was in my youth group years ago when I was a leader. His death came as a shock, however, I was unable to cry, or show any signs of sadness. I know it's a sad time, but it just does not seem like it happened at all. I did not know the kid at all, but years ago, he was such a happy smiley kid who just wanted to be a part of everything. Everyone loved him, and we are all mourning him. Life is so precious, that the thought of anything happening to my younger cousins make me wish I was involved in their life more. And that is what I will do. It my job to be a part of my family's life and to show them that I love them and care for them even when they are not in the mood. My family has shown some of the strongest values and morals I know that to think anything less would be insane. Im beyond grateful, I am speechless at the impression, the imprint that my family has one a lot of people. I love them with everything in me, and I hope that they know that. Through thick and thin, family is always there, treasure life, value and remember each moment, because one day that moment will be the only memory. Even when family makes you sad, or want to yell and scream, they will be there for you no matter what.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Friday, October 28, 2011
Networking
I had the privilege of attending the launch of the new network called Progressive Roots which I found fantastic, made some great friends, and learned a lot about networking, and hopefully, will land a job within a few weeks God willing.
What I really appreciate about the PRN Group is the target, how they want to help us, and the passion they have to succeed. It has been a long time coming, but for once, we African Canadians and Black Nova Scotians can get jobs that we deserve, and not end up in a below-our-paycheck-type of job. Why should we settle for less, when we deserve more? I enjoyed hearing what some of the people I met were doing. Some are in accounting, some own a business, other's are still in school, finishing degrees, some moved back from here and there, etc. It was a great atmosphere, the location is gorgeous, and I definitely see myself going back there. I am proud of what our city has accomplished, and hope that the other events are just as good. For those that follow my poetry blog as well as this blog, I have some news, I will be a slam poet in an event next Wed and all are invited to come. Even if you have never heard of anything poet, come to enjoy the show, meet new people, and who knows, be inspired. I know I am inspired all the time, so I encourage you. Wed Nov 2, the Company House on Gottingen Street, I am a slam poet and will go up against two other poets, doing a poem from a charitable org of my choice and hoping that the audience marks fairly.
Enjoy what's left of Thursday, and God Bless
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
What I really appreciate about the PRN Group is the target, how they want to help us, and the passion they have to succeed. It has been a long time coming, but for once, we African Canadians and Black Nova Scotians can get jobs that we deserve, and not end up in a below-our-paycheck-type of job. Why should we settle for less, when we deserve more? I enjoyed hearing what some of the people I met were doing. Some are in accounting, some own a business, other's are still in school, finishing degrees, some moved back from here and there, etc. It was a great atmosphere, the location is gorgeous, and I definitely see myself going back there. I am proud of what our city has accomplished, and hope that the other events are just as good. For those that follow my poetry blog as well as this blog, I have some news, I will be a slam poet in an event next Wed and all are invited to come. Even if you have never heard of anything poet, come to enjoy the show, meet new people, and who knows, be inspired. I know I am inspired all the time, so I encourage you. Wed Nov 2, the Company House on Gottingen Street, I am a slam poet and will go up against two other poets, doing a poem from a charitable org of my choice and hoping that the audience marks fairly.
Enjoy what's left of Thursday, and God Bless
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Gone But Not Forgotten
He may have left us on this earth
But he joins our heavenly father up above
The world mourns the loss of a young boy who was just on the verge of discovering life
We pray for the family, friends, and relatives that will have to bury him
No mother should have to endure this pain
I ask that we lift up the family in our prayers, and remind them that God is still with them even in this difficult time.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
But he joins our heavenly father up above
The world mourns the loss of a young boy who was just on the verge of discovering life
We pray for the family, friends, and relatives that will have to bury him
No mother should have to endure this pain
I ask that we lift up the family in our prayers, and remind them that God is still with them even in this difficult time.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
New Discoveries
So, Shihan is one of my fav poets. I used to you tube def peotry jam episodes years ago, and spend nights, days, whenever I had the chance, I would watch old clips. I have so many fav's, but Shihan caught my attention. This Type of Love is a favorite, He also has Flashy words, and a couple of others. I stumbled upon his FB page through another friends page, and discovered that he had his own company so I checked it out and discovered other new artists, and other new artists and it made me wish I worked harder at being a poet. I have slacked and that is not good. These poets are accomplished, internationally known, and have even performed at the White House. THAT is awesome. So one of my goals is to travel to different poetry sites next year. T.O will be the first spot. I want to spend time going to different events, checking out new artists, making new connections, finding old ones, networking and even do some open mic at the events. Of course this will take time to plan, but I am DETERMINED to make it happen. I would love to check out the poetry scene out West as well, and of course, the States, I plan to do my hwk but I hope that the Def Jam stage is still around. I know that Edmonton won this year and that's awesome...I was rooting for Halifax but the best won. I want to be a better poet because this world needs to hear what we have to say, they have to hear what I have to say and that will only happen if I do something about it. I will be posting some videos of poets that I love, feel free to check them out.
I love new discoveries, I enjoy trying new things, there is always a risk, but the risk is worth it sometimes.
Never stop living your passion!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I love new discoveries, I enjoy trying new things, there is always a risk, but the risk is worth it sometimes.
Never stop living your passion!
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Are You A Christian
I have been wondering for the past few years, what defines a Christian. How do you know if you are right with God? And do you think it is the business of others to question where you are with your Faith? Do you ever feel uneasy? unsure? Do you know if you and God are on the same page?
I ask these questions because I have been to so many different churches over the past ten years due to my fathers position as regional minister, and there are many ways you see things. You see the elders complain about how ungrateful the youth are, you see the youth complain about how they are being treated like babies, you see the pastor trying to prevent another shooting in his community, you see a small church with so much power, try to keep youth out of trouble, you see a growing church with lots of people that want to succeed, and grow to love God, you see youth do different events, youth leaders trying to keep youth on track, and you wonder, why do youth decide to leave the church? What is it about church that has our youth saying, "See ya later?" Have churches lost sight of what the real issue may be?
I know the church I go to is a very old fashioned church and the member are mostly between the ages of 4-16, and than 40+. it's a huge concern because the older folk are dying off, while the young people have no respect yet they act like they are bored. It's great to see them in church, but how do we get them to be excited? It's not easy at all, requires a lot of work, patience, prayer, and hope because without either, nothing really gets done on its own. I just want to know if churches are setting youth up to fail, without really giving them a chance, if churches these days are just faking it to make it? Or if churches really do want a stronger generation? I have a lot of reading to do, research, and praying, but I am interested in feedback from anyone religious, non religious, regardless of your back ground, faith, I want to know.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
I ask these questions because I have been to so many different churches over the past ten years due to my fathers position as regional minister, and there are many ways you see things. You see the elders complain about how ungrateful the youth are, you see the youth complain about how they are being treated like babies, you see the pastor trying to prevent another shooting in his community, you see a small church with so much power, try to keep youth out of trouble, you see a growing church with lots of people that want to succeed, and grow to love God, you see youth do different events, youth leaders trying to keep youth on track, and you wonder, why do youth decide to leave the church? What is it about church that has our youth saying, "See ya later?" Have churches lost sight of what the real issue may be?
I know the church I go to is a very old fashioned church and the member are mostly between the ages of 4-16, and than 40+. it's a huge concern because the older folk are dying off, while the young people have no respect yet they act like they are bored. It's great to see them in church, but how do we get them to be excited? It's not easy at all, requires a lot of work, patience, prayer, and hope because without either, nothing really gets done on its own. I just want to know if churches are setting youth up to fail, without really giving them a chance, if churches these days are just faking it to make it? Or if churches really do want a stronger generation? I have a lot of reading to do, research, and praying, but I am interested in feedback from anyone religious, non religious, regardless of your back ground, faith, I want to know.
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Five Things
Tonight in Psychology class, my professor asked us to write down five things each that both men and women want in each other, generally. Than after, he wanted us to label g or b for girl or boy, and our A #, and we gave them in to him. He read all of the papers, and basically stated that research says different about what we want...We are programmed, mentally to want a tall dark and handsome guy, great job, goal oriented, does not live at home, already done school has a car, you know where I am going with this. However, society has deemed, those with only some qualities...Let me not forget that if he is too short, he is deemed weak and unworthy, have we really lost sense of what we were taught? Do we no longer think practical just material? He also has to be rich...
Some women thought that the guy should want an independent woman, but guys want a woman that they can spoil rotten, but still has some sort of life of her own. I lost track a bit...Let me back up...Society has us thinking that short guys cannot make us happy..We all watched Girlfriends, the popular comedy/drama that was canceled a while back, (still hoping and praying that it comes back. It was like the black Sex & The City) Tony Childs, was almost robbed, and a guy, short guy named Todd came to her rescue. She fell in love with him, even though he was short, they made it work.
I myself am still going through changes and understanding that when picking a partner, you need someone that will be able to help you in life, instead of hurt you. If the person is strong, passionate, patient, loves kids, goes to church,very active, etc. Than what is holding you back? Maybe he has no car, but is saving up to buy one that will last...So we pass? Don't be silly ladies.. Men who have too much money, have a great job that they love more than you, spend more time in the mirror than you...Yeah, he is def a keeper. He won't stay with you, maybe for the sex, if it's good...Anyway..
I challenge my followers to ask themselves what they look for in a partner?
Men, be honest with yourselves, women, same to you. You do not have to respond, but think of this as a tiny assignment if you read this. What top five things do you think men want in women, and vice versa? Life partner, loving, sense of humor? Smart/educated, intellect, experienced, well traveled, family oriented, ambitious?
What do you think are the top five things?
Just for fun but we spent almost 45 minutes doing this in class. And of course I paid attention, it was interesting how we think one way, but do another, trained one way, but grow up with minds of our own and begin to discover what matters.
I'm a practical girl, and have grown up understanding that less is more, and I appreciate hard work because it proves results. Of course nothing comes easy, but we will make it. Just have faith, know yourself through God, and everything else falls into place. Do not get me wrong, if a man told me he wanted to take care of me, (It's his job anyway to take care of you, etc, etc...) But remind him that you want to be able to do your own thing too, without feeling controlled, or underestimated.
Lots of love
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
Some women thought that the guy should want an independent woman, but guys want a woman that they can spoil rotten, but still has some sort of life of her own. I lost track a bit...Let me back up...Society has us thinking that short guys cannot make us happy..We all watched Girlfriends, the popular comedy/drama that was canceled a while back, (still hoping and praying that it comes back. It was like the black Sex & The City) Tony Childs, was almost robbed, and a guy, short guy named Todd came to her rescue. She fell in love with him, even though he was short, they made it work.
I myself am still going through changes and understanding that when picking a partner, you need someone that will be able to help you in life, instead of hurt you. If the person is strong, passionate, patient, loves kids, goes to church,very active, etc. Than what is holding you back? Maybe he has no car, but is saving up to buy one that will last...So we pass? Don't be silly ladies.. Men who have too much money, have a great job that they love more than you, spend more time in the mirror than you...Yeah, he is def a keeper. He won't stay with you, maybe for the sex, if it's good...Anyway..
I challenge my followers to ask themselves what they look for in a partner?
Men, be honest with yourselves, women, same to you. You do not have to respond, but think of this as a tiny assignment if you read this. What top five things do you think men want in women, and vice versa? Life partner, loving, sense of humor? Smart/educated, intellect, experienced, well traveled, family oriented, ambitious?
What do you think are the top five things?
Just for fun but we spent almost 45 minutes doing this in class. And of course I paid attention, it was interesting how we think one way, but do another, trained one way, but grow up with minds of our own and begin to discover what matters.
I'm a practical girl, and have grown up understanding that less is more, and I appreciate hard work because it proves results. Of course nothing comes easy, but we will make it. Just have faith, know yourself through God, and everything else falls into place. Do not get me wrong, if a man told me he wanted to take care of me, (It's his job anyway to take care of you, etc, etc...) But remind him that you want to be able to do your own thing too, without feeling controlled, or underestimated.
Lots of love
Signed:
GyftedArtyst
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